The word Mom...

Discussion in 'The Fire Hydrant' started by ACooper, Apr 17, 2012.

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Calling other woman mom....

  1. I have called friends' moms 'mom' no biggie

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  2. Nope, can't do it, feels wrong.

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  3. Meh, it's just a word........who cares?

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  4. Hershey bar with almonds

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  1. ACooper

    ACooper Moderator

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    I keep seeing FB posts which say things like:

    Friends call your mom Mrs ------
    REAL friends just call her mom


    I don't agree. I have a mom. Your mom is your mom. I might love you like a sister and love your mom like an aunt..........but I will not and cannot call her mom. Further more, I do not want my kids' friends to call me mom either. Mrs. Cooper will do.........Angie to their very close friends is fine after they've been given leave to do so.

    I have a mother in law, I do not call her mom either and won't as long as my mother still breathes. To me, in my heart, it feels like disrespect to my own mother and I can't do it.

    How do you feel about this issue? *poll coming*
     
  2. PWCorgi

    PWCorgi Priscilla Winifred Corgi

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    That would be WIERD if someone called my mom mom and she wasn't actually their mother. I don't like that at all.

    Then again, the other side of my family is super close to our grandmother ("Omah", and growing up ALL of my cousin's friends called her Omah, and still do! She loved it though, and I didn't find that all that wierd.
     
  3. ACooper

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    Agree, that's where it gets cloudy! I don't mind calling other people Grandma or Grandpa if they ask to be called that. Doesn't bother me at all, I call my husband's grandparents that, no problem.

    Not mom or dad though, that's different! *shrugs* weird, LOL
     
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    Uh, no. My mom is and was Mrs. Lastname to all my friends. My parents are still Mr. and Mrs. Lastname to my husband of 4 years.

    I call his parents by their first names. She asked me to call her mom, and I tried...but I just can't do it. I could call her Hilda Pigglebottom before I called her Mom.
     
  5. M&M's Mommy

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    I call my mil mom & my husband calls my mom mom. We became one & joined each other's family when we married each other... so my parents (and grandma, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc..) also became his, and vice versa.

    Beside my mil, I've never called anybody else mom. I do call the Priests, with whom I have close relationship with, dad. They are, after all, Fathers :)
     
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    Yea I can't even bring myself to call my MIL/FIL mom or dad - it's just wrong to me - so they are Nancy and Jeff or "Scott's Mom/Dad". It never even occurred to me to call friends' parents mom/dad either!
     
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    Nope. I have a mother. Pauls family is not my family. They are his family. I have my own Mom and Dad and I don't want or need his. I call his mom Margaret and he calls my parents by their first names.
     
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    I always thought it was weird to call your friend's mom mom. I do have a "second mom" but that's her description - her name is Lisa.

    I never thought about referring to my MIL/FIL as mom/dad.....I think I would've been really weirded out by them asking me to. I already have a mom and dad thanks. I do wish someone would tell me what to call Matt's gparents. LOL.
     
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    oakash Kat/Oak AKA The Nice One

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    I'll call some people I know Momma Jill, or Mama Mickey etc. Those are always the assistant coaches who do more mothering then coaching, so its appropriate. They really are my other moms, and I like that I can call them that. Its just a name, it doesn't really matter imo
     
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    For me, no I can't call anyone else Mom. But 1 or 2 of my friends called my mom, mom. My house was the one where everyone was all the time, so they all knew my mom way better than I knew theirs.

    My husband however does call his best friend's mom, mom, because she was like his mom the years when he was living with his dad growing up. (she is not his step mom, he just spent so much time at his best friend's house).
     
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    Not me. I'm not calling anyone else mum or dad. I even call my step-family by their first names. For example, I've never called my stepmother's mum 'grandma.' I call her Linda. I dunno, personally I think I'd be uncomfortable referring to other people as mum or dad or grandma or whatever.
     
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    I've had friends call my mom 'mom,' but there's something about her that people respond to in that way. People want to tell her their secrets, and the apologize to her about stuff she wouldn't care about. She's had cashiers confess stuff to her in stores. It's a weird vibe. No one but my sister and me call my dad 'dad,' though. He's kind of gruff and scary.

    I wouldn't call anyone but my mom and dad 'mom and dad.' I call my boyfriend's dad and stepmom by their first names, and I don't really speak to his mom. He calls my parents Mr. and Mrs. lastnames--probably because my parents are a little older, and that's what they're more comfortable with. His dad and stepmom insisted I call them by their first names, and I resisted it for years.
     
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    I think it really depends on your culture. Similar to referring to someone else's grandpa or grandma by that title - in some places it's a term of respect, in others a term of ridicule.

    Anyways, most little kids around here refer to someone else's parent as Sam's Mom or Mommy. After grade school it becomes Mr or Ms.

    I didn't make that "rule" but it seems to be how it roles here. ;)
     
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    I feel exactly the way you do. I do NOT call anyone mom that isn't the woman who birthed and raised me lol
     
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    I called my best friend's mom, "Mom" when growing up. It was a sign of familiarity and respect for her. She came to my wedding. I cried at her funeral. She was very special to me and she accepted the title without issue. It didn't diminish my feelings toward my own mom. I even called her that around my own mom. They got along great and nobody had an issue with it.

    I also refer to my MIL/FIL as "mom and dad". I will call my FIL by his first name, but MIL is always "mom".

    Growing up, my grandmother was "Nana". To everybody. Even people from the neighborhood and people near her own age.

    It's an honorific. A title. Not given lightly, but certainly not exclusive to my birth parents (or in the case of adoption - parents who raised you).
     
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    My aunt's husband calls my grandma (his mother in law) 'Mom'. I don't think it's weird, I mean we're all family, he married into the family... she's technically kind of his mom now too, in a way. Mother-in-law, whatever.

    But for me, I can't call anyone else mom... I have two people in my life who are very much like second parents, helped raise me, and I am closer to them than my real grandparents... but I still just call them "Bill and Pat". It's just... what they are to me. Doesn't make me any less close, but it's what I always have just known them by.

    My stepdad is also still Tom and stepmom is Christy, even though they've both been in my life since I was 9/10.
     
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    I think for me, that's a big part of it. Other than my parents, I've never been close enough to another person with that kind of relationship to want to use those words for them.
     
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    My friends always called my mom "Cristy's Mom". One friend will say "hi mom!" if my mom happens to call me when I'm around that friend. She's the only friend who does, and it doesn't bother us.

    I don't call anyone mom but my mom. I voted for hershey bars.
     
  19. JustaLilBitaLuck

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    Growing up, all of my friends called my mother by her first name (she hates being called Ms. ______), and I called my friends mothers by their first names or by Ms/Mrs. ______. It would have felt weird to call them "mom".

    I don't even know if I could call a SO's parents "mom"/"dad" - I think it would still feel weird to me.
     
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    Yeah, I don't call anyone else mom besides MY mom. My best friend's mom is like a 2nd mom to me, but I do not call her mom. My grandpa's wife, we do not call grandma because my grandma who died when I was 5, who was my dad's mom. My dad doesn't even call her his step-mom. We just call her Sharon, and she is fine with that. :) It doesn't hurt her feelings but she has no blood relation to any of us. I don't think that makes her less of a family member, she is a kind person.
     

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