Sucky situation (long rant) just need advice & comfort also :(

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  1. Dogdragoness

    Dogdragoness Happy Spring!!!!

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    Well thr probs with out idiot boss have gotten worse, we are back at the other place & we find out that he has been telling the owner of the horses we train (& the boss of all of us) lots of crappy & not true things about us don't know exactly what but we know he told him things like we didn't listen to him (he is the superviser of the other place, my fiancee's friend is the boss of the one we are at right now) & we didn't take good care of the horses... Yadda Yadda. also when he comes & is supposed to work on or fix something half thr time he never shows up & thr other half he just stands around & smokes & orders the maintenance guys here (who he makes help him) around being very condescending to them. As well as us the entire time we were there when he knows the ppl have no choice but to put up with it.

    Well when he came to drop off a few retiring horses to be turned out, he asked how thr new feed buckets were doing, OH said not good since he stupidly chose snaps that were too small to get off with thr buckets for cleaning so as a result the horses play with them & break them. He told my OH to 'f-off' & not kidding about it so OH defended himself & a verbal fight insued. So we think he told thr boss that he didn't cause it & that it's all our fault.

    Our hatred for this guy started when he took over power & became a jerk who thinks he knows it all but really knows nothing, half the horses we broke plus a few of the older horses are now broke down thanks to him, but the real insult was when we got thr word that Izze was dying on the table while being prepped for surgery (i was actually GETTING the call from the vet when this was HAPPENING!!!) OH mentioned that we think someone we work with migh have done it or had something to do with it & the vet seemed to think so as well, he got mad & basically told OH that it was just a dog & that we should 'get over it'.

    It has also caused a strain on our relationship, which caused a fight that leaves me wondering what is going to happen with our relationship (like unsaid it's been tense & strained at times) don't worry about the dogs, they are family josefina (OH's dog) would go with him & Buddy of course would go with me. If worse came to worse that is... I still M optometric that it's just the stress of it all (the irritation has come more from his end then mine, but he's saying that it's things I'm doing but honestly I don't know what he is talking about) I mean I know I'm ADD so I can be weird anyway & it also means that I do NOT handle stress well, but it makes me depressed & withdrawn, not mad or bitter like he is but I guess everyone is different.

    Guess I'll wait & see what happens, the other day we learned that the boss might be moving all the babies soon (don't know when of if he will in the end send them all) to the other place, he was only planning to send 4. Will update .
     
  2. Renee750il

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    Sounds like a lot of confusion and turmoil to have to deal with. I hope you and your OH can sort out what's outside tension and unite yourselves to deal with it as a couple. It would be terrible for a jerkwad like this to not only make your working lives miserable but contribute to the destruction of your relationship.

    The bitch of it is that people like that get off on destroying other people's lives. Don't let him have that much power over you.
     
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    What Renee said. Is there any way you can have a heart to heart talk with the big boss and explain about this jerk...that it is he who is lying and making up mean stuff to say? It just sounds so stressful. I feel for you. I hope this can be sorted out and that your relationship with OH can be worked on. It is a shame to let some insecure, jerk with little man syndrome drive a wedge between you and your OH.

    (((hugs)))
     
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    Dogdragoness Happy Spring!!!!

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    i have decided not to let it, i know its hard & it hurts when he gets short with me & such but he is only human & he is like terrible under stress, i am not good either but i mostly recluse when faced with stress. i have decided to just be supportive & not bust his chops about it.

    he is having a night with the boys tonight (at one of their houses so no bars & no driving, nothing like that), i told him that i wanted him to go, that he needed this fun time with his buds.
     
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    Dogdragoness Happy Spring!!!!

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    after the thing happened with Izze (we are not at the place where Izze died anymore, that is the other ranch, the one run by this *******) we spend roughly six months at one & six months at the other.

    when we were at the other ranch, after the accident i never let them out of my sight, they stayed in their yard right in front of our mobile home when i was at work, the gate under lock & key, i had to pass our house & our yard on the way to dump our wheelbarrows in the manure trailer (& with 14 horses under our care, i was dumping wheelbarrows ALOT :/). u usually keep them in that yard because there is a seriously busy road right by the place, but i had to use the restroom pretty bad so i went int he house & i was going to wash my truck so i was going to be right back out (i wasnt in there five minutes) when all that happened.

    i still feel terrible about it, i know i failed Izze... who was such a loyal friend & guardian, she always had my back & i let her down... i pray everyday that she can forgive me .
     
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    Well it has happened, we have been let go, we didn't even know this was coming. The owner was here over the weekend & said nothing to us, even when he was at thr barn & seemed in an ok mood.

    Fast fwd to today, this morning he decided to take all the horses, then calls back & out of thr blue (I know that other ass hat was there talking in his ear thr entire time >:/) that he 'doesnt have anymore work for us' & he's going to have to 'let us go'. Again, ther me was NO warning no nothing, one minute tee are working here & thr next it's like... 'bye'. :(.

    I thi k we have another job but I don't know for sure, we might have to move back to the ranch for a while if this job doesn't pan out. Will update
     
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    It really sucks that he didn't give you guys more warning. :( (((hugs))). I guess he'll find out in the end that he let the good hard workers go and kept that toxic guy on.

    I know it's really stressful being unemployed, but this may be one of those blessing in disguise situations. You're not going to have that horrible jerk around any more. Tons of >>>vibes<<<< that you guys get settled down again and find an awesome job you love.
     
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    Well the big boss has changed his mind yet again, there are ppl lobbying for us both hat work for him & just know him, our neighbors that were renting the other barn for their horses at the place we are going to are in the process of moving out & I know it has something to do with the two guys that work there (no one likes them & they were worried that since they have had some disagreements that he would hurt their horses).

    We are going to see what becomes of this & I guess put away as much money as we can in case the big boss suddenly changes his mind... Again. It s going to be stressful on me trying to keep my dogs safe :(, they won't be able to use any fun, no off leash time anymore... Nothing.
     
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    I know this isn't relevant to your post, but if you copy and paste this into your signature it will show up when you post. Just delete the star I put in at the start (like this one *).

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    O hope your situation improves soon.
     

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