I've come to a realization today and I'm not happy about it. Don't know if it is normal or not, but either way it isn't making things fun for me so I was wondering if anyone had any advice to cope with it, or make it better.
I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year now. No problems there, everything is great. However, I think I might be too attached, if that makes any sense whatsoever.
We aren't currently living together. When I still lived at home, I was at his place at least every other day, if not for multiple days in a row. Now that I have my own apartment I'm still over at his place every other day, or every two days, and I often spend all weekend with him. That's when we both aren't working (typically) and have time to actually spend with each other besides just a few hours before going to sleep.
For some time now I've felt disquieted when I'm at my apartment for more than just a night. When I'm there all day without anything to do (like if I have a day off), I am just antsy the entire day. This evening when I was leaving Mike's apartment to go have dinner with my family, I actually started to feel depressed. It kind of shocked me, actually, but I legitimately felt depressed about leaving, especially knowing I wouldn't be able to be back until Friday evening. Not to the point I was in tears or anything, but it just put me in a horrible mood.
It's not just being around my boyfriend - he can be gone and if I'm at his place with the dogs, I'm perfectly content. Happy, don't feel anxious, no random bad moods, etc., etc.
A.) Is this normal? This is the first serious relationship (aka, wedding bells in the future) I've ever been in, so new ground for me.
I know part of the reason is I have nothing at my apartment that I'm attached to. I have my material things, but he and the dogs are all at his place. Dameon (and the rats) are the only things that give me emotional connection to my place. When I come home from work and I walk into an empty house...its just depressing. I don't know what I'm going to do when Dameon passes on, because he is who keeps me company. And when he is in one of his bad spells I feel even worse.
B.) What the heck can I do about it? Besides telling myself to grow up and get over it? (Which works sometimes, but not always.) I try to stay busy (between work and school and I'm gone around 12 hours a day, so my down time is limited), but when I do have downtime I almost always end up in a bad mood.
C.) Is this something my birth control could be effecting? I talked with one of my friends and she was on the same birth control (Sprintec) and she said it caused her to become seriously depressed. So much so that she had to switch off before she did something stupid. I'm not near that bad, and I've been on it for around six months now, I think, so I would have assumed it would have caused issues before hand as opposed to now.
Thoughts? Advice?
I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year now. No problems there, everything is great. However, I think I might be too attached, if that makes any sense whatsoever.
We aren't currently living together. When I still lived at home, I was at his place at least every other day, if not for multiple days in a row. Now that I have my own apartment I'm still over at his place every other day, or every two days, and I often spend all weekend with him. That's when we both aren't working (typically) and have time to actually spend with each other besides just a few hours before going to sleep.
For some time now I've felt disquieted when I'm at my apartment for more than just a night. When I'm there all day without anything to do (like if I have a day off), I am just antsy the entire day. This evening when I was leaving Mike's apartment to go have dinner with my family, I actually started to feel depressed. It kind of shocked me, actually, but I legitimately felt depressed about leaving, especially knowing I wouldn't be able to be back until Friday evening. Not to the point I was in tears or anything, but it just put me in a horrible mood.
It's not just being around my boyfriend - he can be gone and if I'm at his place with the dogs, I'm perfectly content. Happy, don't feel anxious, no random bad moods, etc., etc.
A.) Is this normal? This is the first serious relationship (aka, wedding bells in the future) I've ever been in, so new ground for me.
I know part of the reason is I have nothing at my apartment that I'm attached to. I have my material things, but he and the dogs are all at his place. Dameon (and the rats) are the only things that give me emotional connection to my place. When I come home from work and I walk into an empty house...its just depressing. I don't know what I'm going to do when Dameon passes on, because he is who keeps me company. And when he is in one of his bad spells I feel even worse.
B.) What the heck can I do about it? Besides telling myself to grow up and get over it? (Which works sometimes, but not always.) I try to stay busy (between work and school and I'm gone around 12 hours a day, so my down time is limited), but when I do have downtime I almost always end up in a bad mood.
C.) Is this something my birth control could be effecting? I talked with one of my friends and she was on the same birth control (Sprintec) and she said it caused her to become seriously depressed. So much so that she had to switch off before she did something stupid. I'm not near that bad, and I've been on it for around six months now, I think, so I would have assumed it would have caused issues before hand as opposed to now.
Thoughts? Advice?
