I hate bimbos
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Did I ever say it was the duty of the members on here to make me feel welcome/that I fit in? In fact I really haven't fit in to most any group for most of my life, even my family. I don't really aim to please and if I do not fit in/get readily accepted it doesn't really bother me very much.
I'll keep the rest of your points in mind and will reserve comment about the self improvement thing.
I do know the meaning of the words I use - if a phrase seems misplaced here or there now and again I can elaborate on why. Like I said, I'll keep your points in mind though.
I'll keep the rest of your points in mind and will reserve comment about the self improvement thing.
I do know the meaning of the words I use - if a phrase seems misplaced here or there now and again I can elaborate on why. Like I said, I'll keep your points in mind though.
For the record, I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and was on antidepressants. It did take me years to get out of it. And I will be honest it was mostly an attitude change that got me out of it. Focusing on the good and being more proactive about my life.
I'm NOT trying to preach. But I hate when people decide just because of ____ then I have never struggled in my life or never been unhappy. I still struggle with some things, even daily. Changing my attitude was the best thing I could have ever done. It still catches me more often than I'd like. But there is a lot of progress and I feel more coming.
Even when I was suffering from severe depression, I never showed it to people outside. I was always smiley, friendly, bubbly, and happy LOOKING. But I really wasn't. It's a very big assumption to think they have never experienced true unhappiness.
I'm NOT trying to preach. But I hate when people decide just because of ____ then I have never struggled in my life or never been unhappy. I still struggle with some things, even daily. Changing my attitude was the best thing I could have ever done. It still catches me more often than I'd like. But there is a lot of progress and I feel more coming.
Even when I was suffering from severe depression, I never showed it to people outside. I was always smiley, friendly, bubbly, and happy LOOKING. But I really wasn't. It's a very big assumption to think they have never experienced true unhappiness.
Totally me on the phone. I get so panicked cause I'm talking on a phone that hell if I can remember what I was asked, or who I was calling for, or why I was calling.
Anyone else a bit put off by "redefining" words?
No, no when I say Cheetah I mean ---->
No, no when I say Cheetah I mean ---->
You're silly. The problem is everybody else, not oneself!
OMG the art student saying he/she’s so deep no one will understand them. Argh!!! That’s such a trigger for me! I grew up with far too many of those “I’m so unique, set apart from other humans” folks. If you’re so **** unique, why are there so many of you!!
IME people who suffer from “terminal uniqueness” very often are suffering from the legacy of a dysfunctional family. Not cute/quirky/fun dysfunction, but destructive, abusive dysfunction. Its also a cluster B personality disorder characteristic. Its a form of denial that is very destructive because it prevents the sufferer from seeking help, or trying to change anything.
This blog post came up when I googled terminal uniqueness to try and explain what it is, this section pretty much sums it up:
http://motherhooddeleted.blogspot.com/2011/05/angst-drama-and-our-terminal-uniqueness.html
IME people who suffer from “terminal uniqueness” very often are suffering from the legacy of a dysfunctional family. Not cute/quirky/fun dysfunction, but destructive, abusive dysfunction. Its also a cluster B personality disorder characteristic. Its a form of denial that is very destructive because it prevents the sufferer from seeking help, or trying to change anything.
This blog post came up when I googled terminal uniqueness to try and explain what it is, this section pretty much sums it up:
http://motherhooddeleted.blogspot.com/2011/05/angst-drama-and-our-terminal-uniqueness.html
See and the post wasn't an attack. It was an honest comment from seeing your many many threads the last while. You seem unhappy (with some good reason), to dislike happiness in others, to like to say stuff just to get a reaction (your own words) and that people have to take you as you are as you cant' change. The constant need to push buttons and boundaries. The lack of ability to seem to sit back and go hmmm yes I can see what that person is seeing in me, whether I agree or not.
As stated in another thread, you come across in most threads as if you were about 14. Now if you seemed happy with that, then have at it. But you don't seem happy. You seem to be struggling a bit. Again this is all from what I have seen you post. I do know people in real life here who are VERY different on a forum. But since I have never met you I can only go by the myriad of posts you have typed.
