He obviously cares about you an it doesn't sound like an "I want to be right so you need to get over it" thing as much as a "you have been hurt and I don't want you to hurt anymore and experience what decent himan beings are really about". I wouldn't take it as a confrontational "do as I say So there" thing. It sounded like he was trying to be cute and funny. Really I think the Live and Respect series would be a hreat help here. He wants to FIX the issue. Not fix it like prepare his family but fix uour difficulties. Fix it in the way of showing you that this doesn't have to be an issue, show you that he isn't just some guy and that his family isn't just some guys family. Don't make it into a power struggle. Power struggles don't end well... Ever. Don't be dramatic just be honest. Ask him.... Ok, they will love me because you do... Loving is different from shock. They van love me and still be shocked and say unintentional hirtful thigs. If they are shocked and it hurts me... How will you feel? How will you handle it? We don't really have a racism issue here but my dad and my siblings are always making "stupid american" jokes that always hurt brian. They think it's funny. We don't. It is a hard thing to deal with and it is hard for me to stand up to them. Thankfully, Brian doesn't blame me for my weakness or put it on me to fIX it. He knows my struggle. He knows i am not trying to be disrespectful or comfrontational or that I don't care. He knows that it is hard for me.