Motherhood is not for everybody. The sad thing is, many people don't figure that out until they are a mother. A lot of people say that motherhood is a difficult but worthwhile experience to have for all women. That women will naturally love being one. So women who become pregnant will convince themselves that motherhood is something that they will love doing, despite the hard work. Google "I hate being a mother" and you will find many women who feel as though their life came to an end after they had a baby. Googling it will be the only way to see that perspective because in our society, it is look down upon for women to hate motherhood so it is not something that will be openly talk about. The anonymity of the internet gives a women a chance to vent their feelings without fear of backlash in real life. I think every girl should read this other perspective because so many people have this idea that motherhood is something all women will love.
I believe that society is moving in a direction where more and more women are not motherhood material. What I mean we live in a time where women are enlighten, we can have careers, we don't need a man to take care of us. We have expectations for our lives now where before we were all expected to stay at home and have kids and many of us didn't even have a proper education. Its easier to fall into motherhood when you don't know what your missing out on. Now women know what they are missing, now we want to accomplish more things and having a child will make doing just that extremely complicated. In societies where women have the same right to work as men, the birth rate is decreasing dramatically to the point where some advance countries are actually paying people to have children. Less develop countries where women aren't equal still have a very high birth rate. Being just a mother is not something girls want to be now.
I believe that when you have a child, you should be willing to give a large part of your life for them. That child should be your top priority. Unfortunately, many women just can't do that. I love kids, just love them, but I'm too selfish to have one. I'm a career women. I'm going to college, I'm going to pursue my dreams, I'm going live for me. If I had a baby right now I would probably be resentful. Resentful that my plans will be made much harder now that I have someone who is entirely dependent on me. That is not fair. That is not fair to the child I bring into this world. Children need to be given constant attention, constant guidance, constant care. If you neglect that, than you screwed up a life. That child will grow up to an adult with so many problems.
My cousin had a baby girl when she was 17. She was not ready to become a mother. She had a life of her own. She was going to the military, she was young and pretty and did not want to miss out on the party life. My niece would spend days to months moving from aunty to aunty when my cousin had to do military training, or she had somewhere important to go. Many people don't realize that a baby could be emotionally damage in their young years. I went to family reunion, the girl was two, and I notice that every time my cousin went out the door for something, my niece would start crying hysterically. The poor girl got use to her mother leaving and she wasn't sure whether she would be back in a day or months. At the age of three y cousin went for three months for more military training and my niece was sent to another state to live with another aunty. After my cousin got back, she didn't go get her daughter. She started enjoying her young life, going to parties, hanging with friends, getting a job. My niece ended up staying with my aunty and haven't seen her mother in so long. I think she is better off with my aunty, but no doubt about it my niece is going to grow up with some serious emotional issues because of this. My cousin was not ready to give up much of her life for her child. She was too selfish. Her child payed the price for it.
That is why, whenever I hear of someone not planning on being pregnant become pregnant, I feel that person should really think whether or not they should keep that child. Whether by abortion or adoption, whichever one, if your not ready for a child, it is best NOT to have one. This is a whole life you are bringing into this word. A screwed up childhood will affect a person for the rest of their life. You have to ask yourself are your ready to give yourself up for a child.
I'm having a financial crisis that happened when we had a "snowball" of problems accumulate... It's not like this all the time, I can assure anyone here of that. In a few months, we will be all the way caught up and it is a shame that these issues sparked during the beginning of my pregnancy. Luckily we have 9 months prep time and babies don't just fly out in a couple weeks!