That's better than I could have phrased it. Honestly, not one of the requirements listed in the original post bothers me other than the random visits after adoption (and I suspect that, as someone mentioned, that's more of an emergency thing than a regular occurrence - but I still wouldn't do that). The lies I've seen from potential adopters blows my mind. My friend had a dog listed as no kids. The person filled out the application with no children listed. Sounded great, showed up to meet the dog...with two young kids in tow. Because the people "were sure the dog would be fine with their kids". Mind you, they had never met the dog. They could have very easily have shown up without the kids for the visit and gone home with the dog to their kids. As for references - ask people at school? I served as a reference recently for someone at work, who I don't know at all outside of work. I was clear to the rescue about that, but was able to say that I'd worked with the guy a bit, found him responsible, had seen his current dog once at a company picnic and it was in good condition. It doesn't need to be a soulmate to be able to say "yes, this person is who they say they are". I've seen enough breeder dogs end up in terrible situations that some days I think the breeders are the ones who need to step up their game in terms of placement.