What do I do??
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I would ask as many hard questions you can about the dog. how long have you had your dog? do you know some of her personality quirks? Does she have any other defining markings? I would send questions asking this woman what her dogs personality was like and if she knew any other personal things about the dog. If it seems to check out this was most likely her dog.
Now where to go from there im not sure. Maybe ask if she has a picture of her dog (which is your dog now) and compare that with your dog. See how closely the picture compares to your dog.
Ask her where her exfiance took the dog to be adopted out. What shelter...
If its the same shelter there is anouther clue this is probley was her dog.
Now if it all checks out and it was once her dog thats up to you wether you give her back to her. I don't know how long you have had your dog so I don't know how closely you are bonded. I say listen to your heart when it comes down to it. And do what you think is best. But check out this person really well before any other decision is made.
Now where to go from there im not sure. Maybe ask if she has a picture of her dog (which is your dog now) and compare that with your dog. See how closely the picture compares to your dog.
Ask her where her exfiance took the dog to be adopted out. What shelter...
If its the same shelter there is anouther clue this is probley was her dog.
Now if it all checks out and it was once her dog thats up to you wether you give her back to her. I don't know how long you have had your dog so I don't know how closely you are bonded. I say listen to your heart when it comes down to it. And do what you think is best. But check out this person really well before any other decision is made.
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Personally, I wouldn't really indulge this person. There are too many people who are just out to take advantage of people, especially your dog being a pitty breed.
I wouldn't be rude, just tell her that she is your dog now, that they adopted out to you and she is well cared for and loved. That you're sorry she had to give her up, be caring about how hard it must've been, but that if it was her, could she really expect you to give up a dog that you've cared so much for and that you gave your heart to so easily?
That's just me though, listen to what you're feeling. And, above all, be VERY careful about this!
I wouldn't be rude, just tell her that she is your dog now, that they adopted out to you and she is well cared for and loved. That you're sorry she had to give her up, be caring about how hard it must've been, but that if it was her, could she really expect you to give up a dog that you've cared so much for and that you gave your heart to so easily?
That's just me though, listen to what you're feeling. And, above all, be VERY careful about this!
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I have often thought about this with Smokey, who was found on an Interstate in Atlanta. What if she just got away from someone on a trip and they couldn't catch her? She is so well behaved and trained, I can't imagine anyone just dumping her. I have decided that it has been a year and a half since she was brought to the shelter and I have had her for 6 months, and there is no way I am going to give her to anyone now.
Yes, go carefully . I know if it was my dog I'd do anything to get it back . True story . I knew someone who found a Golden at a rest stop . He took it home but couldn't find owner . Six months later the dog left . Three months later he got a call from the original owner ( through the dogs new tags ) three states over. The dog found his way home . Seems that there was a car crash and the dog got away . Fast forward .... the owners called my friend to say the Golden has disappeared again . Believe it or not it made it's way back to Indiana !! Long story short ..... the owners told him to keep the dog. The wreck had killed the Golden's 9 year old master and the Golden didn't want to leave the area.
I would probably just send her an email back with "I'm very sorry that you had to give up your dog, that had to have been tough. If our dogs really are the 'same' then know that she's being incredibly loved and well-cared for and I wish you luck in finding a new dog. I just can't give up my sweet baby after all this time!"
This is also why I refuse to put my dog up on Dogster...too many people in real life have wanted him.
This is also why I refuse to put my dog up on Dogster...too many people in real life have wanted him.
i had someone try and tell me Dodger was STOLEN from them 2 months ago and that they were gonna call the cops to get him back...i responded to them by saying well how if he was stolen 2 months ago have i had him for over 6 months now...
then of course i was a lier, and they ACTUALLY called the police who actually did come over. luckily i had proof, all his shot records and the vet record form the day after he arrived. They were absolutly certain id stolen dodger from them, luckily all the records and vetwork proved to the police he wasnt. they still sned me emails occiasinally threatening there gonna come and take him...
another tried to tell me Rosie was their puppy...and were offended when i told them that was impossible because she was BORN in MY BEDROOM!, i didnt hear anythign more after that.
you have to be so carefull...
then of course i was a lier, and they ACTUALLY called the police who actually did come over. luckily i had proof, all his shot records and the vet record form the day after he arrived. They were absolutly certain id stolen dodger from them, luckily all the records and vetwork proved to the police he wasnt. they still sned me emails occiasinally threatening there gonna come and take him...
another tried to tell me Rosie was their puppy...and were offended when i told them that was impossible because she was BORN in MY BEDROOM!, i didnt hear anythign more after that.
you have to be so carefull...
I agree for all previously mentioned reasons.
Also, (this may sound cold and not understanding towards them, but...) she said they gave up the dog. They adopted it out from what it sounds like. Imo, that relinquished the rights to that dog. They can't adopt a dog to someone then take it back when they want to. I might feel a bit different if they lost the dog or something. But it's your dog, and you need to be wary just in case.
Also, (this may sound cold and not understanding towards them, but...) she said they gave up the dog. They adopted it out from what it sounds like. Imo, that relinquished the rights to that dog. They can't adopt a dog to someone then take it back when they want to. I might feel a bit different if they lost the dog or something. But it's your dog, and you need to be wary just in case.
Please keep us updated! I want to know what happens. I too would be very cautious. These people could be lying through their teeth. If they are telling the truth, then tell them that you love her, and you can't part with her. Maybe allow them the visit her. But, if you do that, meet them somewhere. If they know where your home is, they may try to steal her.
