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then we were in kids town playing and there were some bikes and stuff. Hannah ended up smacking her knee on something and was crying and the teachers response was "Oh stop it. you're fine. go sit down"
Absolutely none of this is okay but this really stuck out to me as highly inappropriate... and then taunting her about it later? No, no, just no.
I would talk to the director about it again, include the fact that you're wondering if she's retaliating. And if it doesn't get any better, I would say talk to the lady yourself. Tell her it's unacceptable how she's talking to the children, and you won't let her continue to bully kids in front of you. Maybe it will result in her getting upset because you're "undermining" her, and maybe you'll lose your job over it, but I think you'll feel a lot better if you stick up for the kids.

Working with kids is tough as hell. Maybe she's burned out, but that doesn't make it okay. That means she needs to find another job.
 
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the teachers response was "NO YOU MAY NOT, I don't have time for you today and I didn't make one for you so you don't get to do the craft"

then we were in kids town playing and there were some bikes and stuff. Hannah ended up smacking her knee on something and was crying and the teachers response was "Oh stop it. you're fine. go sit down" WHY treat a child like that? and then when she had calmed down and decided to go back and play, she got on one of the bikes and was minding her own business and the teacher then said "Gee Hannah... you might hit your knee again. Get off that bike" and it was very sarcastic.

There has been a few times that we've gotten home and Hannah has asked me "Mommy, what did I do wrong?"
None of these are OK. None of them. You aren't being overly sensitive, or any such nonsense, something is wrong here and needs to be addressed.
 

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UGH... I may not be returning to my job in the fall. I have a lot to think about. Background, I work as a teachers assistant at a preschool two mornings a week... It was known off the bat that I homeschool and Hannah had to come with me, which is not a problem.

The teacher that I work with has been having difficulty this year in the class room like not showing up on time, doing the bare minimum with the kids, and her patience are running very short. I have felt for some time now that she has been taking her frustrations out on Hannah a lot, she loses patience with the other kids a lot too but since Hannah isn't actually a student that is paying to be there... maybe she's the safe choice. I don't know.

Let me just say that I have NO problem with someone else correcting Hannah if it's deserved but lately it's not been deserved the majority of the time and I can see that it's really starting to crush Hannah's spirit.

for example today, it was craft time and Hannah asked if she could work on her craft (since she's older she does most of her craft independently) and the teachers response was "NO YOU MAY NOT, I don't have time for you today and I didn't make one for you so you don't get to do the craft" and it was really in a tone that was not called for at all. A simple "We are running short on time today and I don't have enough supplies for you to do the craft today. Sorry about that" would have been fine and Hannah would have been like Meh Ok and skipped off to play. Instead she was completely bitchy and just RUDE and it almost seemed like she was TRYING to hurt her feelings. BUT I figured I was just being sensitive and brushed it off (this was after about 4 other instances that morning).

then we were in kids town playing and there were some bikes and stuff. Hannah ended up smacking her knee on something and was crying and the teachers response was "Oh stop it. you're fine. go sit down" WHY treat a child like that? and then when she had calmed down and decided to go back and play, she got on one of the bikes and was minding her own business and the teacher then said "Gee Hannah... you might hit your knee again. Get off that bike" and it was very sarcastic. Hannah was really hurt about that and ended up just sitting alone in a chair the rest of the playtime. The first things I brushed off but that was very passive aggressive and just plain mean for no reason.

She's not overly nice to the other kids either to be honest.

I know the director had a talk with her about her recent downslide in the classroom on Friday and I'm wondering if the director mentioned something about her treatment of Hannah and the other kids because today was the worst it's EVER been.

I just don't know that I want to be a part of it anymore and I don't feel it's good for Hannah to be treated that way by someone she is supposed to trust and show respect to. There has been a few times that we've gotten home and Hannah has asked me "Mommy, what did I do wrong?" and I've told her that in that case she didn't do anything wrong... teacher is just having a tough day and I don't want to undermine her authority in the classroom but what am I supposed to do? One instance was when we were saying the pledge of allegiance during circle time... Hannah is usually at a table doing her independent work but she comes over to say the pledge (as she should) and this one day she walked over and wasn't there two seconds and the teacher said "Hannah... you need to go and sit down RIGHT NOW". I just can't understand it. If having her there is a problem... tell me and we'll go no problem. I don't know... it's never a problem when we fill in for the class the director teaches and the director doesn't treat any of the kids like that EVER.

Anyway... I'm sure that made no sense but I needed to get it off my chest.
If the teacher treats the other kids anything like she treats Hannah, I would bring it up to someone NOW. I'm not a parent, but that would not fly. If at all possible, could you keep Hannah away from her? Nobody deserves to be treated like that, especially from a teacher.

Reading that just makes me so angry that the teacher is basically allowed to act like that. What a bully. I really hope this issue is sorted out quickly, and I hope the best for you and Hannah, as well as the other kids.
 

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thanks everyone. I'm glad it's not just me that feels this is inappropriate.

I sent my boss a text asking her to call me when she wasn't busy (she's watching her grandkids... and her granddaughter is also in the class with us). She called and was really concerned and said "is everything alright? you never ask me to call you" lol. So I told her everything that happened today and she was APPALLED. So we talked about some ways that we can try to handle it. She made a good point that she could talk to her but she would definitely know that I complained to the boss about it and it might make things worse. She recommended that I bring it up and we thought up some ways to bring it up as gently as possible so as not to make her prickly right off the bat. We are a small group... only 5 employees in the preschool lol. The boss lady and her assistant and they run the Pre K class on Monday, Wednesday and Friday and then myself and the teacher two days a week for preschool and then one lady who runs the mommy and me toddler class. So we are a small, intimate group so it just makes it that much more difficult.

