The Good News thread

[Beanie]

Very true! But keep in mind for some children, it could be a sensory issue. I know of two kids personally who would go days without eating. I dare say a week or until hospitalization or medical intervention. And it's strictly sensory related. Not being a brat. Not being stubborn.

Well, I say that but I don't mean it in a negative way. My co-worker, for example, when he was a kid he refused to eat peas. His uncle forced him to do it one time. He ate the peas and then immediately threw up all over his uncle. He wasn't just being stubborn or a brat - he REALLY did not like peas, the taste made him physically ill. No amount of "if you're hungry enough..." would have changed that.

I have a similar story - I don't like the taste nor the texture of milk, and I never have. It makes me feel sick just thinking about it. When I was a kid my mom left me at a relative's house when she and my dad went away for the day. Said relative served milk with a snack in the morning. I didn't want to drink it. She told me "if you don't drink the milk you can't leave the table."
I sat at the table with the untouched glass of milk in front of me all day until my mom came to get us at 8pm.
My mom never left us at that relative's house again, as it happens.
I guess you could call that being stubborn and being a brat, but I didn't like milk enough that I would rather sit at the table all day while all the other kids got to run around and play than drink that milk.

People do often just think it's the kid being a brat or whatever and if you "cave" you're making your kid spoiled, and if you just hold out long enough that will somehow be magic and "solve" the problem. That kids aren't really capable of knowing what they do or don't like, obviously, they're just being obnoxious and if you're tough enough you can "win" the battle and your kid will be all the better for it. I think that's the wrong way to go about it and faaaaaaar underestimates children as human beings.

It tends to be people who don't have kids or have never spent extended amounts of time around them who think these things, IME.

 

[Fran101]

Well, I say that but I don't mean it in a negative way. My co-worker, for example, when he was a kid he refused to eat peas. His uncle forced him to do it one time. He ate the peas and then immediately threw up all over his uncle. He wasn't just being stubborn or a brat - he REALLY did not like peas, the taste made him physically ill. No amount of "if you're hungry enough..." would have changed that.

I have a similar story - I don't like the taste nor the texture of milk, and I never have. It makes me feel sick just thinking about it. When I was a kid my mom left me at a relative's house when she and my dad went away for the day. Said relative served milk with a snack in the morning. I didn't want to drink it. She told me "if you don't drink the milk you can't leave the table."
I sat at the table with the untouched glass of milk in front of me all day until my mom came to get us at 8pm.
My mom never left us at that relative's house again, as it happens.
I guess you could call that being stubborn and being a brat, but I didn't like milk enough that I would rather sit at the table all day while all the other kids got to run around and play than drink that milk.

People do often just think it's the kid being a brat or whatever and if you "cave" you're making your kid spoiled, and if you just hold out long enough that will somehow be magic and "solve" the problem. That kids aren't really capable of knowing what they do or don't like, obviously, they're just being obnoxious and if you're tough enough you can "win" the battle and your kid will be all the better for it. I think that's the wrong way to go about it and faaaaaaar underestimates children as human beings.

It tends to be people who don't have kids or have never spent extended amounts of time around them who think these things, IME.

Slow clap for kids who threw up when forced to eat! lol this is me and mashed potatoes.. to this day I can't stand the stuff. Threw up on an uncle once who thought force spoon feeding me was the secret to getting me to eat

My parents would never have made a whole new meal for us and our asses were be kicked if we ever traveled or were invited somewhere and turned our noses up at a new dish BUT (big but here) if it was something we REALLY REALLY didn't like...there was no forcing. It just doesn't work that way.
And.. none of us were picky eaters. And this isn't because of anything or parents did or didn't do.. we just weren't.
None of us, at the sight of any number of cultural dishes and oddities, EVER would rather go hungry than eat it.

It's easy to say "oh if they were really hungry..." if you weren't/aren't like that with new foods or different foods BUT BUT BUT there are plenty of kids who, through no fault of their own, CANNOT stomach certain foods and don't handle new foods being forced on them and WILL starve themselves over it.

