My baby has passed away

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  1. lavenderlady5

    lavenderlady5 3 Big Dogs

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    My baby Bently has passed away after a fierce bout with cancer. My heart is broken. I just can't seem to get motivated about anything. I just have no energy. Worst of all, he passed when we were not home. WE ARE ALWAYS HOME!! I feel guilty and so sad that he passed on without someone there to hold his paw. I feel awful. We have two other boys but.... I just can't stop crying and missing him... thanks for listening to my pain...
     
  2. sharpeilover

    sharpeilover Dogs rule humans drool

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    i am so sorry for yr loss
     
  3. Twilight

    Twilight Boxer Rescue

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    So sorry to hear about bentley, Must be awfull for you :(
    that horrible disease gives me the shivers :(
     
  4. joce

    joce Active Member

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    I'm sorry. He might have waited till you were not there to pass. I'm sure he was well loved and had a great life.
     
  5. Gustav

    Gustav Don't encourage me..

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    I'm truely sorry for your loss!!! I saw this on another forum and wondered if it would help!

    Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.

    There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.

    There is plenty of food, water, and sunshine and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor, those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

    The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing, they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

    They all run and play together, but then the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance.

    His bright eyes are intent his eager body begins to quiver.

    Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again.

    The happy kisses rain upon your face, your hands again caress the beloved head and you look into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together...

    ~Author Unknown
     
  6. Renee750il

    Renee750il Felurian

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    Oh, I am so, so sad for you all. I had wondered how things were going. Try not to feel so awful about not being home. Some animals - like people - just want to drift off in silence and will wait until they have the chance to do so alone. You love Bently so much and have given him such good care and so much love. No regrets. Just try to remember all the funny, loving moments you had together and remember that he will never desert you. One day when you least expect it you will find that Bently's sent you someone to make a new place in your heart next to his. Just listen with your heart. And don't forget, your other two will be grieving as well. Spend some time just being together now.
     
  7. bogolove

    bogolove New Member

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    I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose your baby like that. I know how you feel. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  8. Saje

    Saje Island dweller

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    I am truly sorry.

    When my grandpa died he died alone in the hospital. And that always broke my grandma's heart to think about that. She didn't want to leave. But later, I was with her when she was telling one of her nurses about that. It was years later but she was still upset. And the nurse said some people choose to die alone. They don't want to make the people they are with suffer. And that dying is such a personal thing that some people want to do it alone and others want to do it with people around. My cousin and I were with my grandma when she died.

    I truly believe that when someone is dying of a disease they may not get to choose exactly when they go but I think they have a little control over when to 'let go.' Maybe your dog wanted to do it alone.

    Don't feel bad about it. He knew that you loved him and I'm sure he had a happy life with your family.

    Try to get as much sleep as you can. Cry as much as you want. I'm a believer in crying. It's very therapeutic. :)

    Eventually it will get a little easier.

    And please talk about it as much as you want here. We will never get tired of hearing stories about him or about how you are feeling. You have a sympathetic ear with us. :)
     
  9. Nitewarrior

    Nitewarrior Abby's Mom

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    I feel for you. My Whiskey was 14 last May and died in August of Cancer. I was heart broken and said I would never love again. But after a couple of months I was so lonely that I broke down and started looking for a compaion and that is when I found Abby. She will never replace Whiskey but she is make my loneliness subside and she is a great compaion. My heart and thoughts are with you.
     
  10. avenlee

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    So very sorry to hear of your loss.
     
  11. YorkieLover

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    I am sooo sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the pain and sorrow you are going through right now. We have only had our Cocoa Anne for 4 1/2 months and I would be devestated if something happened to her. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  12. Denaluvscorgis

    Denaluvscorgis Corgi bum

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    I'm so sorry to hear about Bently. It's so extremely hard to lose one that you love so much, and has added so much to our lives. He was lucky to have you and your family!!! Take care of yourself.

    Hugs,
    Dena
     
  13. Sunnypup

    Sunnypup mostly ignored...

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    I am so sorry. I don't know exactly what you are going through but my sweety Hunter (a border collie mix who was just over a year and very poorly behaved when I adopted him) ran out in front of a speeding car (shouldn't have been going that frickin fast on our little street) and died almost instantly 3 days before Christmas. There was nothing I could do. My foster kids called the police and offered to off the guy (not seriously...atleast I think they were joking) for me but there was nothing to do. I felt like part of me had died and I cried for almost two days straight, and then every time I sat at the computer or laid on the bed (he always used to sit both places with me for hours) for almost a week after that. it still hurts matter of fact to talk about it. It sucks to put so much time and effort and love into a single living thing and have it die and then have people tell you to get over it since it is "just a dog". What helped me (and I highly recommend this if you have the time) is get a puppy that needs you almost all of the time. I was going to wait, show hunter respect and not get another dog for a while but started missing having a pet so much I started looking a week or so later and found Sunny. He needed me and I couldn't focus on my grief when he needed to be fed and taken out for walks and to go potty and to be trained and to be cuddled. He needed me and I needed him. I know it may feel too soon but many people reccomend this. I know it seems like betraying a friend but I don't think that a friend would want you to grieve for them, but to move on and be happy. Just my two cents. One way or another good luck and I am so sorry for your pain and loss.
     
  14. Barb04

    Barb04 Love my pets Staff Member

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    I am so sorry to hear about Bently. His passing while you were gone was maybe his way of easing your pain in the end. Bently knew how much you loved & cared for him. He will always be with you in your heart. I'd love to hear some stories about Bently when you feel you're up to it. I bet he could make you laugh. We are here for you.
     
  15. BigDog2191

    BigDog2191 Big German Shepherd

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    Very sorry to hear about your dog, don't feel bad that you weren't there. I don't think he wanted you to see him in such agony. :(

    I hope you feel better.
     

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