Jason, my fiancee, and I have been together for 3 years. We live in the same apartment complex, a couple buildings apart. He lives with 2 other guys, and I live by myself (plus the pups, of course). He moved in with the guys months after they moved in, to replace the other roommate. He is not bound in ANY formal manner to the lease or the apartment.
He is not happy at all. They take his money, eat his food, use his things without asking him. He plays video games professionally, and as the main player and highest paid member of the team, he plays in matches every single day, starting from mid afternoon or early evening to late night to the wee hours of the morning. They guilt trip him because he doesn't hang out with them (I work 10-5, so most of his free time that I'm off is spent with me). They bother him when he's in matches, talk to him, ask him questions, etc. He tells them to leave him alone, and they think it's a joke and keep doing it. They came so close to getting evicted because the guy who pays the bills can NOT handle money and ended up spending all of the rent money on frivolous things, and tried his hardest to get a few hundred more dollars out of Jason. Neither of them have any form of respect, and it goes further than all of this. He's getting depressed from it all. He spends the night at my apartment almost every night because he hates being in his. He was going to move back in with his parents, but they won't let him.
My parents are very anti-moving in before marriage. I'm wishy washy about it. I want to wait until we're married, but I'm not deadset about it. I just absolutely loathe lying to my parents, and I know if they find out they will raise hell. I'm struggling to pay for everything, and I have the bare minimum. I can't afford to do/work on any of the things that I plan on doing in college and for the rest of my life. The dogs are by themselves for 8+ hours a day while I'm at work.
If he moves in with me, he'd pay for half of all of the bills, plus pay for internet (since he needs it for work) and, if he can afford it, cable. He'll help me clean everything (which is a large burden for me, hard to explain), help me cook (which is a major plus, since I hate cooking and he's amazing at it), help me take care of the dogs. He'd be there to keep them company and play with them while I'm at work. I'd be able to get them the extra training they need, I could get Chester started in agility, I could get my foot in back in the door with horses, and really start working on my photography.
Assuming I can talk my parents into being okay with taking care of her just in case Jason can't take her after I go to school in the fall (dorm life), I could even afford to adopt that little Corgi mix that I've fallen for and keep her from getting the needle.
I'd be a whole lot less stressed in general. It wouldn't be for long - just about 6 months or so. I would, however, be a whole lot more stressed because of my parents. Practicality tells me to let him move in with me, logic and knowing my parents tell me not to. And since I'm still a dependent and still very reliant on my parents, and spend a lot of time with them, I do not want them upset with me. Even if I explained all of this to them, I'm 98% sure they still wouldn't approve.
Sorry this is so long. Any advice?
He is not happy at all. They take his money, eat his food, use his things without asking him. He plays video games professionally, and as the main player and highest paid member of the team, he plays in matches every single day, starting from mid afternoon or early evening to late night to the wee hours of the morning. They guilt trip him because he doesn't hang out with them (I work 10-5, so most of his free time that I'm off is spent with me). They bother him when he's in matches, talk to him, ask him questions, etc. He tells them to leave him alone, and they think it's a joke and keep doing it. They came so close to getting evicted because the guy who pays the bills can NOT handle money and ended up spending all of the rent money on frivolous things, and tried his hardest to get a few hundred more dollars out of Jason. Neither of them have any form of respect, and it goes further than all of this. He's getting depressed from it all. He spends the night at my apartment almost every night because he hates being in his. He was going to move back in with his parents, but they won't let him.
My parents are very anti-moving in before marriage. I'm wishy washy about it. I want to wait until we're married, but I'm not deadset about it. I just absolutely loathe lying to my parents, and I know if they find out they will raise hell. I'm struggling to pay for everything, and I have the bare minimum. I can't afford to do/work on any of the things that I plan on doing in college and for the rest of my life. The dogs are by themselves for 8+ hours a day while I'm at work.
If he moves in with me, he'd pay for half of all of the bills, plus pay for internet (since he needs it for work) and, if he can afford it, cable. He'll help me clean everything (which is a large burden for me, hard to explain), help me cook (which is a major plus, since I hate cooking and he's amazing at it), help me take care of the dogs. He'd be there to keep them company and play with them while I'm at work. I'd be able to get them the extra training they need, I could get Chester started in agility, I could get my foot in back in the door with horses, and really start working on my photography.
Assuming I can talk my parents into being okay with taking care of her just in case Jason can't take her after I go to school in the fall (dorm life), I could even afford to adopt that little Corgi mix that I've fallen for and keep her from getting the needle.
I'd be a whole lot less stressed in general. It wouldn't be for long - just about 6 months or so. I would, however, be a whole lot more stressed because of my parents. Practicality tells me to let him move in with me, logic and knowing my parents tell me not to. And since I'm still a dependent and still very reliant on my parents, and spend a lot of time with them, I do not want them upset with me. Even if I explained all of this to them, I'm 98% sure they still wouldn't approve.
Sorry this is so long. Any advice?