I may have been an easy child to feed. but I was also scared of sand and carpet sooooo....they've all got their quirks.

 

[Dogdragoness]

I am not referencing allergies or certain foods, I am talking about the kids who refuse entire meals because they didn't want that tonight or refuse meals offered to them by guests I know and have known ppl who let their kids get away with this. My folks would have beat my ass if I had done that. Another one of my pet peeves is hearing a kid ask for something over and over again after the parent said no.

I feel sorry for kids whose parents don't prepare them for the fact that the world is a brutal place and they aren't going to get what they want just because they whine and beg for it.

 

[Dizzy]

Kids and food. There's always ways round picky eaters.

If there's not a way round it then they either a) REALLY don't like the food, or b) there's something either physical or psychological going on. And that should be investigated.

I see far far far too many parents go for the easy option of not providing healthy balanced meals and kids brought up on diets of chicken nuggets and chips. Good nutrition starts very very early in life and a willingness to try things (not always like them, not liking everything is ok) is a skill that should be taught early in life.

Now, I've dealt with lots of kids with eating problems, but usually it's a result of having no control in their life, and food is often the only thing they can dictate about. That is entirely different for those children, but is a technique other more fortunate children will try on if they feel they have to.

But even with those children (one only, and I mean ONLY, ate ham sandwiches or sausage and chips... And only specific brands at that) with a bit of time, care and attention they were eating and trying a whole host of foods in just a few months.

It's not totally impossible.

FYI, I only read the last couple of posts before my little waffle!!

 

[Xandra]

I was always forced to clean my plate, even if I was crying over it. I remember coming home for lunch once and my mom forced me to eat the mushy tomatoes after I'd eaten the pasta and I sat at the table crying for ages.

That seems unneccesary and somewhat mean cruel to me. It's perfectly normal for ADULTS to not like eating certain foods, it's perfectly reasonable for kids to not like some foods either. I did start liking cooked tomatoes later but that was when all my food consumption was voluntary.

But on the other hand... you gotta get veggies into a kid SOMEHOW. I probably will make any kids I have try new things and eat a balanced diet of healthy foods, hopefully it isn't a big issue. I also think enjoying most/all foods is a good trait, if there is a (humane) way to encourage that in children I'm all for it.

 

[Dogdragoness]

I guess that because my mother home clocked every meal for us from scratch every time (and they were quite nutritious at that) that I was always brought up to believe that if was insulting to someone not to at least have one helping of what they serve. there are some things I didn't (and still don't) like such as peas and shrimp, but I just didn't pick them (if we were having shrimp then I only ate veggies, if we had peas I just didn't pick them) but my mother didn't cook something else special for me just because I didn't like shrimp ... Mom and dad liked shrimp, I was the only one who didn't so I got out voted lol.

 

[MandyPug]

Gave my notice today.

Feels good.

 

[Saeleofu]

I transferred all but one of my prescriptions to Kmart. I ordered them Friday, and went to pick them up today. I got there and they weren't ready yet. I waited for 50 MINUTES for them to get them ready.

The good news? I got $125 in Sears/Kmart gift cards, so now I can go Christmas shopping! $75 was expected since they're paying $25 per transferred prescription now, but the extra $50 was a surprise, and it will help SO MUCH.

 

[Southpaw]

I kind of love that we shut down the clinic for the afternoon to have our Christmas party. This is 10000000x better than making us all get together outside of work. Sorry, but the last thing I want to do during the evening or on a weekend is be made to get together with my coworkers!

So instead of working tomorrow, I will be eating pizza and hanging out. Works for me.

 

[Zoom]

Got off work early so I had enough energy when I got home to clean! Changed and scrubbed out the litter box, ran two loads of dishes and put them away, scrubbed down the surfaces and then tackled the bathroom. Put away the laundry and straightened the bedclothes; tidied up in general. Had to stop myself from scrubbing the floors because I'd be up all night.

Now if the boy would come home so I quit listening for the door to open, I'd be able to go to sleep.

 

[Grab]

I'd MUCH rather seen the foods posted above (Grab) than junk junk junk.
Have you tried making things out of the food, sometimes encouraged snacking. Like... ants on a log, banana boats, etc?

