The musing thread

Discussion in 'The Fire Hydrant' started by Fran101, Jun 24, 2013.

  1. meepitsmeagan

    meepitsmeagan Meagan & The Cattle Dog Crew

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    This. I don't think that a lot of parents realize that it will drastically change your childs life, especially if it is continued through teenage years.

    Also, I really want to clicker train a baby. REALLY BAD. And a toddler. Or rent a baby long enough to wait for it to be a toddler and clicker train it the whole way.

    Is that weird?
     
  2. LostAndConfused

    LostAndConfused Active Member

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    Any advise on how to sell a house and move/get a job in a different state?
     
  3. stardogs

    stardogs Behavior Nerd

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    Fran and Meagan, I love you! DH and I had this convo again recently because he was amazed that I had never been hit by my parents. Never. He'd been hit so much that he has a hierarchy - apparently it's better to be hit with a spoon than a belt. o_O

    When I first met him, he was very pro-spanking. Now he's of the mindset that maybe it's something you use rarely when all else has failed or with "certain kinds of kids". I mentioned that I view it like training dogs a bit (i.e. why use punitive methods with kids if I don't with a DOG who I can't even talk to and why use punitive methods if a positive motivational method will accomplish the same thing) and you could see the wheels start moving in his head. Very cool.
     
  4. ThatCrazyGroomer

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    Getting up at six o'clock in the morning to take godsister to high school... No. Especially dealing with high school traffic... OMG. WHY?!
    I should have borrowed her before we had Winnie... But then it wouldn't have been high school. Guess I know what I'm in for now. o_O
     
  5. Taqroy

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    His hierarchy is correct. :p And while I don't feel that being spanked has impaired me long term I have no intentions of spanking my current kid or any future ones.

    I was pro-spanking until I got into clicker training. But really, if I can train my dogs to do ridiculous things with a clicker....why would I need to beat my kid to get them to behave? That's ridiculous. I've said it so many times but I'm SO glad I got into training before we had kids. Its been a game changer.
     
  6. Kootenay

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    I was never spanked or hit or threatened at all as a kid, and I'd like to think I turned out alright. I was never even grounded. Neither were any of my sisters, so I don't think it's just that I was a particularly easy kid or anything.

    Pretty happy I was raised by my parents!

    My boyfriend had a very different upbringing, and he turned out pretty good too...I think kids are pretty resilient, but man I can't imagine ever spanking or hitting my kids (if I ever end up having any).
     
  7. CharlieDog

    CharlieDog Rude and Not Ginger

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    Usually children that grow up in homes where spanking is the norm will have a hierarchy, myself included :p I would ALWAYS rather be spanked (or beaten, if you will) with a belt than a flyswatter and I would pick anything other than a switch (that I would have to go pick) in a heartbeat.
     
  8. Dizzy

    Dizzy Sit! Good dog.

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    Having had the benefit of tons of training on attachment theory in children and adults, child development and impact of trauma on attachment and relationships etc, I can honestly say I am 100% pro attachment parenting.

    You can't spoil a baby. You just can't. It's impossible. If a baby cries it WANTS something. It might not be obvious what, but it does.

    The best relationships I see are between those adults who communicate with their children from a young age. Who offer physical affection, and explanations to things, and who are able to demonstrate problem solving skills instead of just being a dictator. Just because I said so isnt effective parenting!

    I know I will struggle to be attachment focused, I wasn't brought up in a home that followed that theory, but if I have kids I fully intend to follow attachment parenting theories :)
     
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    A friend of mine has raised her autistic neice (great neice?) since she was a toddler, using the principles of TAGteach (aka clicker training for people).

    Pretty darn neat.
     
  10. Red.Apricot

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    I was never spanked, and it blew my mind when I got old enough to start talking to my peers about how we were disciplined, and I found out basically everyone around me was hit all the time.

    I can't imagine that.

    I also feel like it helped instill in me the idea that doing the right thing is right because it's the right thing, not because you might get caught.
     
  11. Lyzelle

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    Pretty sure I snagged a job as a waitress at a local bar/restaurant. They came up and offered me the job. Interview/something tomorrow at 5:30. So did a bank, actually, but their online system sucks, and the application I've been trying to fill out won't go through, so we are at a standstill.

    So $10 an hour with constant hours, holidays off, and paid vacation at a job that makes me, my life, and relationship less stressed but is definitely new to me....or bust my butt as a waitress all night dealing with drunk people, grabby guys, being paid $2.30 an hour, but making a fortune and a half in tips in a job I already know?

    For now, I'll probably end up still taking the waitress job, but keep looking to get a job at the bank. But...meh.
     
  12. Fran101

    Fran101 Resident fainting goat

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    Personally.. I would take the job at the bank. I did waitressing for yours and while tip money is good, a steady income/schedule and having a LIFE is better.
    waitressing jobs will always be there and always be plentiful (especially since you are experienced) but honestly, I would give the bank a try!
     
  13. Lyzelle

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    The bank job is definitely preferred, but their system does suck. It's all online, and it keeps going out so I can't finish it, randomly deleting stuff, etc, etc. It could be another few weeks before I either get on there, they hire someone else, or I pursue a different bank. Or I might not get hired at all. It's a gamble, especially since I sort of need money now.

    So fingers crossed the waitress job works out for now. It'll be rough if I do get the bank job because I don't need ANOTHER job that I was at for less than 6 months on my resume, but it'd be rough to do 5pm-3am, then 8am-4pm too. And above all else, I need an income/money now. Tips would help out a ton right now, as opposed to waiting 2+weeks even if I got on the bank job tomorrow.

    So I guess we'll see.
     
  14. Zoom

    Zoom Twin 2.0

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    Am I supposed to be this excited about getting a kitten?
     
  15. joce

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    I am going to be 30 in three days. Hmmmm.
     
  16. sparks19

    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    Now that I have upgraded to the Iphone 4s I have siri again to play with. To make Hannah laugh today I told Siri to call me Tinkerbell, so it did. But now I can't get it to call me Tanya again LOL. I keep saying "Call me Tanya' and she says "you want me to call you Kenya?" NO call me Tanya. "You want me to call you Tanyia (sounds like Tanyeeea.) it has a nice ring to it"... NOOOO. TANYA..."Kenya?"

    forget it... I'm tinkerbell

    :rofl1:
     
  17. Dizzy

    Dizzy Sit! Good dog.

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    When I click the 'new posts' button it gives me an error :(

    And the 'today's posts' button.
     
  18. *blackrose

    *blackrose "I'm kupo for kupo nuts!"

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    Me, too. :(
     
  19. Oko

    Oko Silence, peasants.

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    Hey, I know boston well enough-so instead of getting on the subway only to transfer a stop later, I'll just walk the 5 minutes to the next station....famous last words HAHAHA *cries*. 30 minutes later, finally gave in and got on at that darn stop. Later confirmed I had walked in the exact wrong direction. How was I so wrong? HOW?

    Clearly Merlin needs to become my service dog to guide me about boston, kthx. :rofl1:
     
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