Really have a good honest look at some of the posts on this thread. "Stop digging your own hole" (Love that one Puck.... omg did hell just freeze over?) or the you are not unique, and if the whole world is the problem perhaps look at the common feature, you. I would bet people aren't saying this to pick on you or be 'mean' but because they have noticed over your posts the same things.
Chaz is a great community and you might not feel that you haven't been welcomed.. but just wait till you ARE.
As stated in another thread, you come across in most threads as if you were about 14. Now if you seemed happy with that, then have at it. But you don't seem happy. You seem to be struggling a bit. Again this is all from what I have seen you post. I do know people in real life here who are VERY different on a forum. But since I have never met you I can only go by the myriad of posts you have typed.
Really have a good honest look at some of the posts on this thread. "Stop digging your own hole" (Love that one Puck.... omg did hell just freeze over
?) or the you are not unique, and if the whole world is the problem perhaps look at the common feature, you. I would bet people aren't saying this to pick on you or be 'mean' but because they have noticed over your posts the same things.Chaz is a great community and you might not feel that you haven't been welcomed.. but just wait till you ARE.
I did not take it as such and will reserve comment about the rest.
Again - your points have been noted.
Indeed I am very unhappy in life - I have issues, I am aware of them - and I am trying to deal.
I didn't say that Chaz wasn't a wonderful community and I have felt very fairly treated here and welcomed actually.
Again - your points have been noted.
Indeed I am very unhappy in life - I have issues, I am aware of them - and I am trying to deal.
I didn't say that Chaz wasn't a wonderful community and I have felt very fairly treated here and welcomed actually.
See and the post wasn't an attack. It was an honest comment from seeing your many many threads the last while. You seem unhappy (with some good reason), to dislike happiness in others, to like to say stuff just to get a reaction (your own words) and that people have to take you as you are as you cant' change. The constant need to push buttons and boundaries. The lack of ability to seem to sit back and go hmmm yes I can see what that person is seeing in me, whether I agree or not.
As stated in another thread, you come across in most threads as if you were about 14. Now if you seemed happy with that, then have at it. But you don't seem happy. You seem to be struggling a bit. Again this is all from what I have seen you post. I do know people in real life here who are VERY different on a forum. But since I have never met you I can only go by the myriad of posts you have typed.
Really have a good honest look at some of the posts on this thread. "Stop digging your own hole" (Love that one Puck.... omg did hell just freeze over?) or the you are not unique, and if the whole world is the problem perhaps look at the common feature, you. I would bet people aren't saying this to pick on you or be 'mean' but because they have noticed over your posts the same things.
Chaz is a great community and you might not feel that you haven't been welcomed.. but just wait till you ARE.
As stated in another thread, you come across in most threads as if you were about 14. Now if you seemed happy with that, then have at it. But you don't seem happy. You seem to be struggling a bit. Again this is all from what I have seen you post. I do know people in real life here who are VERY different on a forum. But since I have never met you I can only go by the myriad of posts you have typed.
Really have a good honest look at some of the posts on this thread. "Stop digging your own hole" (Love that one Puck.... omg did hell just freeze over
?) or the you are not unique, and if the whole world is the problem perhaps look at the common feature, you. I would bet people aren't saying this to pick on you or be 'mean' but because they have noticed over your posts the same things.Chaz is a great community and you might not feel that you haven't been welcomed.. but just wait till you ARE.
For me, it really DOES take less energy to be a happy person. As cheesy as it sounds, it IS contagious.
For instance, a woman was walking from her car this morning carrying a coffee, a briefcase, a purse, a lunch bag, and was struggling with everything. I offered to open the door to her office for her, and she was SO appreciative. In turn, that made ME happy that something so small could make someone so happy.
My dogs really set the precedent for how I want to live... they're always so happy about the smallest things. One of Rylie's nicknames is Smiley Rylie.
