Grimm blew his adoption and will be coming back to me on Monday. He stayed with my coworker for 2 weeks, never bonded to her even a little, slunk around like she was beating him day after day, and has started to pull his own fur out. Obviously, this is not the right placement for him. When he was at my house, he was easy going, housebroken, and very sweet. He was shy with strangers, but would approach them and be friendly if he was not crowded. He was never aggressive. At her house, he kept having accidents, despite being taken out regularly. I think he was afraid to be vulnerable and poop in front of her, and was then holding it until he exploded. He would hide from strangers, and was even afraid of her and her boyfriend. How do I help him? Considering that he is now mutilating himself with the fur pulling, should we consider short term medication? Another coworker has expressed interest in him (yes, even after hearing all of this). Would it be better for Grimm to go straight to her, or to come back to me for a period, and then go to her? I don't want him to rebond to me and feel like he's been kidnapped again, but I don't want to give her a completely traumatized animal either. The only bright point right now is that he is still not showing aggresssion. When Grimm is with me, he is friendly, outgoing and very sweet. He came very close to getting his CGC a month or so ago, which is why his behavior suprises me like it does. Apparently I am his safe person, and he's great when we're together, but falls apart completely when we are seperated. I don't have him back yet, but what should I do? Adopting him myself is not an option, I just can not afford two dogs and the kittten. Sending him back to the shelter is not an option either. If I felt like there was a foster home taht could do more for him then I can, I would let him go, but there isn't. Scary as it sounds, I'm the best they have for a dog like him. Anyone?