How soon would you add another dog?

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  1. Paige

    Paige Let it be

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    Pretty obvious this was inspired by another thread.

    How soon would you add another dog after one left you? If the dog passed? Ran away? Was rehomed? Are any of these different or do you have a period of time you just need between dogs?

    For me if Bandit passed on right now I would not get another for years. I am in no place to add anything new. I love my dog the only reason I have a dog currently is because he was there before, I can make it work and I love him with all my heart. If he were to die I would not be very responsible to add another.

    We are all different. So, explain. Would you get a new one right away or wait? :)
     
  2. Grab

    Grab Active Member

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    When Grimm passed, we got Nog within a few weeks. Most of my dogs do their own things and aren't very 'hang out with each other' (except the poodles, who sleep together) So she was very depressed and mopey without a dog friend. Nog had exactly the right personality to fill that void. We did not get him just for her, of course. But it was the deciding factor.

    But unless something happened to either one of them (which would put us in the same situation), we'd wait a bit.
     
  3. Lyzelle

    Lyzelle New Member

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    I consider all the dogs I had at my mother's MY dogs. But I'm currently pursuing adding another dog to our two-person one-dog household, and it's not been that long since I moved out. If I could take one of the girls, or Goose, I would. But I can't, and it's completely out of my hands which is why I think I'm okay looking into another dog.

    If I lost Zander? In any way, shape, or form? I'd be devastated and completely inconsolable for probably years. I'm scared that any dog I got after him would be me trying to find another Zander. And it wouldn't be fair to the dog at all.

    I mean, if he runs, I freak. Even if he is caught fairly quickly. For hours, I bawl just over the THOUGHT of having possibly lost him. No way could I run out and get another dog if he was suddenly gone.
     
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    For me would totally depend on the situation. Now, I would only rehome for pretty serious issues so if it was something with the dog needing something extreme that I couldnt meet I may get a new dog fairly soon. If it were something like we lost our house or a chronic illness etc then obviously would not add a new dog while that was an issue.

    For death of a dog....again, depends....most likely would be pretty quick if I had no dogs, if I had one or two it would depend.
     
  5. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    I want to say I'd wait a while, and that's what I feel like I'd do... but if a dog came to me needing a home shortly after, I probably wouldn't/couldn't say no.

    I've always added ferrets shortly after one passed (3 days after Rogue was euthed I got Harley, about 2 1/2 months after Rascal passed Ella came here)... but both were also kind of needing a home (also, for Harley, Ren NEEDED a friend after Rogue passed, and that wasn't Rascal -- and Harley NEEDED a friend after her lifelong cagemate passed)
     
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    I cannot stand myself without a dog in the household. Preferably two at least.
     
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    I have not yet lost or rehomed a dog (I can't imagine any circumstance in which I would rehome, to be entirely honest), but I expect if I had only one dog and I lost it, I would most likely add another quite soon after. It isn't that I wouldn't be completely grief-stricken (because of course I would be), but I think it would be very difficult for me to keep an empty house and not be inexorably lonely.

    If I had more than one, however, and the remaining dog(s) wasn't suffering due to the loss of one of his companions, I think I would probably allow myself to mourn for much longer, possibly up to several years before adding another.
     
  8. Fran101

    Fran101 Resident fainting goat

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    I think I would wait a few months.. around 3 or so probably.

    Different people deal with that kind of stuff in different ways..but I think I would need some time on my own.
    Same thing goes for breakups I guess lol I have a friend who jumps back into dating/another relationship with ease. I take weeks before I can even look at a couple holding hands and not feel like I'm gonna cry.. let alone date lol

    I would want to start with a new dog fresh :) and I know I'm the kind of person, who if rushed into getting a new dog while the wound is still healing .. would feel like I'm kind of tainting this new dog relationship with the old one.

    So yea, over-emotional Fran would wait lol
     
  9. ~Dixie's_Mom~

    ~Dixie's_Mom~ ♥Chloe & Violet♥

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    Depends on how soon another came into my life ;) but s far as how soon I'd seek one out, probably not long. I would take however much time I needed to grieve and then start searching. I used to think otherwise, but I have found that I NEED another dog to help me grieve. It helps me, and comforts me to have another dog around.
     
  10. *blackrose

    *blackrose "I'm kupo for kupo nuts!"

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    It would all just depend on my situation.

    If I'm rehoming a dog, it is because something about the situation is NOT working. That doesn't mean I'm not suitable for a dog...it means I'm not suitable for that specific dog. For example, Chloe is going to stay with my parents until at least December of this year after I move out. I'll try her out in my apartment when I'm done with school and my schedule is less insane...but if it isn't working, she'll go back to my parents, most likely permanently (especially since I'm anticipating the navy-spouse lifestyle and she needs to not have things constantly changing). And if that is the case, I'll definitely be looking for a new dog.

    Blackie has been the only dog of ours that has passed on, and I've been wanting to replace him for at least the past year and a half (he's been gone two years), but the situation hasn't been right. After we returned Sadie for further training at Leader Dogs, it was a few months after I really started searching for a new dog.
     
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    I would wait as we did when Rocky & Jenny passed away from old age. Dixie came in to our lives a year after Rocky passed away and it was fate.

    I don't think I can just go get another dog if I had to rehome a dog (god forbid because our animals are here for life.) or if my dog passed on.. it's just not what I do. I let myself grieve first and plus I have other animals that depend on me.
     
  12. AdrianneIsabel

    AdrianneIsabel Glutton for Crazy

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    No idea... But if I had rehomed I'd feel guilty and wait.
     
