Opinion on Rehoming

Discussion in 'Dogs - General Dog Chat' started by ~Tucker&Me~, Apr 23, 2012.

  1. sassafras

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    A random stranger off CL? No way.

    I would have to have a pre-existing relationship (friend or family) to consider such a thing even for a nanosecond. Even then I'd be VERY clear about my boundaries ahead of time. Like, my new dog and I are not at your beck and call every time you want to spend a sunny afternoon with him/her.
     
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    Fran101 Resident fainting goat

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    I think that would honestly be my biggest issue with it, even WITH close friends/family

    The whole, oh well he's my dog when it comes to bills, poop, winter walks and shedding...
    but on that perfect saturday afternoon where I want to take him to the park and ENJOY the perks of dog ownership you are going to stop by with your family and borrow him?

    ehh..No.
     
  3. Saeleofu

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    I would be okay with them visiting, on my terms, with me tagging along. Maybe I jsut think the worst, but what's to stop them from changing their minds, taking the dog for a "weekend" and never bringing it back.
     
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    This sort of thing is something the father of one of Snipe's former teenage owners brought up the last time I saw him. He got a confused "um her training isn't there yet" when he asked if he could take her hiking sometime. o_O It caught DH and I totally off guard, especially because he nor the kids had expressed any interest in seeing her or getting updates for the prior 4-5 months that Snipe had lived with us.

    We had told the kids that they could come visit and maybe go hiking with her *with* us since they seemed quite upset and like they were trying to do the best thing for her, but there's no way in H*LL that I'd give her over to them for unsupervised time.
     
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    Not unless the other person was someone I was related to. I kind of do that with my son's dog. Toker really is still his dog, but she stays with "Grandma" a lot and one year, a little more than a year, she lived with me while he was out of state on a job. But he takes care of her most of the time. I help out and take her to the vets when she needs it if he's at work. I dremel her nails and take her for walks some of the time. If his day is going to be extra long, she comes to my house. She's not made anxious or anything by this arrangement, as she's so use to it. But I can see it not being fun for a dog that has not been going to and from different homes much. It could be extra stressful for some dogs.

    So, to answer the question, I would not adopt a dog under those circumstances and I would not want to put that kind of stipulation on someone if he/she were taking my dog on. (other than my son and his dog or something similar.) But maybe that's different. Maybe that's more like babysitting. lol.
     
  6. Paige

    Paige Let it be

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    No I would not humor it in the slightest. It is not your dog anymore. You want an email update or to come over to visit once in a blue moon? Fine. But anything more than that is over my personal comfort level.
     
  7. Kat09Tails

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    It's a co ownership - just without the normal jargon. How many people do I know who have a co ownership with a breeder for breeding rights or showing on the weekends. Is it really all that different?

    Would I personally do it? Nope but I don't do co ownerships with breeders or people I sell to. Life is complicated enough without sharing the dog with someone I know, let alone barely know.
     
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    I wonder what the dog would think of it too...wouldn't they be confused spending living with someone, and having their other person visit? I'm trying not to be anthropomorphic but I just think the dog wouldn't get it.

    I did attempt to adopt a dog a long time ago from the vet clinic I worked at. The lady was boarding 3 dogs (that hated each other) long term...they were there for over a year. She had a dane mix that always got colitis and happy tail there, and although a happy dog he needed way more interaction. I called her up one day and asked if she would consider letting him come home with me, and it was a "Oh that would be great! Awesome! ...well I want to come visit, and when I get my housing figured out, I might come back and get him.". Eh..stop right there. No. I would have made her sign him over to me officially. Unfortunately she got in an argument with the hospital eventually and moved the dogs to another facility. :(
     
  9. ThoseWordsAtBest

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    I immediately balked but.. my foster Elsa. There is just no way I can feasibly imagine her going to her new home and never hearing about her again. I don't want them to be at my call whenever I want to see her, but I do want to see her, or at least get updates about her.
     
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    It is completely different. I co-own Logan with his breeder. I trust her completely, and I know she would never come take him away from me just because. I would not trust some random person on Craigslist like that, no way! Actually I think too many people view a co-ownership like this (and give co-ownership a bad name) when it's really not like that at all. Logan's breeder hasn't even seen Logan in almost 2 years (sadly...I wanted to go visit this spring but I can't afford it now :( ). She's not going to randomly pop in one weekend and haul him off - for an hour or forever.
     
