I suppose I should just back out with my dignity intact..

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  1. Punkygirl0101

    Punkygirl0101 New Member

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    I have been on forums where its all about how "popular" you are..and a lot of members here remind me of my highschool career when it comes to posting threads, and responses. No, I'm NOT leaving because "Oh no one likes to comment my pictures" I could careless about that..I am leaving cause members are making me out to be someone I am not..and that's a heartless person. I am NOT a heartless person. I try my hardest to help animals, and sometimes its hard to control my thoughts and opinions about certain things I see. When you are as passionate about animal welfare as I am, you may find its hard to keep your feelings to yourself. I did make a mistake, and that was judging too quickly. And if I could, I would take my comments back. People are going out of their way to be rude to me (Yes, I am referring to a picture thread that was started..and some rumors that now I think any dog on a tether or a leash is an abused dog. It was EXTREMELY childish. And i guess I prefer to not be around childish people. There are many very knowledgeable members on this board...a lot more than I have seen on many other dog forums. You guys know what you are talking about, and I LOVE seeing pictures of everyone here's dogs. and I love hearing stories...and listening to everyone's views and opinions, that's what a forum is all about. I would never call someone a mean bully just because their opinion is different. Its so sad that is how it worked out this time.

    But when my CHARACTER is crushed, and made out to be BAD...that's when I have to say adios..before I actually get kicked off for my statements and opinions. I will stick up for myself and say that I LOVE animals, and I am a wonderful animal owner. And I have done so much for homeless animals. And I try hard to educate people...and I usually do it without sounding a bit harsh, and I apologized to the member I was harsh too. Hopefully she accepts my apology. And I honestly don't have any harsh feelings..and maybe someday I will come back to this forum, and not be called a cruel person.

    (And since this forum is a popularity contest I am sure not too many people will even read this since I am not one those "known members". But hopefully someone will miss me ?!?! :lol-sign: ;). Hopefully someone misses the pictures of my dachshunds :)
     
  2. Fran27

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    I left for the same reasons... or at least I don't really want to post anymore because of it... I guess that being called names by people who don't have a clue because you don't have a 'popular' opinion does that to you.

    There are some good forums out there, I wish you well!
     
  3. Dekka

    Dekka Just try me..

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    It might surprise you.. but some of the 'popular' people get reamed out sometimes and 'called names'

    That is one thing I like about this forum, if you are being an idiot (not saying you were.. just saying its not only the newbies) you tend to get called out, even if you are popular.

    (and Fran it was me that was getting called names in one of those threads awhile ago)
     
  4. Renee750il

    Renee750il Felurian

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    Hey, we all speak out of turn from time to time, and we've all let ourselves get carried away before we had all the facts.

    When that happens, you do what you've done. You apologize, explain why you made the mistake without making excuses, and, since this IS a dog forum, you sniff each other and make up. Hopefully everyone involved learns something.

    You get to be human.

    Hell, half the time when I've had to call someone down I forget I've done it after the smoke has cleared. It's not hard to get carried away when you've got strong feelings about something and to jump in before you have all the pertinent facts. We've all done it, and we'll undoubtedly get carried away and do it again at some point, no matter how hard we try not to.

    Some of the most "popular" people here have been through the very same thing ;)
     
  5. Punkygirl0101

    Punkygirl0101 New Member

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    No..I was being an idiot..but NOT when I was defending myself..I completely stick with the comments I made to the people who were crushing my character..but I was being an idiot and judging a young member..it was NOT her fault, and I didn't need to judge right away..Even if I did disagree with the treatment, i should have kept my mouth shut..But again, sometimes its hard..and I am sure a lot of people can relate.

    It is good to hear that I am not alone, and a lot of the "known members" have been through the same thing.

    maybe I will stick around. Hey, why ruin my fun just because a few people don't like me? lol
     
  6. iwantmypup

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    I agree with Renee and stuff. Most of the popular people (why even use quotes?) get called out and stuff. I will miss the pics on chaz that you post.
     
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    Part of the reason I joined this forum was after a bit of lurking I saw how the members really came together in times of need. Sure everyone may not always agree and things can get heated but that is bound to happen in any forum.

    I don't know you but I hope you stick around so I can get to know you. Just like I want to get to know everyone else here. If you choose to go then I wish you well. :)
     
  8. Chewbecca

    Chewbecca feel the magic

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    I had an unpopular opinion just a couple of weeks ago about Hulk Hogan rubbing tanning lotion on his daughter's upper thighs.

    And my opinion WAS the unpopular one.