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    Such a huge part of my life, activity and social wise, is tied up in my dogs. All emotions about the dogs aside, my life would suffer greatly without one. It is one of the reasons I got Gusto when I did. Meg really didn't need to be trained anymore. I can foresee her wanting to be done agility in the near future. I won't force her to if she doesn't want to, but I'd be lost without a dog to work.

    So, if I were completely dog-less, I can see getting another pretty quickly. If I were to lose one of mine, I'd have the other and probably take more time to heal.

    This is all in reference to one dog dying. I can't fathom a situation in which I would rehome either. I have several back-up places either could stay for a short time if I needed to get them out of my house immediately.
     
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    After losing Mitch last year, I had no desire for another dog for a while. I missed having a close companion, but I was and still am terrified that I will never have that same connection with any other dog. I feel less lost now, and confident that I'll be able to find a dog that I'll click with again, so now I just need to move out and get settled and my life will be complete!

    If I had to rehome a dog...I wouldn't be in a place to have a dog for a LONG time.
     
  15. Xandra

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    Right now is not the ideal time to have a dog for me. I would wait until I had a place to live and whatnot before adding another, so probably years, sadly... at least another large dog. I might get an Italian Greyhound if Roman died, because there are a handful of places you can rent with a small dog...
     
  16. PWCorgi

    PWCorgi Priscilla Winifred Corgi

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    If Frodo died in some kind of accident or something I would wait. I really think that after Frodo goes Ryan and I are are going to take a break for a while and...well...like, have lives. I love Frodo like crazy, I really do, but he does limit us quite a bit (for example, we don't really have plans to go to PA and see my family again anytime soon because of Frodo, which really really sucks) and we can't really go on vacation or go on huge day trips with friends and all that good stuff. Plus, I'm seriously scared beyond belief at the prospect of another dog, because I really really don't think I could handle ending up with another Frodo.

    If Frodo ended up being euthed (rehome is not an option) then I don't know how long it would be before I got another dog. I would feel so guilty.


    ETA: I worry about Frodo getting us noise complaints all.the.time. because honestly, we don't have the money to break our lease and put down a deposit on a new apartment, and I can't buy him a house. There's not really any other apartments that accept dogs larger than 20 pounds, etc. I feel like if it came down to it, we would end up having to euthanize him, and that scares the holy living hell out of me. I keep telling myself that there are *so* many more dogs in the building that are SOOOO much louder than him (like the lab next door) and that I really shouldn't worry, because he isn't bad. But I still can't help but worry about it every single day.
     
  17. Laurelin

    Laurelin I'm All Ears

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    Me either.

    When Trey passed, I contacted Mia's breeder 2 days later and then had her that next weekend. When Harry passed, we got Rose 2 days later. It wasn't too soon for us.

    If either of mine went right now, I'd be out looking for another dog pretty quick. I love my dogs more than just about anything and would miss them so incredibly much (hopefully everyone on here knows that). But I also love training and love being involved in more ways than just having pets. That's something I already worry about with one older dog and then one dog with knee problems. I am seriously hoping I can get dog #3 before mine have to call it quits. Or if I can talk my dad into getting his Aussie or GSD when they move this spring and then letting me train it. That would work too for the time being.

    If I had to rehome a dog then I wouldn't get another for a long while. I think that's a very different situation especially depending on why the dog was rehomed.
     
  18. stardogs

    stardogs Behavior Nerd

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    If the dog passed? I got a foster a week after we lost Maggie. I got a new permanent dog 6 months after. We still had Z and Kes of course, but the house seemed too quiet. If a dog passed now? I'm not sure, but it has more to do with numbers than anything else at this point.

    Ran away? A looong long time if ever - I'd be out trying to find the dog for a while to begin with and even after months/years I wouldn't be surprised if I kept a spot open for him/her just in case.

    Was rehomed? If due to life circumstances I'd wait until they resolved - life changes would have to be pretty darn big to warrant me rehoming a dog.

    For a while I did think we might have to rehome Snipe due to conflicts between her and Aeri. If we had had to do that, we'd probably not have gotteng another 4th dog; 4 is more than ideal for us. If it were a similar situation down the road and I had a specific need for another dog I could see getting a more suitable dog fairly quickly.
     
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    I probably wouldn't do it that week. I'd really want to take off at least a week off from work when I get my new dog/puppy and so at least 2 weeks.

    Yoshi is my heart dog and when she dies *because I will live on the street before giving her up. I've done it once and I'll do it again in a heartbeat so she WILL NOT be rehomed* I'll be devastated. But because of my Aspergers I don't go out much socially or feel the need to unless my friends force me or I go with my family. But I do love going out with my dog hiking around, fishing or stuff like that. So I would need another dog/companion so I didn't end up as a recluse who doesn't ever leave my house. I also have panic attacks occasionally and having a dog or any type of pet there for me to focus on and pet brings me out of them really fast compared to the hour long ones I have had in the past.

    For me it's a comfort thing. I love having a dog but I also like doing things alone *without human companions* and I feel better doing that when I have my dog there with me.
     
  20. elegy

    elegy overdogged

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    It really depends on the situation. If my dog ran away.... I think it would be a very long time because I would feel like such a failure and I'd still be trying to find my dog and hoping he came back.

    With a dog passing away from a medical condition, though, probably very quickly depending on what was available and given that my living situation was appropriate to be adding another dog. No new dog can ever replace the dog who has died, but they can help bring some happiness and fill the emptiness with their own special shape.

    I actually got Luce before my poodle passed away *because* I thought she was dying. She had congestive heart failure and was coughing and coughing and we were really struggling to control it, and I thought "this is it" and adopted Luce because the idea of coming home to an empty house was more than I could cope with. The poodle did not die for another year-- turned out she had some sort of lingering kennel cough. She wasn't coughing due to her heart disease.
     

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