Wishes of remains *after* death

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  1. AllieMackie

    AllieMackie Wookie Collie

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    I'm a signed organ donor. Past that IDGAF. :) Harvest me, mourn me, move on.
     
  2. RD

    RD Are you dead yet?

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    Donate as much of me as I can, then burn it up. Don't care where they put the ashes. I'd like to be a tree like Fran posted, but only if my family didn't know what tree I was. If the tree died it'd really mess with them. :/
     
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    Donate what can be used. Past that, I would love to be cremated and then taken on Shore to Shore in Michigan, being scattered along the way.

    Whether or not that will happen, I do not know. But that is what I like to think will happen. :)

    And... taking pictures of a dead body is just nasty, unless for CSI work. Still creepy, but needed creepy.
     
  4. sparks19

    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    I suppose taking photos of a dead body seems weird but everyone grieves in their own way so if my family needed to have that experience I would have them put me on display however they wanted. My greatest wish upon mydeath is nit what they do with my shell but that my family can find some peace
     
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    sillysally Obey the Toad.

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    A friend's husband died suddenly a few months ago, and someone in his family took a couple of pictures. I don't think it's creepy really, just not how I'd like to remember someone. My grandpa and grandma's funerals were very traumatic for me as I was quite close to them. That's not something I have any desire to relive through photos.
     
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    BWUAHAHAHAAA!!!! Or mutated. How cool would that be?
     
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    I am an organ donor and I would like to be cremated.

    When it comes down to it, though, I am okay with whatever best brings peace to my family.
     
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    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    There are families that have stillborn babies that request to have photos done. Would I? I have no idea. I don't want to even imagine that kind of grief let alone how i would handle it. I likely would not have taken photos of my grandfather when he passed but if my grandmother needed that More power to her.
     
  9. sillysally

    sillysally Obey the Toad.

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    I've heard of that too. I can't say exactly what I would do in that aweful situation, but my instinct says I would not want a photo like that. I can't fault those that grieve that way though.
     
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    I know you weren't trying to be funny but that just seems like a perfect event for a dark comedy.
     
  11. StephyMei1112

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    A snapshot or two of the body for personal reasons of comfort if one is comforted by that sort of thing I can understand. But full out photo-ops with family members and people POSING with the corpse? I'm sorry - I find it really vulgar, distasteful, disrespectful, and truly grotesque (who am I to say what is grotesque though after I just posted about liking to chew scabs though...?). My grandmother whom I wrote about in my latest post on my blog was subject to such photo shoots at her funeral...it was open casket - and there was a come-one-come-all body viewing the previous evening. I made it clear I was unhappy with it - and Lord knows grandma wouldn't have been happy about it either.

     
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    I have no issue with photographing a dead body, nor posing with it. Cultures are weird and varied, even when I don't understand.

    The body farm is a research facility having to do with the decomposition of bodies.
     
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    There were people who came into my grandfather's funeral who didn't even know him -- and they took photos! I was seething. He would have run them out -- at gunpoint if necessary, and none of his children said a word, I had to tell them to leave. And I took their film.
     
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    Ah, funerals and talking about my and my families wishes are probably talked about daily. My boyfriend and I, both funeral directors, keep an open dialog about it. Sometimes funny, sometimes serious but you have to have some sort of sense of humor when dealing with sadness and loss on a daily basis. I think I'd rather be buried.

    There is value with laying a body out for visitation. We even have visitations without embalming (dry ice, visitation within 24 hours) and there are new , less invasive techniques being used. Embalming doesn't have to be the scary, surgical, preserve for 1000 years process anymore. We tell families that it's an IV of water, some dye and enough preservative to halt any decomp processes for a few days but leaves the body very natural.

    Cremation can also take place after services are held. And at our funeral home we treat cremation & burial exactly the same -- we set appointment times for both and invite families to go to the crematory and cemetery. We eventually would like to have a crematory that we can go in procession to, as over half of all people are choosing cremation and it adds that element of taking and carrying your loved one to that final place.

    I have yet to witness photo shoots with the dead, but there are some people that do take pictures. We have people asking us all the time if it's appropriate (they want to but don't want to look morbid).

    None of the options are great - cremation, donation, burial or entombment. They all have pros and cons. In the end, the dead don't care & it's up to the survivors to choose what they need to do. Even with organ donation & cremation you have to have your next of kin's permission even if you've written down your wishes.
     
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    My brother says he wants us to tote his body around like weekend at Bernie's lol
     
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