What a day. Hugs welcome.

AllieMackie

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Yeah, so.

On Saturday, I lost my mom's best friend, my "second mom", to cancer. She's been there our entire lives - she and her husband lived just in the next block down. She changed my brother's and I's diapers, we spent many a hot day swimming in her pool, she and my mom were inseperable, and when my mom was sick and dying of cancer, Mel was there almost every day helping us with her care (she was a nurse).

She found out on the 26th that she had cancer, and was dead by the 4th. I found out on the 2nd, and by the third she was no longer lucid, and I couldn't go to say goodbye.

So that's been bothering me all week.

Yesterday my passenger rear tire went flat. I could see the puncture and it was in the sidewall. I have AWD, which means I need a whole new set of tires. Great. I put the spare on and hope it will last me until Friday, since today was loaded with work, wake, then more work.

Wishful thinking.

Go to the first shift and the wake in Matt's car, rush home to change, switch cars and head out to second shift at work. On the way... boom. Blowout. Awesome.

Call for a tow, get it to my tire place just in time before closing to spend way too much on a good set of tires and get them out on. Thankfully my axle and everything else seem okay.

Tomorrow's the funeral. I have to work immediately afterwards, because my co-worker is in Detroit. I'm overwhelmed and having trouble dealing with everything.

Sigh.

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:( :( :(

I'm sorry for the loss of Mel. She sounds like she was an amazing woman who cared about you as much as you loved her.

And ughhh tires. Car stuff seems to just pour down when it happens, doesn't it? I hope things settle down for you soon--any of those things on their own would be enough to deal with, and all of it at once is way too much.
 

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*hugs*

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time.

And tire issues -.- I feel your pain. I had to just get my new cars and already had a tire destroyed.

Will you be able to take a day or two off soon? With all this going on that would probably be really good for you.
 

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Lots and lots of hugs...

Sorry for your loss :(

I think cars are engineered to know how to pick the worst possible times to break down...
 

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I do have Sunday and Monday off coming up, and looking forward to it.

I hate that my SO is completely unsupportive in general, too. Doesn't make life any easier. But that's a whole other can of worms.
 

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I do have Sunday and Monday off coming up, and looking forward to it.

I hate that my SO is completely unsupportive in general, too. Doesn't make life any easier. But that's a whole other can of worms.
:( if you need a friend, let me know <3 I work Monday, and was going to possibly go to a dog thing Sunday but I can be around if you need Sunday :)
 

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I'm so incredibly sorry. On top of losing your second mom this is probably taking you back to stuff you don't want to relive. It sucks and it's not fair. I wish your SO was more supportive too. =<

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I am so sorry Allie, that must be so hard for you and having car issues ontop of that. (((((HUGGIES))))) are being sent your way this moment and I will be keeping you in my thoughts <3
 

AllieMackie

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I'm so incredibly sorry. On top of losing your second mom this is probably taking you back to stuff you don't want to relive. It sucks and it's not fair. I wish your SO was more supportive too. =<

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Absolutely.

It was hard seeing everyone today. Her kids and their families, I watched them all begin. So many photos of the friends, of my mom and her, and the fact that they both went down the same path in the end was the hardest part.
 

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Oh Allie, I am so sorry. I don't want to say I know but I'm watching a good friend of mine fight brain cancer and it really does make you relive everything else. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and if you ever need to talk, let me know.
 

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(((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) and more ((((((((((hugs))))))))) Hopefully your days off are stress-free so you can reflect as you need to.
 

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