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Today is the one year anniversary of Rudy's passing. I just haven't been able to think about anything else except him. I just miss him soooo much! I think that my fiance must not remember the date because he hasn't said anything about it. My mom (the best mom in the world) sent me flowers to work today...I was so surprised. I will have to write more later....I can't hardly see the keys to type. Sorry. :(
 

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I'm sorry for your dog, you'll get used to his passing eventually tho. My cat (which acted like a dog) passed when I was 6 (he was poisoned), I cried so much for him. But eventually got used to it. Also, my grandpa's dog passed "Buddy", one of the nicest dogs ever. He adored me, he was so sweet to other people also... He reminded me of a little kid. Sadly he died, his heart stopped. That was tough for me, also, now I'm fine. I still miss him, but I have accepted his lost.
 

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I am so sorry Roni, I know how hard it is. I still have a tender place in my heart for both my dogs that have passed even though it has been years and years. It does get better, but you can ALWAYS remember them and if you need to shed a tear even in 10 years about it, it is ok, and perfectly natural.

That was very thoughtful of your mother to send you those flowers, what a wonderful heart she must have! It is the people that love us that help us get through those tough times, so I am so glad you have her.

I am sure your fiance just didn't remember. Guys aren't usually like that. I can barely get my husband to remember my birthday and we have been married for 2 years, and together for 6 (since right before I was 21). On a lighter note, I am anxious to see if he remembers it next week. :rolleyes:

I really am sorry, and I know how hard it is. It is ok to cry all you want and to be upset. Our dogs are like children to us, so it is perfectly natural to mourn them. If you need to cry anymore, feel free, I will be glad to listen.
 

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ohhh I know the first couple of years are the toughest. Its not a bad thing to dwindle on thinking of Rudy though. Be happy with his memories he left behind. (((((HUGS))))))) and Cheers to Rudy!
 
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You do have a great Mom to remember how painful today would be for you, I'm on the verge of tears myself. Dont get upset with your fiance, men dont remember important dates, we must always remind them. Do something special today, maybe plant a bush or something in Rudy's memory. I hope you'll be feeling better soon, it takes time, and you will never forget him.
 
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I still cry over each and every one . . . and I've had a dog since I was a baby and cats since I was 8. The grief gets softer, and the memories remain sweet through the years.
 

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Me too (((((hugs))))) it is good to be remembered in such a way tho..i know my Bronki would never want me to forget.
 

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Thanks so much ya'll for your support. Rudy was (like bogolove said) like my kid. I would take him to my mom's on my way to work and she would babysit him all day. He hated to be alone. She was very close to him also. I hated to let him go but he was hurting and I had refused to see it for so long. He had a tumor in his head. But he held on just for me. I really appreciate ya'll letting me talk about him...it helps.
 

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I know what you are going through and I can truly feel your pain. I lost my precious Mabel about 3 months ago and the thought of her suffering in the end makes me feel sick with pain. I still get choked up just thinking about her and what she endured. I worry sometimes, because I feel like my pain gets worse, not better. I miss her so much and I am so very sorry for your loss. :(
 

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You'll always miss Rudy. I know with Smokey I try to just remember the really sweet times we had together. (((HUGS)))
 

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That's the best thing to do, Gapeach...I too lost my Lab just a few months ago and I miss her still, but the pain is easing up. If I think of her too much in the way of her last year or so, where she was declining in health, that makes me really sad. If I mostly think about the fun times, those memories help. Death is part of the life cycle and everyone has to do it. It's just hard to accept sometimes. My heart goes out to you. Your Mom, indeed sounds like a wonderful, big hearted woman. You're lucky.
 

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You know you gave him the best life he could have while he was here and I am sure he was thankful every day for it. He probably loved you more than you will ever know for that. He will always be with you, in your heart and memories.

I always think of them as little angels that come to watch over us for a time. They care for us and they love us too as we do them.
 

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(((roni))) Not a day goes by I don't think of Eli and Yogi. They were very special and will always hold a big chunk of my heart not to be filled by anybody else. Hang in there. Thinkin' about you...
 

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