It sounds like you've already gotten MORE than enough... advice. :| So I won't go any further than that, other than encouraging you to apply for jobs! Retail jobs are super easy, even while pregnant, and in high demand during the holidays.
I also encourage you to go ahead and get all of the public assistance you can. Unemployment, food stamps, whatever. They are in place to help people when they need help. If you're on bed rest and have a doctor's order for that, you can get disability benefits. Don't be ashamed or let anyone make you feel bad about taking advantage of assistance programs - it's not like you're going to be raising 6 kids from different fathers on welfare for the rest of your life!!! You lost your job, you need help temporarily until you get on your feet. The stress of this issue is bad for your health, your baby's health and your relationship so do whatever you can now to ease your stress & not have to worry about living day to day.
I'm really sorry you're going through this, and I'm sorry that people are going to question your ability to care for a child because of it. Some people seem to think that you need millions of dollars to be an adequate parent... you don't! You just need to do what you have to do to provide a stable life for your family. You have 7 months to figure everything out and while it sucks to be struggling right now, it would be so much worse to struggle like this after bringing your child into the world.
For me, getting pregnant was such a blessing not only for my relationship with my boyfriend, but also for my personal maturity, responsibility and motivation. In the 6 years since I turned 18 I've had REALLY good jobs that I threw away, I changed my major 3 times and dropped out of college, I've wasted money on the most meaningless garbage, and I've had very little direction in life other than partying and popularity. Having a baby made me focus on my needs much more than my wants, and motivated me to become an adult and actually take care of things without endlessly procrastinating. It forces you to look so much further into the future than ever before, and make you so determined to create a happy life for your family. Some people look at getting pregnant as a financial burden for 18 years, but really it's been the biggest motivation I've ever had to do better for myself. During hard times you can either fight with your boyfriend or be a team with him... actively work to do the latter. You're both in this situation together, you are going to have a baby together. Trust that everything happens for a reason, you're having his baby for a reason, he's working and he's trying and he's sticking with you!!! Appreciate that, and do as much for him and to make him feel loved as you can. Going through hardships has made my relationship with my baby's father SO much stronger, and we love each other much more every day, even though there were moments when we both questioned it.
I also encourage you to go ahead and get all of the public assistance you can. Unemployment, food stamps, whatever. They are in place to help people when they need help. If you're on bed rest and have a doctor's order for that, you can get disability benefits. Don't be ashamed or let anyone make you feel bad about taking advantage of assistance programs - it's not like you're going to be raising 6 kids from different fathers on welfare for the rest of your life!!! You lost your job, you need help temporarily until you get on your feet. The stress of this issue is bad for your health, your baby's health and your relationship so do whatever you can now to ease your stress & not have to worry about living day to day.
I'm really sorry you're going through this, and I'm sorry that people are going to question your ability to care for a child because of it. Some people seem to think that you need millions of dollars to be an adequate parent... you don't! You just need to do what you have to do to provide a stable life for your family. You have 7 months to figure everything out and while it sucks to be struggling right now, it would be so much worse to struggle like this after bringing your child into the world.
For me, getting pregnant was such a blessing not only for my relationship with my boyfriend, but also for my personal maturity, responsibility and motivation. In the 6 years since I turned 18 I've had REALLY good jobs that I threw away, I changed my major 3 times and dropped out of college, I've wasted money on the most meaningless garbage, and I've had very little direction in life other than partying and popularity. Having a baby made me focus on my needs much more than my wants, and motivated me to become an adult and actually take care of things without endlessly procrastinating. It forces you to look so much further into the future than ever before, and make you so determined to create a happy life for your family. Some people look at getting pregnant as a financial burden for 18 years, but really it's been the biggest motivation I've ever had to do better for myself. During hard times you can either fight with your boyfriend or be a team with him... actively work to do the latter. You're both in this situation together, you are going to have a baby together. Trust that everything happens for a reason, you're having his baby for a reason, he's working and he's trying and he's sticking with you!!! Appreciate that, and do as much for him and to make him feel loved as you can. Going through hardships has made my relationship with my baby's father SO much stronger, and we love each other much more every day, even though there were moments when we both questioned it.
There are plenty of things that will happen over a lifetime where you won't "feel" like you're in love and it is that love and commitment that will get you thru. If you're basing it on a "feeling" might as well accept the inevitable.