    I think I stepped away from that thread just pretending that I never posted in it.:lol-sign:


    Just step away and disappear for a day or two. When forums start getting to me, that's what I usually do. :D


    (and this is all coming from a member who has NO IDEA what incident you're talking about in this thread).
     
  9. Dekka

    Dekka Just try me..

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    ummm you missed my point.

    My point was that popularity or lack of it does not make you safe or a target if you say something out of line. I was not referring to anything you may or may not have done.
     
  10. Renee750il

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    Anyway, dignity, like sanity, is highly overrated ;)
     
  11. Punkygirl0101

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    Oh no, I got your point! And I was agreeing with it ;)!
     
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    Been there Hun !!! Hang in here !
     
  13. shadowfacedanes

    shadowfacedanes *Biter*

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    Oh come on now. People can disagree and still like you. Don't be so sensitive. Folks will find something new to get riled up over tomorrow.

    I have no problems with most of the people I've gotten into it with. Unless you're just a chronic jackass like a few select people that rear their ugly heads from time to time.

    Just sayin...it's a forum. Don't take it so seriously. Get to know the people you like, ignore the ones that **** you off, and learn something from time to time. No need to make it more serious than that. :)
     
  14. Punkygirl0101

    Punkygirl0101 New Member

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    Thanks Shadow! Kind of like with dog training..ignore the bad, praise the good. lol

    By the way, Corvus is one of the funniest dogs! He looks like such a character in all the pictures you post of him! :)
     
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    I agree w/ a lot of what the OP says. When you have a unpopular opinion people like to exaggerate certain things you say and ignore the things they cant argue w/. I come back and read causeI like a lot of people here but there are a couple of people who need to chill out and realize they arent perfect and a few who I honestly feel like they follow me around threads and pick apart my posts. I have reported nothing has happened so I guess no rules have been broken. I have never been very "popular" here. Just drives me nuts how I get ganged up on for things I say but others who share my opinions dont receive nearly as much disrespect b/c they are "popular". I also hate when I get ignored for calling out a "popular" person for something stupid they said.

    Not refering to anyone who has posted on this thread so far.
     
  16. ACooper

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    You got something to say to me Shadow? :rofl1:

    Yup, you will find that niche given time. You will find yourself drawn to certain members, repelled by others, and a lot of just plain old neutral territory. Not much different than real life.

    There is no way I would leave because of one bad experience if I was having fun the biggest part of the time. If the forum (any forum) becomes more aggravation than fun..........well that is when it's time to go :)
     
  17. ~Jessie~

    ~Jessie~ Chihuahua Power!

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    Eh, I would just let it roll off your shoulders. Everyone has had an unpopular opinion at one point in time. No one hates you because you expressed your opinion in one thread... I'm sure of it.
     
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    ihartgonzo and Fozzie B!

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    Honestly, WHAT in life isn't a "popularity contest", to some degree? Honestly.

    I have been a member of a few dog forums. Most of them briefly. Chaz is by FAR the least cliquey group of people I've known... of course there are "popular opinions". You will find those in any grouping, anywhere. It's human nature. It's life.

    As far as being open to new people, and giving people the benefit of the doubt, and trying to be kind and considerate, Chaz is a WHOLE LOT KINDER than the world in general. At least, in my experience. I don't consider myself popular or unpopular... just... somewhere in between. And I don't think the goal of anyone here is to be popular. It's to grow and learn, and share. Rather than growing and learning from an unfortunate little skirmish, you choose to leave, which does make me sad, and doesn't seem very dignified at all. =( Good luck wherever you go, if you decide to leave.
     
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    Lord , if everyone agreed in this world we'd have peace . There will always be conflicts ! We either shug , fight or move on!
     
  20. M&M's Mommy

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    Don't worry about being popular.. It really doesn't mean anything. I'm one of the least popular around here and I'm perfectly fine with it :eek:

    As for dignity - Lets me share with you my favorite story.. I love it so much that I read & re-read it everytime I feel let down or worthless because of circumstances beyond my control. Good thing our worth isn’t based on our circumstances or behavior, let alone other's behavior toward us, if it were we would have zero hope.

    $20 bill

    A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"

    Hands started going up.

    He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first let me do this."

    He proceeded to crumple the dollar bill up. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.

    "Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.

    "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

    "My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

    Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value in God's eyes. To Him, dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to God (and to those who love you, too).

    The worth of our lives come not in what we do, whom we know or even who we are, but by WHOSE WE ARE!

    So, hold your head high & stay :)
     

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