I love having visitors

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  1. LostAndConfused

    LostAndConfused Active Member

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    I just love it when they leave more. How about you guys?
     
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    Renee750il Felurian

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    Not since I bought the house next to my family.

    Way too much nosiness. I meet people elsewhere.
     
  3. LostAndConfused

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    I know it's only a matter of time before I end up in 'the family commune,' which includes his parents, his grandma, grandma's brother & wife and his grandma's nephew. His great-grandma lived next door to her son (husband's grandma's brother) until she died. These guys all live within a half mile of each other.
     
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    Renee750il Felurian

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    It's one of those "it seemed like a good idea at the time" things. I loved the house, figured I'd wind up having to take care of them at some point and it would be better to have a house to retreat to that was close by.

    If -- WHEN I get out of here I am never looking back. My sister can do the honors since she already gets the credit because she sends mom a present every once in awhile and used her flyer miles to fly them to California to house sit for her on her trips to Europe. She can put in some time in the trenches.
     
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    I am not sure that I love having visitors..my dad came this weekend , while I did have a great time with him, I can't stand his wife..so was very happy when they left!
     
  6. LostAndConfused

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    My visitors seemed to enjoy unpacking boxes from when we moved and then moving things around on us.

    Let me set this up for you. I was out in the barn/garage with one of the visitors. We have a plastic shelving system that is torn apart and the shelves are on the floor with boxes on them and covered in a plastic sheet. The boxes are on the shelves because the barn floor gets wet and having cardboard boxes on it just seems like a bad idea.

    Visitor: Oh, don't cover those up! I was going to take the plastic shelves and put them up in your basement so I can put the kitchen stuff on it.
    Me: The boxes are too heavy for us to carry in and they need to be on the shelves because the barn leaks.

    Guess what...the shelves are now up in the basement and after going through all of the boxes that are still packed, a few of the shelves have stuff on them. I just wanted them to STOP GOING THROUGH MY STUFF!!

    Then I walked upstairs this morning and shouted down at my husband, "hey, did you bring this little box upstairs?"
    Him, "No"
    Which means visitor (same one the above box situation happened with) decided the box didn't need to be where we left it and should be upstairs.

    We also know that there are some mice in the house, but Ben doesn't want to lay poison because he is worried a mouse in the wall will smell. So, after having this discussion with the visitors one of them took it upon them self to go buy mouse poison while we were at the store. Just let us run our house the way we want! We don't go into your house and change things so please do us the favor and treat our house the same way
     
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    I'd have been livid and it would have been an extremely unpleasant visit. And there wouldn't be a repeat visit. :madgo:

    I can't stand someone who sneaks and pilfers through things. If you hadn't told them you wanted things left, it would just have gone down as a misguided attempt to help, but since you told them you wanted things as they were . . . No.
     
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    For me, it depends on the visitors. Some of my roommate's friends, I don't mind when they come over but I'm happy when everyone leaves and it is quiet again. But others of them I'm always happy to see, and they could hang out forever and never wear out their welcome.
     
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    :yikes::yikes::yikes: That's outrageous!!!!!!!!! I can't imagine anyone I know who would have the gall to do something like that. I think, if I were in your shoes and if only I were more assertive than I am, I'd want to say something like, "Ummmm, No. Leave the boxes and my stuff where they are. Even if you're trying to help, I don't want help and it is not your place to touch my stuff." And if they still persisted, I'd want to say, (but I probably wouldn't) "I'm sorry, but you've worn out your welcome. Please leave." But I'm too much of a chicken.[​IMG] And I'd probably not know what to do, just like you. Alas...:dunno: Maybe next time, you'll be braver or better yet, avoid having them over at all. LOL. YeeGawds! that's just incredible.

    I like having visitors. I've never had any visitors who are anything less than agreeable. But yeah....if it's a rather long stay, it is indeed nice to have my space back to myself. It makes me appreciate living alone even more. But then again...I wouldn't like to be alone all the time, like I was back in Priest Lake. I do value my visitors and am quite sociable while at the same time, am quite content to have an abundance of alone time.;)
     
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    Or you can always go in and repack their luggage ;)
     
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    I know they were just trying to help, and I appreciate the thought, but still. Good news is, they're gone for a while.
     
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    I like that! Pack it up and place it by the front door. Or better yet, line up their suitcases next to their car. :rofl1:
     
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    vanillasugar just call me Nilly

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    I like visitors, I don't even mind un-planned visitors, but last week I had 13 people show up at my house (various people, a lot of them don't know each other, everyone within an hour or so) and that was a bit much.

    I'd say 2 people unexpected is fine. And of course I have to like the visitor to begin with ;)
     
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    I do not like uninvited guests.
    I have a handful of practically family best friends that don't even count as guests. AKA: I walk into my apartment and they are on my couch eating and watching tv lol which is fine. They know they are always welcome and give me my own space and always replace (most) of what they eat lol plus I trust them wholeheartedly and if I'm in the neighborhood, show up at their apartments as well.

    BUT I do not like uninvited random people/acquaintances. If I don't know you well enough to walk in front of you in my underwear.. you need to call before you just show up.

    I HATE HATE HATE entertaining people when I haven't had time to prepare. And I think this is where the root of the issue is.. if I know you well enough that you can go dig around my fridge, eat, pick up a book, watch some tv in my home on your own and just entertain yourself.. then we will be FINE. but I really hate playing hostess when I'm not prepared to and don't want to.

    I can be the BEST hostess given some time and preparation. But I hate having people around and me just wandering around awkward and unprepared like "umm..I think I have some..water..?.. ummm..do you want to watch a movie? or umm..I think there are some chinese leftovers in the fridge somewhere.."

    and of course. Regardless. People need to understand what over-staying their welcome is. If I invited you over for dinner, and have served you food, cleaned up, offered you a glass of wine, chatted amicably for a good length of time and am now yawning and talking about that OH SO EARLY class I have tomorrow or an assignment I should be working on.

    You.
    NEED.
    To.
    LEAVE.

    At the end of the day, unless you are a very close friend who treats my home as their own and doesn't mind entertaining yourself/me ignoring you and getting work done.

    ..I would much rather just meet at a restaurant lol
     

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