The Venting Thread

OR ... perhaps that just want to vent? I mean this is the venting thread, though I can understand their frustration and hurt feelings, I myself get hurt when I go the the trouble to post pics of my dog (copying and pasting from photobucket can be a pain nowadays with all their adds and the lag they produce) and no one comments or views it, if can be disappointing.

Here's how I see it.

It can be exciting to get replies on photo threads but for me, who sometimes posted bouts of spiffed up Nina photos on any given forum, I just enjoyed sharing what we'd been doing recently. I liked response but it wasn't a big factor. And that's a very human thing to want gratification especially in a group, in this case a forum.

And I read people's photo thread but to me its redundant - and this is why I never minded not getting even any replies at all - to just repeatedly go around going "cute doggy! Good doggy! Handsome fido!" I read, watch, and enjoy, but generally don't feel the need to respond "verbally" unless something really spectacular was going on in the thread. But it doesn't mean they all go unnoticed.

Anyway, I, and I think a lot of dog people, go on these forums, are here to share ideas, training, learning, breed info, more than anything else. Replies on a photo thread are a miniscule part of the experience I seek on pet forums.

It can definitely be tedious to post "Cute dog" or "nice pics" etc after 50 other people posted the exact same thing

BUT on the flip side....

maybe if you see there are no comments at all after how ever many views, a simple "Very cute" would go a long way

but I'm not one to talk. I almost never go to the photos thread.

That doesn't make sense. If you are leaving a forum, just leave. You post that you're leaving because you want the attention & you want people to beg you to stay. And if you have an issue with photobucket, change to something that isn't as terrible. There, problem solved.

Just throwing in my 2 cents... but I think it's not only attention seeking, but pretty rude to have a fairly agressive "vent" about the people of a forum, while actually in the forum. Calling it cliquey certainly wasn't a compliment.

And for what it's worth, I always come on and click the "new posts" button. I never saw your thread. I probably would have commented on it, just because it's nice. I usually do whenever I see them, just to show that I do care. I think it's a pretty far stretch to say that someone not commenting on a photo thread means that no one cares about you or dogs.

But I can see why someone would see this forum as cliquey, because it kind of is. But she might not have meant it like a jab at the forum, I dont know since I am not her and I dont mean to speak for her, but maybe she just had a bit of feelings hurt or whatever.

I get disappointed when people dont visit my pic threads, I dont want to leave the forum over it, but again, everyone is different and reacts to things differently.

eh, I get a bit sad or frustrated when I post a photo thread and get pretty much no response and them another has pages.....BUT I also realize that I am horrible about responding to photo threads myself. I look and THINK of responses but often don't get around to posting them. It's really not a sign of anything bigger.....I wouldn't call it cliquey but I understand the vibe here that can kind of make it seem that way on the surface.

or they were trying to be part of the community and were turned away by the cliqueishness of the members and open hostility slash mob mentality.

Photo threads rarely get a lot of comments. Someone gets their feelings hurt about it every so often, people try to comment more for awhile, and then it falls off. It's like the sun rising in the east and setting in the west. There just really isn't much to say the vast majority of the time.

I think if the culture of a board isn't your cup of tea, or if you're a relatively new or non-posting user, then that isn't the same as the other members being cliquish. The more you post, the better people get to know you, the more likely they are to interact with you in return. And I've never understood flouncing, anyway. If I'm going to stop using a board, I just stop using it?

Flounce memes are always fun though!

Dogdragoness, TheDarkestMinds, and Frostfell have never once commented on one of my picture threads. I am hurt at how cliquey they are. I try and try to be part of this community but they and their cliques won't let me.

Flounce 3/10 would not read again.

I think it's misleading because she's actually been a member here a long time, but it's a new user name. But it's easy to forget who used to use what name, at least for me.

I went to go find a Stefon reaction GIF but then I found this and I don't even care anymore.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/perpetua/which-stefon-club-are-you#.cexn1OdEk

This is my exact routine every time I visit this forum.
If I don't comment, it's because I don't have enough experience to suggest a solution to a training or behavioral problem. Not because I don't care. I've actually watched a few dogs on this forum grow up.

If anything I'd say when there is a thread posted asking for help, those posts always get the most responses. No matter who posts them. That's the main reason I frequent this forum, to learn from other's experiences. I don't look at the pictures until it's late in the night and I'm bored or can't sleep. By that point I'm feeling too "meh" to reply.

Yup, this.

I also agree with lostandconfused. If you don't like it here, just leave, don't make a show of it in a thread ALOT of people read/respond to.

When you stop posting for years at a time, people will forget you, forget your dogs, and you're basically returning to a forum full of strangers and distanced acquaintances. It happens. I bet most people who haven't been here for 5+ years couldn't tell me the name of my dog and therefore probably wouldn't care enough to post on a thread about her, because I stopped posting like a maniac years ago.

I literally grew up on this forum, and that changes nothing. If you don't take the time to immerse yourself in an online community, you won't be a part of it. It shouldn't be hurtful, it's just sensible.

I remember you Sam and I wish we heard from you more!

I never said that it bothered ME a lot when ppl dont reply to my pic threads, I said I could understand WHY it WOULD bother someone to the point where they felt compelled to vent about it.

Like it or not she has a right to have her piece before she flounces.

And people have the right to say their piece about her piece.

See how that works?

I have so many pieces to say about pieces right now. And my heart is in little flouncy pieces.

Last week my co-worker came in to work sick. I overheard her telling her dad on the phone she had a fever. The rules are if you are vomiting, have diarrhea, or running a fever, you are contagious, so DO NOT COME TO WORK... and she came to work running a fever anyway.

Friday on my way to the agility trial I started feeling sick.
Saturday woke up feeling like I was sick but figured it might have been just crappy humidity in the hotel room I stayed in...
Yesterday, yes, 100% absolutely sick. I had a feeling I was going to show up to work and my third co-worker was also going to be sick, because if she got ME sick, more than likely she got him sick too.

Sure enough, he came into work and sat down and asked me a question and I was like "...are you sick too?"
"Yeah."
"I knew it. She got us both sick."
"Yeah, I spent my entire weekend cursing her."


It's actually kind of humorous because we are speaking in the same low, sickly, congested voice. And neither of us have been able to sleep, so we're also both quite sleep deprived. Humorous and horrible. I'm so bloody exhausted.