Thread battles with other members = dislike in general?

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  1. sassafras

    sassafras mushinois

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    I don't generally dislike people because of threads or arguments. I may not like someone's behavior in a certain thread or may not like their opinions, but that generally doesn't translate to dislike of the person. Arguments on an internet forum just isn't usually enough information to base an opinion about a person on.

    A pattern of behavior over a long period of time, maybe. And I'm sure there are "dealbreakers" so to speak, although I can't think of any at the moment. And I suppose if I just don't plain agree with someone on almost anything I wouldn't want to be their BFF or anything, but it doesn't mean I harbor any ill will, either.
     
  2. sparks19

    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    AND... You know what they say. You can't teach an OLD dog new tricks

    Hahaha. Sorry babe... Had to. You understand :p
     
  3. BostonBanker

    BostonBanker Active Member

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    This. There are small handful of members that I've found to be hurtful or difficult intentionally, and I can't always walk away feeling good about it. It is rarely the big argument threads, interestingly. It is the small aside comments that could seem so harmless, but clearly aren't. As for those who I disagree with on the big fundamental issues? No problem. It rarely gets me riled up, and I certainly don't hold ones beliefs against them.
     
  4. Renee750il

    Renee750il Felurian

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    Tanya is even more fun in person.

    Puck . . . :rofl1: You wouldn't recognize the guy :D One word: MOOSH. ;)

    Not that he doesn't stand by his principles, though. He is honest.
     
  5. ~Tucker&Me~

    ~Tucker&Me~ and Spy.

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    For the most part, I think I am able to walk away from a debate thread and not have any hard feelings. I know there are a few people I have bickered with but I don't dislike them, we just disagree.

    Having said that, there are a few people I don't really care for. I don't like when drama spills follows people into unrelated threads, and I have noticed it tends to be the same people who rub me the wrong way in some of their responses to new members who are obviously kind of naive. If there is one thing I really can't stand, it is the elitist, condescending and sharp attitude some people have no qualms giving to brand new, clueless members who join the forum looking for advice. I also dislike personal jabs, and again, it always seems to be the same people.

    Anyway, the vast majority of chazzers I take no issue with, and even the ones I do, it normally isn't a problem.
     
  6. ~Tucker&Me~

    ~Tucker&Me~ and Spy.

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    You guys said it better than I could.
     
  7. eddieq

    eddieq Silence! I ban you! Staff Member

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    Just the fact that we haven't banned the lot of you speaks volumes about your ability to "not hold grudges" and to move on. :rofl1:
     
  8. sparks19

    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    Lol in a nutshell... This is true :p
     
  9. Shai

    Shai & the Muttly Crew

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  10. Laurelin

    Laurelin I'm All Ears

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    I honestly just really like to debate in general, especially when it comes to dog things. I can't think of any current members that I actively dislike at all.

    In real life I am the most quiet person so I'm definitely more aggressive on here at times. Sometimes it's nice to be able to speak my mind, sometimes I go back and re-read my thread and think I sound like a jerk. I really don't mean to sound like a jerk, I think I can just have an abrupt method of typing. :/

    Anyways, definitely don't dislike anyone even if I come across poorly. I don't mean to.
     
  11. Xandra

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    Yeah that does bother me. It's cruel and unproductive.
     
  12. Dakotah

    Dakotah Kotah BEAR

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    I don't hate anyone on here, I have a problem with a couple but nothing that I can't control and get over. I might disagree with a lot of people on here but that doesn't mean I don't like them.

    Somehow, someway every person on this forum has made me smile, laugh, and made me feel so warm inside.
    Fran and I have butt heads before, but her funny posts with gifs make my day, every single time. <3

    Yall are my Chaz family no matter if you hate me or if I don't agree with you. Yall have all been there for me, and others, when the time came. And that just makes all the BS and disagrees worth it.

    Ok, I'm done being mushy lol
     
  13. SizzleDog

    SizzleDog Lord Cynical

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    This. :hail:

    Awhile back I just reached a point where opinions of people on the internet are just... meh. I don't put emotional investment into people on the internet anymore, it's just not worth it. I've seen the best and the worst of people on this forum, unfortunately more of the "worst" than the best.

    ... which used to frustrate/upset me, but now I just move on and don't allow myself to be provoked by the drama.

    On the Gay Marriage thread, I had clicked several multi-quote boxes, thought about it, and then just said "Meh, nothing I say will be earth shattering" and walked a dog. :p
     
  14. Paige

    Paige Let it be

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    I've never taken a disagreement to = HATE YOUR GUTS. I am not to really over argue with someone. I may say a few points but I generally just read.
     
  15. Bunny82

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    I don't hate anyone. I try and avoid debates, (not always a success) because I am always worried that no matter how careful I think my wording is something I say is going to hurt or offend someone so if I can help it I don't speak much on issues. I read a lot of threads I start to respond then I stop and delete..I don't want to say the wrong thing. I know I don't post much but I do care and would rather be that dork that only pops in from time to time to post periodically than get into a debate
    and risk hurting someone's feelings.
     
  16. Dekka

    Dekka Just try me..

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    Really there are very few people I dislike on chaz. IME I have to really know someone and have a very good reason to dislike them lol. That usually means they have had to do something really horrible and I can only think of one chazzer that fits that bill.. so the vast majority of you are safe :D

    (I am sure you all will now sleep better knowing that :rofl1:)

    There are a few people that I don't like, but that is different than dislike. More of an ambivalence towards them. Dislike is personal, takes energy. Not going to 'waste' energy keeping a grudge on the internet. Generally just ignore and move on. Half the time in a debate thread I dont' even pay attention to who I am responding too. At least on chaz I do notice some of the time. On other forums there are too many people to get to know so I just respond never paying attention to the poster's history.

    I love a good debate. I hope you all know that I don't dislike anyone really (and no one in this thread) and just like to argue :D
     
  17. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    I don't hate anybody. Except for Sizzle, SaraB, and PWCorgi. They're all Clique-y and gross.

    or maybe I got that backwards. Who knows.
     
  18. PWCorgi

    PWCorgi Priscilla Winifred Corgi

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    Gross? Yes.

    Clique-y? Well only if you mean the dog training tool.
     
  19. DogKisses

    DogKisses Durp Dog

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    I try to start away from debate threads, I mostly avoid "conflict."

    I know after my posts in the merle thread some of you have probably wrote me off as an @sshole, but A LOT of things went on behind the scenes. I noticed a ton of red flags. Yes I could have PMed the info to the person that asked, but I was hoping someone on here could clear it up - I know several people on here are interested in the breed.

    That said, I don't hate anyone on here. A couple people rub me the wrong way sometimes - but it's nothing major and I realize it could just be a lost in translation (internet vs. real life) thing.

    I love my crazy dog people! :D
     
  20. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    Oh to actually answer the questions, I don't think a disagreement makes me hate somebody. Usually I can tell off the bat if they're assholes and just stay away from them, anyway :p
     

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