Roommate etiquitte?
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You could easily get on a lease unemployed if you have a roommate, anywhere. Especially one who has been paying the rent alone just fine. Why would every tenant in one unit need an income? What if the tenants were a couple and the wife stayed home and did not work? As long as ONE tenant has good enough credit and income to qualify anyone else can live with them and any adult living in the unit must be on a lease. Think about it, otherwise every adult with bad credit and low income would be homeless. There are tons of lenient landlords in the world but even a strict one would allow a person with no income and bad credit to be on a lease as long as they had a roommate who qualified. A roommate counts as a cosigner.
I think the point is she's lucky she has the roommate because you can't easily get an apartment without him being that she's still unemployed.
I say that meaning I would say something about quiet hours and phrase it as "I need sleep to prep for job interviews" but otherwise just go about things graciously, it could be worse again.
I say that meaning I would say something about quiet hours and phrase it as "I need sleep to prep for job interviews" but otherwise just go about things graciously, it could be worse again.
I suppose one could get an apartment with bad credit, etc. I know that my roommates and I had to submit proof of income (copies of pay stubs from our jobs) in order to rent the apartment. When my roommates and I were trying to rent this townhouse, we had to get my friend's dad to cosign with all four of us in order to get approved for this townhouse. I have good credit, but one roomie has bad credit and the others had no credit. Of course, our landlord could just be particular. He did want double the security deposit after all, and our realtor had to tell him basically "Eff you." Lol
I think it's pretty neat that you have a place to stay to keep out of the elements and be safe. A few days ago you posted that you had no place to go at all. You could mention about the late night noise, but in your current situation, I think I'd be grateful to have a roof over my head and a place to be safe. Keep working on getting on your feet....a job, etc and you can one day get your own place.
Honestly I am of the grateful no matter what camp.
Our roommate in the house we owned annoyed us frequently but she paid half our mortgage. She was never given a lease, she paid her money, and she bitched a lot. Then again we're not easy to live with with our dogs so we sucked it up and we were grateful she was there and even though we could afford the whole payment we didn't have to if she was around.
Being gracious, grateful, or the like doesn't mean you can't discuss guidelines, in fact that type of attitude tends to encourage compromise in the other party. Leveraging leases and payments only builds resentment and we're not willing to live with people we resent (beyond a reasonable timeline), life is too short to be unhappy.
We've made the choice to not have a roommate this time and suck it up and pay the whole mortgage ourselves. Why live in a frustratingly toxic home if you don't have to?
Our roommate in the house we owned annoyed us frequently but she paid half our mortgage. She was never given a lease, she paid her money, and she bitched a lot. Then again we're not easy to live with with our dogs so we sucked it up and we were grateful she was there and even though we could afford the whole payment we didn't have to if she was around.
Being gracious, grateful, or the like doesn't mean you can't discuss guidelines, in fact that type of attitude tends to encourage compromise in the other party. Leveraging leases and payments only builds resentment and we're not willing to live with people we resent (beyond a reasonable timeline), life is too short to be unhappy.
We've made the choice to not have a roommate this time and suck it up and pay the whole mortgage ourselves. Why live in a frustratingly toxic home if you don't have to?
I had a homeless cousin of my daughter's staying with us for a short period of time. It was no comfort, he slept in the laundry room, and it was cold in there, Mary was the one that curled up with him in the blankets and kept him warm. He would sit behind me and use the computer while I painted and worked on my clay chattering away. At first it made me grit my teeth, it broke my concentration, it "annoyed" me. But I didn't say anything. I got use to it, and eventually I didn't notice it at all. He got a job, and left. It didn't do me permanent damage. I don't do this anymore, taking in lost people is more dangerous than taking in lost dogs. Even so, you can get use to anything, given time. It's all in your attitude.
Even though you're paying 1/2, it's still lucky you found someone to go in with on this studio. It's not easy when you don't have or haven't had a steady job for a while. Yes, you deserve to get sleep and you should mention it in a nice way. But honestly....compared to not having anyplace to go, this should be a relief that this friend and his studio was available for you. Hang in there...things will improve. I think it's important to look at the glass half full....at all costs.