She has to go back.

My dad is tired of her running from him all day long. I told him to ignore her, don't talk to her, don't call her, just let her come to him when she's ready, and he said "I've tried that!" He thinks ignoring her for a few hours is going to do the trick. He doesn't get it so he isn't willing to work with her.
he's finally had enough and she has to go.


crap. i'm crying.

I'm so sorry

Sorry Beanie

Tell him no. Honestly, that is what I would do!

Oh no. I'm sorry. You've really been through the emotional wringer.

Oh, Beanie . . . (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))

and a whack on the back of the head for your dad and a "grow the F up!." Seriously. How difficult is it for a GROWN MAN to ignore a little dog for awhile?

I'm trying to think of all the annoying things she does and all the reasons why I don't like her and all I can think is that I love her. my heart is breaking. I probably should have sent her back a long time ago and saved myself all this.

Would your Dad be open to trying a tether or a catch line before she goes back?

{{Hugs}}

I'm so sorry

I am so sorry, Beanie.

Wow...that's terrible. I would definitely tell him that your don't respect his issues with responsibility, giving up, and abandonment. So sorry for your loss.

FIGHT THE SYSTEM!!! Honestly Pepper looks as if she belongs with you, sit down and have a serious talk with your dad. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that he needs to work on it and if he doesn't want to then he can simply forget the dog exists. It's not his dog, he doesn't need to like her.

So sorry, Beanie. I have the same problem with Riley and my dad - Riley gives him the whale eye and skirts away from him whenever he tries to pet him. It hurts Dad's feelings, because he likes dogs, so I wonder if that's part of what your dad is feeling?

Still, I had a dog who had the same issues with men when I lived at home, and while the dog never completely accepted Dad, they did learn to get along eventually. Have you maybe tried giving your dad the analogy that the dog is afraid of spiders and right now, he looks like one big scary spider? You can't force someone not to be afraid of spiders by putting one in their face and that's what he's doing to her. My dad is not a patient man but even he learned to ignore the dog and let him approach when he felt ready and it all worked out.

I'm sorry!!

My Dad's not too crazy about Bailey, either... So I sort of know how you must feel
(((((((hugs))))))))

I know it's nice to think I could argue with him but that's not how it works in this house... she's not his dog, but this is his house. He just doesn't understand that flooding her won't work, and that it won't happen overnight. He just... doesn't get it.

I'm so sorry. Parents really suck sometimes. I always hated the rules I had at home when it came to pets; Always seemed terribly unfair.
I'm sure she'll end up with someone who loves her just as much as you do. Where does she have to go back to? Would you be able to stay in touch with her new owners?

Ouch, really sorry to hear that. Why is he so insistent that she should like him though? Why does he want her to like him? I am thinking that if he really wanted her acceptance that much, he would hold out until he got it, if he got it that is.

Chaz is here for you, to console you through the loss.

Could you temp rehome her until you can move out or something?

No advice... I know where you're coming from and I know you've tried all you can try.

((((HUGS)))) I'm just gonna send you big vibes that everything turns out positively for everyone.