That ten year thing. At some point, with that difference, a lot of men start with the "when I'm X and OLD she's still going to be X and YOUNG and she'll want to be with someone who isn't old and in the way."
Stupid, but that's part of it all too often, and there's not a damnthing you can do to change it. It's in THEIR head and nothing and no one else can change it -- only them, and they rarely do.
((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))
And you keep talking it out, and writing it out really does help. Lots.
