I was thinking about a former Chazzer today

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She's the reason why I feel it's incredibly important to listen when people come forward about abuse, and not dismiss or belittle them. This is why it can't be covered over when it happens. The only way to stop it is to bring it out in the sunshine so it can get burned away, and wither to nothing along with the perpetrator. It breaks my heart that she didn't make it out in time. I can't even imagine how terrified she was in her last moments.

Just seeing similar dynamics unfolding in other situations scares the crap out of me.

*hugs everybody on chaz* You all stay safe please.
Seriously.

I'd rather be the person who took someone who was internet fantasizing about being abused seriously than the person who blew off someone who needed support because I wanted to be too cool to be fooled.
 

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The husband was sentenced to a life sentence with no parole last I can see in 2010.

I didn't know her well but I remember when this happened. I hope her family has found some peace
 

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She's the reason why I feel it's incredibly important to listen when people come forward about abuse, and not dismiss or belittle them. This is why it can't be covered over when it happens. The only way to stop it is to bring it out in the sunshine so it can get burned away, and wither to nothing along with the perpetrator. It breaks my heart that she didn't make it out in time. I can't even imagine how terrified she was in her last moments.

Just seeing similar dynamics unfolding in other situations scares the crap out of me.

*hugs everybody on chaz* You all stay safe please.
That is absolutely true. Did she ever talk about any abuse on here? Were there any indications? Wow. And to think everyone thought he was such an "inspirational" guy.

I would hope our forum would be a place where people who feel helpless and afraid will feel comfortable and safe asking for support and some guidance.
 

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There was another dog board member that was killed by her son, I think. I don't know if she was on chaz or not though....
Who was that? I used to be on other boards more often.

I was thinking about this a couple weeks ago. It's just so sad.
 

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It's weird you brought this up, as she's been on my mind for the past week. I don't know why, but I found myself looking up and retreading her posts the other day.
 

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I think I was around here but not actively posting when she was around. She seemed really sweet and her pets are beautiful. I had no idea about this though, I'm glad he's rotting in jail. I pray her family and friends that they found some peace. :(
 

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It's weird you brought this up, as she's been on my mind for the past week. I don't know why, but I found myself looking up and retreading her posts the other day.
Same. A month or so again I went back and read some of her threads :(

Stuff like this makes me REALLY nervous when people on here talk about how their SO is really controlling. You can say it'll never happen to you but stuff like that is a very serious issue that needs to be taken care of as quick as you can.
 

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i remember her from the bandog board. i don't know the words to properly describe the anger & disgust i feel toward the guy.
 

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Honestly, I don't know how her brother managed to keep himself from shooting the husband when he saw what had been done to her. Guy had a lot of restraint.
 

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Pops2, the bandog board is where my husband first became friends with Barbara. Her death his both of us so hard....no one should suffer as she did.
 

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