**gets on her soap box**
this is for all the young mothers out there who think they can not or will not make it.. i was a young mother, i graduated high school June 2nd 1993 and my son was born June 20th 1994... yes, i agree with some of you on here when you say "she is too young, she has her whole life ahead of her blah blah blah..., but, what i think alot of you are missing is the fact that she should have every right to have a baby, ALOT of people have children at young ages,( my cousin had her first child at 16 was married, then divorced by choice, remarried and now has 3 beatiful children and does wonderful).. life is a struggle with or without children. when i was 19 i had a very very tough choice, the father of my baby walked out on me ( just like another poster on here did) and YES it was very very hard, i had to find day care i had to go to work ( which i did 6 weeks after he was born) and i have been working ever since then.
my point is this, what right does anyone have to say that this person can or can not have children??? who do you all think you are?? just because she is young, has nothing to do with having/wanting children. back in the day 16 was TOO old to have children OMG, you were considered an Grandmother by then ( right grammy? no offense), but, some how, some way, they all made it today. my mom had me when she was just shy of 21 and she struggled each and every day, my dad was serving in the military back then OVERSEAS, she had no one to comfort, yet alone help her get thru it.
AZ, i back you up 110% if YOU think you are ready to have a child then GO FOR IT!! you never know what tomorrow will bring, you sound like you have wonderful head on your shoulders, and you will make a great mom! from what i have read about you, you take the negative things that people say and prove them ALL wrong!! way to go girl...
the reason i say this is because of Nancy stated she crammed all the info into her daughters head, and now look what happened she is preggers, unmarried, and no job?? so, what does this teach us?? the more we tell young people not to, they are going to. maybe i am saying this because with my mom, we were so open with one another, i was able to come to her at anytime and aske anything. H@LL at one point she was taking me to buy TOYS and sexy clothes, then a MOVIE!! OMG, i soo thank her for all the things she has taught me. it is because of her, that my son ( now 13 years old) i can handle very comfortably, if i had anyone of you has my parent, i would have ran away, got married and never talked to you again.
in closing, i think what young people need is MORE support, more understanding anD LESS nagging, complaining and finger pointing. because, all of us were there at one point or another.. could i care less you agree with me or not? nope, because if i had to do my life over again i would do it the same way everyday!!
AZ, there are several places you can go to get help ( food, clothes, diapers,) let me know if you need anything and i will listen with open ears!
this is for all the young mothers out there who think they can not or will not make it.. i was a young mother, i graduated high school June 2nd 1993 and my son was born June 20th 1994... yes, i agree with some of you on here when you say "she is too young, she has her whole life ahead of her blah blah blah..., but, what i think alot of you are missing is the fact that she should have every right to have a baby, ALOT of people have children at young ages,( my cousin had her first child at 16 was married, then divorced by choice, remarried and now has 3 beatiful children and does wonderful).. life is a struggle with or without children. when i was 19 i had a very very tough choice, the father of my baby walked out on me ( just like another poster on here did) and YES it was very very hard, i had to find day care i had to go to work ( which i did 6 weeks after he was born) and i have been working ever since then.
my point is this, what right does anyone have to say that this person can or can not have children??? who do you all think you are?? just because she is young, has nothing to do with having/wanting children. back in the day 16 was TOO old to have children OMG, you were considered an Grandmother by then ( right grammy? no offense), but, some how, some way, they all made it today. my mom had me when she was just shy of 21 and she struggled each and every day, my dad was serving in the military back then OVERSEAS, she had no one to comfort, yet alone help her get thru it.
AZ, i back you up 110% if YOU think you are ready to have a child then GO FOR IT!! you never know what tomorrow will bring, you sound like you have wonderful head on your shoulders, and you will make a great mom! from what i have read about you, you take the negative things that people say and prove them ALL wrong!! way to go girl...
the reason i say this is because of Nancy stated she crammed all the info into her daughters head, and now look what happened she is preggers, unmarried, and no job?? so, what does this teach us?? the more we tell young people not to, they are going to. maybe i am saying this because with my mom, we were so open with one another, i was able to come to her at anytime and aske anything. H@LL at one point she was taking me to buy TOYS and sexy clothes, then a MOVIE!! OMG, i soo thank her for all the things she has taught me. it is because of her, that my son ( now 13 years old) i can handle very comfortably, if i had anyone of you has my parent, i would have ran away, got married and never talked to you again.
in closing, i think what young people need is MORE support, more understanding anD LESS nagging, complaining and finger pointing. because, all of us were there at one point or another.. could i care less you agree with me or not? nope, because if i had to do my life over again i would do it the same way everyday!!
AZ, there are several places you can go to get help ( food, clothes, diapers,) let me know if you need anything and i will listen with open ears!
You're also basically telling her to go on welfare and get help with things for a planned baby... which if you can't afford diapers and food, you should not be planning a baby.
You wound up pregnant at 18 years of age, and you said that because your mom bought you sex toys ( :yikes: ) that made you more responsible?! Ahhh... I really don't know what I can say to this.
back in the day 16 was TOO old to have children OMG, you were considered an Grandmother by then ( right grammy? no offense), but, some how, some way, they all made it today.
And bringing Nancy into the situation? Way to go completely off base. Nancy's daughter will be bringing a child into a STABLE home life, and will have a lot of help from LOVING grandparents. Which isn't the situation that the OP is in. And another member's life is quite frankly something that should not be brought into a thread which has nothing to do with her.
Your post infuriated me so much that I had to reply at 1:23am. Your advice is always so classy and helpful.