I'm about to have a mental breakdown.
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I'm leaving because he won't. I found the dating website yesterday, went home for the night thinking maybe it wasn't as bad as i thought to find that all this morning. He will literally hover over top of me, didn't want to let my aunt in our house and it's just not worth it to stay. He has control over everything in that house. Money, the car, works for the cable company so can cut off the land line and any access to the outside world etc. I'm going back to Vancouver so we will have five hours away from each other.
I'm going to the doctor asap. I've been through a cheating, lying boyfriend before (Briggs' father) and luckily i got out of that STD free. I'm hoping at the very worst i have something curable but honestly I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the worst because lets face it... these are cheap hookers. I highly doubt he wore protection because he didn't care and think to not do it. So why the heck would he wrap it up?
I have Briggs and I have Bandit and that's all I care about. I'm put in a bit of an awkward situation though as he keeps insisting he is going to pay child support for Briggs. I get a grand total of nothing and am in no contact with my other ex yet I feel incredibly uncomfortable taking his money. While I know he's being serious I feel like that could be just one more thing to stay in contact over. He's obviously going to have to pay child support for the 2nd baby so i dont know if I should just let him pay for Briggs too so I dont have to deal with both my idiot exes.
I'm going to the doctor asap. I've been through a cheating, lying boyfriend before (Briggs' father) and luckily i got out of that STD free. I'm hoping at the very worst i have something curable but honestly I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the worst because lets face it... these are cheap hookers. I highly doubt he wore protection because he didn't care and think to not do it. So why the heck would he wrap it up?
I have Briggs and I have Bandit and that's all I care about. I'm put in a bit of an awkward situation though as he keeps insisting he is going to pay child support for Briggs. I get a grand total of nothing and am in no contact with my other ex yet I feel incredibly uncomfortable taking his money. While I know he's being serious I feel like that could be just one more thing to stay in contact over. He's obviously going to have to pay child support for the 2nd baby so i dont know if I should just let him pay for Briggs too so I dont have to deal with both my idiot exes.
I'm so sorry Paige. Everything everyone said is so true. It's all on account of his mental problem. And this IS a mental problem! Just think how messed up someone has to be to do this. You should consider yourself lucky to have found out now instead of way down the road when the children would be older. I'm glad you're getting out. All those things you wrote about how controlling he is...OMG! I couldn't stand that and neither should you or anyone....keeping your aunt from visiting, hovering and controlling all the money etc etc. No freakin' way! You are going to get through this and will be so much happier in a few months. Moving far away is the best thing. You can start a new life. I am sending major vibes that he didn't pass anything onto you and that you'll be safe and healthy. And yes, you are gorgeous and nice and there's no reason you won't find someone worthy of you in the future if that's what you want. Or just be happy by yourself with your little wee ones. You have your family and you have us to be there for you. I'm just so very sorry you are going through this right now. (((hugs)))
A thousand million ((HUGS))
I don't even know what else to say
I wish I had the kind of greek mythology wrath it would take to have him turned into a sea cucumber!!
You and Briggs and Baby and Bandit are going to be just fine. We are always here for you and UGH WHAT A SCUMBAG! I CAN'T EVEN PROPERLY FORMULATE THOUGHTS!!
You are awesome.
He is a DIRTY ROTTEN NO GOOD SON OF A BISCUIT EATING BULLDOG AND THAT IS THAT!!
I don't even know what else to say
I wish I had the kind of greek mythology wrath it would take to have him turned into a sea cucumber!!
You and Briggs and Baby and Bandit are going to be just fine. We are always here for you and UGH WHAT A SCUMBAG! I CAN'T EVEN PROPERLY FORMULATE THOUGHTS!!
You are awesome.
He is a DIRTY ROTTEN NO GOOD SON OF A BISCUIT EATING BULLDOG AND THAT IS THAT!!
On the child support thing -- assume he's lying, since he's very good at that. Otherwise, assume it's a control thing.
Since he has no legal hold over Briggs, take the money, think of it as support for you to get your feet under you -- or think of it as reparation. Either way, you've earned it. It's not a hand out and don't ever let yourself think of it that way.
Since he has no legal hold over Briggs, take the money, think of it as support for you to get your feet under you -- or think of it as reparation. Either way, you've earned it. It's not a hand out and don't ever let yourself think of it that way.
*epichugs*
Paige, you're brilliant and wonderful, and I'm so so sorry you're having to go through all this. I agree with Renee. If he wants to hand over money just take it.
And are you in Canada or the US? (not sure which Vancouver) In WA state people can face criminal charges for being negligent douches and exposing people to HIV even if it isn't transmitted. Is there a way to force him to be tested since he's exposed an unborn baby to who knows what?
You, Briggs, and the baby are in our prayers. I really hope you guys are safe and healthy. And if you are heading to the WA Vancouver, we should hang out and gets some hot chocolate or something.
Paige, you're brilliant and wonderful, and I'm so so sorry you're having to go through all this. I agree with Renee. If he wants to hand over money just take it.
And are you in Canada or the US? (not sure which Vancouver) In WA state people can face criminal charges for being negligent douches and exposing people to HIV even if it isn't transmitted. Is there a way to force him to be tested since he's exposed an unborn baby to who knows what?
You, Briggs, and the baby are in our prayers. I really hope you guys are safe and healthy. And if you are heading to the WA Vancouver, we should hang out and gets some hot chocolate or something.
Vancouver as in Canada. He isn't controlling over money in that sense he is just the one who works and I am not the type to open shared bank accounts. He always pays rent on time, buys groceries and honestly... he has never done anything to my son. I'm going to take the money for sure for this month because I need it. He won't have any rights to Briggs. This was honestly so out of left field. I had one other issue with him where he said i was just being silly (posted a thread about it a long time ago about my friend) and other than that he was a pretty decent boyfriend. A crier and a hoverer when we'd get into a disagreement but this caught me so off guard. This is the first time I've really felet his behavior has gone over board into controling but thank goodness i found out now! Im only 20 I have my whole life ahead of me.
I am just happy I am going to be so far away. I get dropped off to get my stuff in an hour (he's at work) and have plans with friends in Vancouver to keep me bussy. And a date with the doctor for an STD test. I was going to leave him with the cat he got me but I honestly just can't leave the cat behind so I have to go wrangle the little stink up too.
I'm so glad that even though my family is a bit loonie they are there for me when I need them. There is no way I could've gotten home with my dog if it weren't for my mom coming to get me.
I am just happy I am going to be so far away. I get dropped off to get my stuff in an hour (he's at work) and have plans with friends in Vancouver to keep me bussy. And a date with the doctor for an STD test. I was going to leave him with the cat he got me but I honestly just can't leave the cat behind so I have to go wrangle the little stink up too.
I'm so glad that even though my family is a bit loonie they are there for me when I need them. There is no way I could've gotten home with my dog if it weren't for my mom coming to get me.
I'm glad you (and Briggs and the fuzzies) are getting out safely. Hopefully he had at least some self-preservation instinct (even snakes have a survival instinct) and did use protection.
Ahh I just don't understand. No one deserves it no matter how they look or act I just am truly baffled because there is literally no reason. No attraction issues, no HUGE issue in our relationship other than this... obviously it's a very deep rooted issue and I am glad I have somewhere to go. It was so shocking. I can't even be mad anymore. Takes a really sick person to do that and I just hope he gets help so he can have a healthy relationship with his future baby and Briggs.
