I'm about to have a mental breakdown.

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  1. Paige

    Paige Let it be

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    I just found out my boyfriend has been sleeping with hookers. For years but worse than that it's been quite frequent since I got pregnant. Right before I was pregnant, two days after Valentine's day, twice on the weekend he drove me to go to my grandmother's funeral... he insisted he got "lost" twice and was gone for hours. I honestly didn't think cheating because he usually spends all his time with me and is obsessed with me. Well, guess he's just a huge liar and he still won't admit to it despite me having proof.

    As much as I didn't want to I sent some proof to his ex girlfriend too because he did it even mroe to her and I feel she had the right to know.

    :(

    I honestly do not understand it. Not to toot my own horn but I'm pretty and not boring in bed. He gets it plenty and now I am so worried that not only do I have something, but htat I could give HIV to my unborn baby.
     
  2. vanillasugar

    vanillasugar just call me Nilly

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    Oh my goodness. Wow. I'll be thinking of you as you get through this, I don't even know how to manage this.

    I'm sure you're getting tested, but I'd do that after killing him. Wow.

    I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this!
     
  3. Paige

    Paige Let it be

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    ASAP. I need to get out of our house first and then I'm running to the doctors office.
     
  4. HayleyMarie

    HayleyMarie Like a bat outa' hell

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    OMG sweetie, I am so sorry. I have no idea what to say! My heart goes out to you. I wonder if he has a sex addiction or somthing like that.

    Get checked ASAP, and I well be praying and sending vibes your way and the babies way that everything will be ok and results will be negative.
     
  5. Xandra

    Xandra Active Member

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    Oh man I'm so sorry. That's exceptionally slimy behavior. Maybe he gets off on being an asshole or he thinks he's clever sneaking around. Please don't look to yourself for causes for his behavior, it's not your fault.

    I'll be thinking of you. That's really rough.
     
  6. sillysally

    sillysally Obey the Toad.

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    OMG--I am so sorry. Hopefully he used protection and nothing has been passed to you. I would call your OBGYN right away though to give them a heads up and figure out the best course of action.

    Again, I am so sorry he betrayed you like this. I wish there was something I could say to make it less painful. You are strong and will get through this....

    ((((((hugs))))))
     
  7. ~Jessie~

    ~Jessie~ Chihuahua Power!

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    Omg, I am so sorry! My heart dropped when I read this thread.

    It definitely has nothing to do with your looks as you are gorgeous- HE is the one with issues. It wouldn't matter how you looked or anything- nothing warrants cheating :(
     
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    CaliTerp07 New Member

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    Oh no :( :( :(

    It is absolutely not your fault. You did nothing wrong, and it has nothing to do with your looks or abilities or anything. Even if you were an ugly bed sloth, it does not excuse sleeping around on the mother of your unborn child.

    I am glad you're getting tested right away--I'm sending prayers that you and the baby are okay.
     
  9. NicoleLJ

    NicoleLJ PSD Partner

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    All I can think of to say is (((HUGS))).
     
  10. release the hounds

    release the hounds Active Member

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    Some people just don't care about others at all, they act like it while it suits them, then they don't.

    Don't waste your time wondering why, he's ultimately just selfish without a thought of others. These types of people don't change ever, they just change their stories.

    Get yourself checked and move on with your life. Easy for me to say i know, but really don't waste any more time on the selfish fool. he's not worth it. You are, spend that time and energy on YOU.
     
  11. Renee750il

    Renee750il Felurian

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    Oh, Gods, Paige.

    What a sick jerk. It's not you. Never for one minute think that. If you ever think about doubting that, remember he did it to the one before as well. It's him.

    ~~~Vibes~~~ that all is well otherwise.

    Oh, and put HIM out of the house!
     
  12. AdrianneIsabel

    AdrianneIsabel Glutton for Crazy

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    This is horrifying. :( I have a good friend who was pregnant with her second child to a man before she found proof he'd been having an "affair" with a young cousin. It can be terrifying how good people are at hiding things when they're that skeevy.

    Priority now is the baby. Be safe and try your very best to stay sane. :'(
     
  13. RD

    RD Are you dead yet?

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    What a sicko. Who knows what's going on in his head - but I hope you get out soon and get tested.
     
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    Moth Mild and Slightly Nutty

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    Wow... I feel for you. Let's just say I get how something like that feels and leave it at that.

    Get tested...if you were with him when you were pregnant with your little boy I would test the child as well.

    Singularly selfish and unthinking behavior on his part that endangers you and your babies. He seriously has a wire loose or something...
     
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    Agreed. I can't agree anymore with this than I already am. You did nothing wrong. You have no reason to be the one scrambling to find a place to stay.

    I'm really sorry this happened to you :( I'm sending good vibes for you and your child. And I feel you are absolutely right in telling his ex. If my ex turns out to do stuff like this I would be extremely grateful to be warned so I could get checked out as well.
     
  16. Baxter'smybaby

    Baxter'smybaby swimming upstream

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    oh Paige! Send that SOB packing! Take care of you and your little ones. We are all here for you in whatever way we can help. (((HUGS)))
     
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    :( I'm sorry. Are you absolutely sure he was doing this?
     
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    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    ((((hugs))))
     
  19. Dakotah

    Dakotah Kotah BEAR

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    Oh God, Paige. That is so sickening.
    Do not ever think it is your fault, as someone said, he did it to the one before you too. Its HIM.

    Get checked, ASAP.

    And I will keep you & your baby in my prayers/thoughts <3

    (((HUGS))) ***VIBES*** that all comes back negative.
     
  20. ~Tucker&Me~

    ~Tucker&Me~ and Spy.

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    Wow I am so, so sorry to hear this. That is definitely not someone you need in your life, and I agree with the others that he needs to pack and leave immediately. I have seen photos of you over the years and you are gorgeous. And hell, even if you were average that is completely, 100% unacceptable. I can't believe he would expose you and your BABY to that... He is a toxic person, don't even listen to his excuses.

    I hope everything gets checked out ok at the doc's, and if you need anything let me know - I am not too far away.

    *hugs*
     

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