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    im 24 years old and i have time to do things but what?

    strange question i know
    for instance id love a career, id love to do a job that i love to do but how will it ever happen? i cant afford to give up work and go to university and i dont drive so would find travelling difficult.
    i also couldnt do something 5 days a week 9-5 as i want to see ellie grow up.
    i also want another baby in time so even if i did get a career id have to end it for that oh i just feel funny tonight

    i just dont want to wake up in 20 years time and look back with regrets

    the thinks i do want to do are so out of my reach its impossible
     
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    What do you love to do?
     
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    there are several things in my dreams id love to do

    the main two are:
    have a livery yard
    have a kennels

    then there is
    be a photographer
     
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    Bassetlover...I feel your anxiety over this issue. You say, "the things i do want to do are so out of my reach its impossible", nothing is impossible. You just need to live life one day at a time, and take opportunities when they arise.

    Think of the way your life is right now, you have a child, you just got married, and you want to have another baby, so there's nothing to say that you can't watch your children grow up and then start out on a career.

    You say you don't want to look back in 20 years and have regrets, but what if you start out on a career now, and miss watching Ellie grow up, I think that would be the biggest regret of all. You are so young and have plenty of time to make a career.

    It's perfectly okay to feel like you have no direction in your life, but when those feelings arise, it's important to look at all that you do have in your life and see the true beauty in it, and be thankful for it.

    Life is tough...I'm in the same boat as you, I was washing dishes the other night thinking, "I have lost focus on what I want to do with my life and where I want to be." I'm 23 years old and definetly not happy with my job, I work at a daycare and I love the children I work with to death, but it's not where I want to be. It's not the age group I want to work with. I find myself so frustrated at work and so frustrated with the kids, that I'm starting to not care anymore. I have even thought about seeking counseling to help me sort out all of the events that have taken place in my life in the past 2 years.

    Life is a funny thing...one minute you are untouchable and the next, you get thrown a curveball that knocks you off your feet and leaves your head spinning. I'm here for you if you ever need to vent and ramble, I'm also glad that I know someone else is feeling the same feelings I am. Take care, and keep your head up!
     
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    sometimes i feel really selfish, there are hundreds of people who are far worse than me but i still get frustrated with my life.

    i think we have so many images of what our life will be and then when you take a look and it isnt what you hoped for it gets you down

    seriously though my job sucks, i work in a stupid gift shop owned by my annoying mother in law and i have to put up with her moods and arrogance day in day out.
    people laugh when you tell them your dreams, probably because they know they will never happen.
    so is it better to dream and be dissapointed or to put up with things and never have any dissapointments
     
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    NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THEN THE BEST!!!!!!!!! You dream about the dreams you have for yourself, and you know what, maybe they won't come true the way you want them to, and maybe you'll be dissapointed, but if you don't try to go after what you want, then you are letting yourself down, and you will never know how it will work out if you don't try. Don't settle for ordinary, go above and beyond. Whoever shoots down your dreams is a down right idiot. At least you have dreams and aspirations for yourself.

    What is a livery yard? Sorry, I'm kinda lost in the dark on that :)

    Maybe you could find a part time job being a photographer??
     
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    a livery yard is a place where people can keep their horses

    to do photography id need to do a uni course, the only uni that does it is 40mins drive away(about an hour by train) and its a full time 3 year course.
     
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    do you have enough space to keep a livery yard? I think that would be an incredible job. So it would be like other people boarding their horses on your property, or wherever the livery yard is?

    Dang on the photography! Full time for three years, ouch. Long time and probably costs a pretty penny too.
     
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    You don't have to go to a university to be a photographer. All you need is a business license, a website, and some free time. Oh yeah and being good at it helps!
     
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    yeah but how do i afford a decent camera
     
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    Bank Loan! Depends on if you want to go digital or use film on the price. I'd say look into Minolta, Nikon, maybe even a Cannon to get started they are not outrageously priced and they take really good pics. if you want to go top of the line the Hasselblad is as good as they come.
     
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    I was saying those same things when I was your age.....come to think of it I still am at twice your age
     
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    The best photo my photography teacher ever took was with her little point 'n shoot camera when she was first starting out. And she's won many awards. Nice cameras do help but it's not all about them. It's about what you see in your head and then figure out how to get it.
     
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    I know how you feel. I am 27 and I work for a law office and I have a wonderful home, and a wonderful husband, but something is missing. I sit at my desk at work and think to myself, is this it? Is this what I am to do forever? Sometimes I really get in the dumps about it, because I don't want to sit staring at a computer and typing forever. But what? what else is there? I think about opening up my own grooming business, and I also one day would love to have kennels. Is that what I will do? I have no idea.

    Maybe it something to do with our age, and trying to feel how we measure up, I don't know. I think that when I have children though, I don't want to put them in child care if at all possible, so you are right to enjoy your time with Ellie. You won't regret that ever.

    Maybe we will figure it out soon. I hope so, but right now I just take it a day at a time, and when I get some debt paid off, I am going to take grooming classes. It is a start.

    I just wanted you to know that there was someone else who felt like that frequently too.
     
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    nature will take its course and something out there is meant :) good luck
     
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    I think I can understand..... you are young and missed out on the "fun" years. I had my 1st child at your age and from then on mother, wife housemaker. I took all seriously and hope I did a good job. I was still finding myself 3 yrs ago .... up until then I was a daughter, wife and caregiver. Yes, I now am still a mother and grandmother, but it's not my issues...I only love and support with love. It will come for you !! until then enjoy what you've been blessed with .
     
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    Im 31, I never looked this far ahead when I was your age. Im not disappointed or regretfull of my life to this point, for all I know Ive exeeded my own expectations.

    Ild like to be a river guide, Im getting the equiptment slowly to maybe take that jump. For now I just enjoy it when I get out on a river. Then after I get the gear I have to get the safety qualifications and lisencing. It would be a great way to spend the summer earning money and meeting people, I could still wire houses in the winter.

    Im good at what I do, maybe someday Ill be good enough at one of my hobbies to make a go at my own buisiness.

    In a way Im glad Im not married with children, I wouldnt be able to afford to have the wife stay home with the kids, Im not attractive enough to attract a wife that can afford for me to be a stay at home dad, Im not good arm candy. I was a latch key kid, at least I think thats the right term, I dont want any offspring of mine to be.

    My mom was in her 40s when she got her BA and her MA, I hope those are the right terms. Im not sure what she is schooling for now.
     
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    I feel exactly the same, dissapointment, frustration. Sometimes I get so down about it I break down and sob my heart out. I did it last weekend, thinking, Is this it? Is this what my life is going to be like for the next 60 years, cleaning, and grocery shopping on the weekend, work 9-5 mon-fri, cooking and cleaning when I come home from work? God its making me depressed just writing this. I always thought my life would be more. Mind you the doctor did say I was suffering from depression. That might have something to do with it. I think it might be our age too, Im 22. And Im sure I didnt feel like this 2 years ago.

    Life sucks :(
     
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    well i really did miss out(NOT THAT I WOULD CHANGE THINGS) but i left home(and school) at 15 i told my first employer i was 17 to get the job(training racehorses) and moved miles away from home, by the time i cam home i was 18 and met serge almost right away, we bought our house both aged 20 and here we are today, my friends are all going on girly holidays and weekends of mad partying, although i could still do it my health restricts me also. so yeah i do feel im missing out/missed out on things.
     

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