Social Skills (and lack there of)

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I'm running into a problem with Argon. He has no skills what so ever when it comes to interacting with other dogs. Which was fine at first, as he had not interest in doing so. Now he does, and it's rather painful to watch.
He attends daycare 5 days a week, the same daycare I work at, so I can observe him all day long.
When he sees a group playing, he will run up to the edge of the group and stand there, tail wagging. He will watch them play for a few minutes, then try to jump in. The only problem is, he is far too rough and generally doesn't get what is happening.
At other times, he will try and "flirt" with a single dog and entice them to play with him. He will walk up to them and play bow, or twist around and wave a paw at them. But when the other dog tries to play back, he's too rough again. He keeps trying.
It's not all dogs he is interested in, or even the same dogs from day to day, so it's hard to predict who he might want to play with so setting up a time with just him and one other dog probably won't work. The other dogs don't actively avoid him, but they mostly ignore him.
How can I help him? As a human, I know I can not teach canine social skills, but I hate to see him flounder like he is. I want him to know how to play nicely, but it seems like he needs help.
 

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Is there any aggression? How do the other dogs respond when he gets rough? How long has he been going to daycare?

If the other dogs are OK with him and there's no risk of aggression, he just needs to figure it out by watching and by seeing what works and what doesn't.
 
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He's been in daycare for the past 2 1/2 months, as long as I've fostered him. It's just the past two weeks probably that he's seemed to realize that the other dogs might be playmates and not moving scenery.
He can be a little DA, though it is mostly limited to on leash. If he is shoved roughtly, for example, and knocked down he may show teeth and fuss, but he has never made contact with another dog, and has never tried. I do supervise closely.
He probably still ignores these dogs 75% of the time.
when he gets too rough the other dogs usually back off and go back to playing with their group. I have probably watched this same scenario 5 times a day for the past two weeks.
I know he should get it eventually, but the correlation between his behavior and the other dogs ignoring him doesn't seem to be sinking in (he's cute, but not too bright :p )
He mostly wants to play "chase me", but he has a hard time engaging other dogs.
 

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I agree with CP, he needs to deduce what works and what doesn't.

Human children are the same way in the fact that if adults don't intervene and let the other children correct each other (as long as it's not bullying and such) they seem to learn a more lasting lesson as to what's expected. When adults intervene and FORCE the other children to "let little billy play too" it does nothing to help little billy in the long run, LOL

I am sure it will start to sink in........it might take him longer because as you've said, he didn't even care about other dogs until recently, LOL
 

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If you can I would pick one dog that you think is a good match size temperment and all and place those two together. You can help the play along by introducing a tug toy to play with. If it gets too rough you can talk calmly to them to settle it down. I thin if the two have playdates three times a week Argon will get it.
 

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