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    Maybe your co ownership is like that but I know of lots... and I do mean LOTS which are. I have a good friend who currently has to drive a dog her dog 4 hrs one way at least once a month so her breeder can show her in a bred by class- no she can't show her dog herself - it must be done by the breeder so they can get that stupid bred by medal. In a year or so the breeder will breed a litter to a stud of not my friend's choice and that she will not be able to retain a single pup from. Her situation isn't really unique.

    Co ownerships fall into two categories from my experience with them: Great and the best of all worlds or pretty unreasonable, exploited, and crappy. Personally I think they're a legal nightmare and probably should be phased out of the registry system but then again, I would never agree to one in the first place.
     
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    I wouldn't do it.
    But thats not to say it wouldn't work for other people. Someone that is busy themselves or often leaving town for work might appreciate someone that the dog knows that they can stay with often. And I think for the right dog it would only add to their quality of life having multiple people/families that they know provide for them.

    I can see where it could get messy. The dog having 2 different sets of house rules and expectations for one could lead to a lot of confusion, and for another I can see a legal mess if one of the parties decides they want to have more control.
     
  13. SevenSins

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    I always have to ask, when people bitch about how unfair their co-ownerships are... Why did she sign the contract?
     
  14. Kat09Tails

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    Again, not my contract to sign and really I don't even know if she's unhappy with it as it is her obligation to follow the agreement. I know I wouldn't agree to foot the bill for someone else's gain just as I won't take all the risk/cost for someone else's credit. I don't really know why she signed the contract or why ANYONE agrees to sign a co ownership agreement which reads more like a 50% lease on a bull or racehorse other than the heart wants something and is willing to do all kinds of stupid stuff in pursuit of it.

    I've known far more people bitten by co ownerships than those who are happy with them. Maybe it's because those who are happy never really mention they co own anything and those who are unhappy harp about it like a divorce dispute. ;)
     
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    I co-own one of Renee's puppies from the first litter. The buyer was considering wanting to breed, and certainly wanted to show. I didn't feel comfortable selling with breeding rights, but figured co-owned she'd need to discuss things with me if/when she wanted to breed. She did complete his Championship, so I'm pleased with that. I was willing to help out, but she had a friend help her, which worked just as well. After she got the Championship she asked what it would take to pass full ownership - my response was a non-breeding agreement. It's not the showing that's the problem, it's the responsibilities of being a stud owner and the risks of breeding. I don't want him bred to just anyone and everyone...
     
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    I can totally understand where that person is coming from, since I share Boomer with his owner, and it's fantastic. If I ever want to take Boomer out into the mountains, downtown for a afternoon, or just have a bored annoying Duke at home I can have him whenever I want. I always ask in advance and never try to be annoying, but I know he would never mind. On the other hand, he has my dog all the time too. Duke is with him all day while I'm at work and he'll pick him up on the weekends if I'm busy.

    Being a 'part time owner' of a second dog alleviates my need for another. I desperately want a puppy but when I already have two dogs there's no need. And it makes having Duke ten times easier!

    However, if I was adopting a dog from a stranger, absolutely not. Who knows when the day comes where they just decide they want the dog back? Also the care issue, you don't know what they're doing with the dog. I always know Duke is in great hands, in fact he reinforces manners more than I do! You're rehoming the dog. Wanting pictures and maybe to visit once a while... like meeting me in a dog park during a walk or something.. that's okay to request. But to take the dog regularly and even for a whole weekend.. nope!
     
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    This! I can see a shared ownership working, but only wanting the dog for the fun stuff? No way.
     
  19. Emily

    Emily Rollin' with my bitches

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    Maybe CKC is different, but if this were an agreement with AKC reg'd dogs, you'd be out of luck, as it only takes 1 owner's signature for the stud to let the papers go through. Something I never really understood... one signature for dogs, all the signatures for bitches? Weird.

    Anyway, I would never agree to the proposed agreement in the ad. I get they want to see the dog, but you don't get to have someone else do all the work while you show up just in time for fun.
     
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    I got my collie through a re-home situation and I would not have been comfortable with the previous owners visiting him or taking him for walks etc. I want full control over my dogs, how they are trained and socialized etc. I would send them pictures or updates (I send Radars foster mom updates) I would also worry about them changing their mind and wanting to have the dog back when their situation changes or improves.
     

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