Jon and I will be married five years next year. We promised each other that at five years we would have a wedding OUR way (Wiccan, not Christian, more than six weeks to plan, much more laid back than last time, and not having to pack our bags for deployment three weeks after the fact!) Those of you who have done a vow renewal ceremony, how did you go about planning it? What's a normal budget for something like that? How long did you give yourself to plan it? How many people do you normally invite. We're planning a handfasting this time, and for the reception to be a murder mystery party (HOPEFULLY at the Stanley Hotel if they'll accommodate that!!!). Did you have bridesmaids and groomsmen? What do you wear??? We're really doing this because our first ceremony was slap dash and thrown together quickly, and because we want to (obviously). So, tell me about yours, and those of you who had a handfasting (weather as your first ceremony or as a renewal ceremony) how did it go? Would you do anything differently?