Hannah is going to start staying home on Thursdays when Brian works from home and if things are still bad he's going to try to switch his other work from home day so she can stay home on Tuesday as well. She's pretty self sufficient so it won't be a problem for him to work while she's here. she's stayed home before with him while he works. So right now I'm just trying to minimize her exposure to the teacher.

I know she's older than the other kids (the class is for the three year olds) but I think teacher forgets that even though she's older... she is STILL A CHILD.

Teacher is probably burnt out. She works the two mornings at our preschool but then she works Monday - Friday full time afternoons at an after school program for K-6 grade. So I get it that she's probably just really ready for a break... I know I am but she can't take it out on the kids.
 

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So I get it that she's probably just really ready for a break... I know I am but she can't take it out on the kids.
Exactly.
While I sympathize completely (spent the afternoon with ONE 6 year old on the weekend and was totally up to my "kid quota" for the month lol), she did choose her profession and she needs to be accountable for it.

Kids are kids. I'm not saying they're all entirely the same, but to an extent there's a lot of behaviour you can expect from the little ones.

If she can't deal with them without acting harshly, then perhaps she should cut back a little bit.

Also very sorry for how poor Hannah has been treated by this person :(
 

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Wow, I feel so bad for Hannah! I had more than one teacher act like that towards me and because no one stood up for me or even really took it all that seriously when I did say something, it created some pretty big issues that I'm still dealing with to this day.

Good for you for showing Hannah that you do care an listen and take her seriously. I hope things get sorted out in a positive manner for everyone. Hannah is double-lucky in that Brian has the ability to work from home and can minimize the exposure.
 
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Exactly.
While I sympathize completely (spent the afternoon with ONE 6 year old on the weekend and was totally up to my "kid quota" for the month lol), she did choose her profession and she needs to be accountable for it.

Kids are kids. I'm not saying they're all entirely the same, but to an extent there's a lot of behaviour you can expect from the little ones.

If she can't deal with them without acting harshly, then perhaps she should cut back a little bit.

Also very sorry for how poor Hannah has been treated by this person :(
So much this bolded part. Then again, I get super frustrated with people who sign up to be a teacher and then complain about the very aspect of teaching *cough*mysister*cough*
 

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Exactly.
While I sympathize completely (spent the afternoon with ONE 6 year old on the weekend and was totally up to my "kid quota" for the month lol), she did choose her profession and she needs to be accountable for it.

Kids are kids. I'm not saying they're all entirely the same, but to an extent there's a lot of behaviour you can expect from the little ones.

If she can't deal with them without acting harshly, then perhaps she should cut back a little bit.

Also very sorry for how poor Hannah has been treated by this person :(
Yeah that's how I feel about it as well. She chose this profession and sometimes I can't figure out why because she's very set in her ways... she wants things just so and doesn't like change. But that doesn't really fly when you work with young children lol. Everyday is a change and NOTHING is ever just so lol.


Wow, I feel so bad for Hannah! I had more than one teacher act like that towards me and because no one stood up for me or even really took it all that seriously when I did say something, it created some pretty big issues that I'm still dealing with to this day.

Good for you for showing Hannah that you do care an listen and take her seriously. I hope things get sorted out in a positive manner for everyone. Hannah is double-lucky in that Brian has the ability to work from home and can minimize the exposure.
I had the same things happen when I was in school with some teachers but I was at least older than 6.

At this point in her life and at this age she is very "forgive and forget" but every once in a while something really hurts her heart and this was one of those times. she's put up with a lot of this type of thing from this person but not quite to the extent it went today and Hannah always comes back with a smile on her face and happy to see her. I don't know if this is going to go away so easily.

I'm hoping we can get this sorted out and move on. I do enjoy my job and it's perfect for me and I really don't want to leave.
 

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Irritated. Were suppose to order some delicious cupcakes for my birthday this thursday, & for one of my relatives.

They recently moved to a new location, & that caused them to make much smaller. Due to that, you now have to make a order 2 to 3 weeks in advance.They don't state that on there website, & didn't even mention that they moved. Oh well.
 
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Everything I was going to say has pretty much been covered but yes, TOTALLY not appropriate teacher behavior regardless of the child its happening too...this lady needs to either change her ways very quickly or needs to no longer be working there IMO
 

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Why do I always have to start shaking when I see a loose dog if I'm out with Roxie? I am fine if Roxie isn't with me and I see a loose dog (most times anyways). This is so annoying.
 

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I mean, I never used to. I'm not scared of dogs, I can't control it. It started happening ever since Roxie got attacked last summer.

It's good to know I'm not alone :)
Definitely not alone! Loose dogs and flexi-lead dogs still make me nervous.

After living in the shady area we did last year we experienced all types of bombardment from unconstrained dogs. I've taken to crossing streets, turning around...whatever it takes.
The shaking should go away with time, but it's not a bad thing to be cautious of course.
 

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Hannah ended up smacking her knee on something and was crying and the teachers response was "Oh stop it. you're fine. go sit down"
Everything else ... yeah she needs to be seriously talked to about her behavior. But this one part I personally don't see a problem. when I was young I had a riding instructor that used to say that to crying kids when they fell off horses. "Anything broken? then stop your crying and get back on, now."

I know its not right for this teacher to be acting this way, but kids will be dealing with rude, mean people their whole lives, so better they learn how to handle it sooner then later.
 

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speaking of facebook ...

I hate when people post all this Pro Life crap on my news feed, they know I am Pro Choice, then they get mad when I hide those postings from my news feed or reject them trying to post them to my time line or tagging my name to them.

Look, believe what you want, preach and post all about it on your wall, but don't try to force me to as well.
 

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