He will eat some fruits..he likes bananas once in awhile, he'll eat apples. Not really a fan of oranges, though I think that's a texture thing because they have the skin bit. He's meh about pears and peaches..I think it's a texture thing.

I've tried combining foods..dipping apples in peanut butter, etc. But he usually just eats the peanut butter off in that case He's pretty unimpressed by my attempts at making cute lunches or snacks. Which is sad because, before I birthed the pickiest child ever, I'd thought of all the awesome bento lunches I could make a kid, lol. Killing my dreams, kid.

I try to include him when I'm making something, letting him stir or pour in water, for example, so that he's involved. I'm not overly concerned, as he passes through different stages. For awhile, he loved pasta,then he decided he did not. Same with corn, waffles, some other fruits and veggies, and pizza. Since he's come back around on the pizza issue, I'm sure he'll cycle through other things as well again.

also, eta that he will eat those pouch things that are a combo of fruits and veggies. If he's had a particularly picky week, we'll grab one of those. He cannot have them often, though, as they cause digestive troubles if he eats more than one once in a blue moon.

 

[Grab]

I kind of love that we shut down the clinic for the afternoon to have our Christmas party. This is 10000000x better than making us all get together outside of work. Sorry, but the last thing I want to do during the evening or on a weekend is be made to get together with my coworkers!

So instead of working tomorrow, I will be eating pizza and hanging out. Works for me.

ours is Friday evening, sigh. I had already said I'd go, so I feel obligated even though I'd really rather stay home. I spend soooo much time there during the week that I really like my off time for myself.

They'd never, ever shut down the clinic for such a thing, though.

 

[Saeleofu]

ours is Friday evening, sigh. I had already said I'd go, so I feel obligated even though I'd really rather stay home. I spend soooo much time there during the week that I really like my off time for myself.

They'd never, ever shut down the clinic for such a thing, though.

Yeah, we never shut our clinic down for ANYTHING. I was actually invited to this year's party even though I no longer work there, but I was working at the zoo that weekend.

Our zoo party is in January, and it's basically an enormous potluck. I enjoyed it last year, much more than I enjoyed the clinic parties. Probably because I enjoy working at the zoo so much more than the clinic lol

 

[sparks19]

Kids can be a challenge when it comes to food.

I always gave Hannah a wide variety of foods starting from the time she was about 6 months old but even still she went through lots of phases of liking this and not liking that.

She went through one phase when she was 2 or 3 where she would ONLY eat sandwiches lol. You could put just about anything on a sandwich and she'd eat it but it had to be a sandwich.

She eats pretty well now. Her favorite is Cauliflower of all things. BUT there are meals that I make that I KNOW she doesn't like. I'm not going to make her eat it... I made the meal knowing it's something she doesn't like. Like Chili... she loves to help make it, she loves beans and lots of the other things that are in it but I make it a little spicy and she doesn't like spicy. That's totally understandable. it wasn't until recently that I could handle a LITTLE spice myself. So if I make it knowing it's a meal she doesn't like, I'm not going to force her to sit and eat it. She can have leftovers from another meal. That doesn't make her spoiled or a brat... it makes her human.

 

[Julee]

Hung out with Katey, Abe, and Zoey again today, and Zoey was WILD. I can't stop laughing at the pictures I got of her. Abe was super excited to see Em, it was adorable.

 

[Babyblue5290]

My finals are done! YAY!! I feel so free lol

 

[Julee]

I made a new signature by myself that doesn't look like a five year old put it together!

 

[Red.Apricot]

I got an A in my microbio class!

 

[katielou]

Hung out with Katey, Abe, and Zoey again today, and Zoey was WILD. I can't stop laughing at the pictures I got of her. Abe was super excited to see Em, it was adorable.

She is sound asleep now! Crazy little dog!

 

[MandyPug]

I made myself dinner tonight. Sole en Papillote with Asparagus Risotto. Yum.

And now i'm going to use the paints I bought today and paint a peekture! Woo!