Look at all of the happiness from the past couple of weekends!
hike 15 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
hike 10 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
dirty rory 2 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
Tanya's example of giving Hannah gifts REALLY put a smile on my face. She posted about how a relative gave her some brochures, and she was appreciative and EXCITED about them. If you give her a penny, she treasures it because it is a gift from someone. I wish more people were like this! That just shows pure happiness.
For instance, a woman was walking from her car this morning carrying a coffee, a briefcase, a purse, a lunch bag, and was struggling with everything. I offered to open the door to her office for her, and she was SO appreciative. In turn, that made ME happy that something so small could make someone so happy.
My dogs really set the precedent for how I want to live... they're always so happy about the smallest things. One of Rylie's nicknames is Smiley Rylie.
Look at all of the happiness from the past couple of weekends!
hike 15 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
hike 10 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
dirty rory 2 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
Tanya's example of giving Hannah gifts REALLY put a smile on my face. She posted about how a relative gave her some brochures, and she was appreciative and EXCITED about them. If you give her a penny, she treasures it because it is a gift from someone. I wish more people were like this! That just shows pure happiness.
YAY QUOTE TIME!
“I look out the window and I see the lights and the skyline and the people on the street rushing around looking for action, love, and the world's greatest chocolate chip cookie, and my heart does a little dance.â€
- Nora Ephron
“At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe that there is much more good in it than bad. All you have to do is look hard enough. and what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may in fact be the first steps of a journey.â€
- Lemony Snicket
“Happiness depends upon ourselves.â€
― Aristotle
“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride in knowing that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.â€
— Kurt Vonnegut
“It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.â€
― F. Scott Fitzgerald
“People tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will descend like fine weather if you're fortunate. But happiness is the result of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly.â€
― Elizabeth Gilbert
“Do not allow people to dim your shine because they are blinded. Tell them to put on some sunglasses, cuz we were born this way bitch!â€
― Lady Gaga
“I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks.â€
― Dalai Lama XIV
“The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pendants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist: a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain.â€
― Ursula K. Le Guin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas
“All I ask is one thing, and I’m asking this particularly of young people: please don’t be cynical. I hate cynicism, for the record, it’s my least favorite quality and it doesn’t lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen.â€
― Conan O'Brien
“The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.â€
― Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project
"Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy."
— Guillaume Apollinaire
“I look out the window and I see the lights and the skyline and the people on the street rushing around looking for action, love, and the world's greatest chocolate chip cookie, and my heart does a little dance.â€
- Nora Ephron
“At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe that there is much more good in it than bad. All you have to do is look hard enough. and what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may in fact be the first steps of a journey.â€
- Lemony Snicket
“Happiness depends upon ourselves.â€
― Aristotle
“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride in knowing that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.â€
— Kurt Vonnegut
“It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.â€
― F. Scott Fitzgerald
“People tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will descend like fine weather if you're fortunate. But happiness is the result of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly.â€
― Elizabeth Gilbert
“Do not allow people to dim your shine because they are blinded. Tell them to put on some sunglasses, cuz we were born this way bitch!â€
― Lady Gaga
“I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks.â€
― Dalai Lama XIV
“The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pendants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist: a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain.â€
― Ursula K. Le Guin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas
“All I ask is one thing, and I’m asking this particularly of young people: please don’t be cynical. I hate cynicism, for the record, it’s my least favorite quality and it doesn’t lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen.â€
― Conan O'Brien
“The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high. He seems self-sufficient; he becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.â€
― Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project
"Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy."
— Guillaume Apollinaire
And one more picture, since rolling in the grass is pure bliss for Rory!
20120322-DSC_6570 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
20120322-DSC_6570 by Chihuahuaesque, on Flickr
I just want to say it's a false dichotomy to say someone is either a happy person or an unhappy person, or that someone either acts happy all the time or acts gloomy all the time. Gotta be careful with that, it's as much of a judgment as "happy people are bimbos."
Because while this
Is usually pretty much this
Sometimes this
Is this
And every once in awhile this
Is even this
Just sayin'.
Because while this
Is usually pretty much this
Sometimes this
Is this
And every once in awhile this
Is even this
Just sayin'.