How do you cope when you lose a loved one?

Discussion in 'Dogs - General Dog Chat' started by candaceluvspebbles, Jan 22, 2010.

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How do u get over hurt from loss??

Poll closed Feb 11, 2010.
  1. Block the problem out & stay numb inside

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  2. Cry & cry till there's no more tears to shed (Which could take years!!)

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  3. Mixed emotions..Cry,lash out when people bring it up,bury the pain inside

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  1. candaceluvspebbles

    candaceluvspebbles #1 Animal lover :)

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    Hey everyone,

    Today i found out my beautiful baby Pebbles died && i don't know how i'm ever going to get over it. :( She was alive this morning but when my step dad & sisters came back from the shops, they found her in a box dead. I was on my way to work & that just totally ruined my whole day. (12 hr shift!) I dont know if someone ran over her then placed her in a box or if she was tortured.. :'( My stepdad didn't fix our stupid fence & she kept on getting out while we were at work but stayed close to home. She's a little 3 yr old chihuahua so she's pretty tiny & she's black with a bit of white (like the road) So she's hard to see too. How do i cope?? How does anyone cope with a lost loved one?? Her birthday is less then a month ago..(her 4th) && it's just such a shame that she had to leave us soo soon. She really helped my through my rough teenage years & now life seems so dull..

    Anyone ever felt like this?? im sure everyone has so how did u cope?

    Candace
     
  2. candaceluvspebbles

    candaceluvspebbles #1 Animal lover :)

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    I am sorry to hear this :( I would say it's most likely someone ran over her and then tried to do the right thing in placing her in a box and putting her on your property. Someone who tortured her would most likely not care about you knowing she was gone, or having any respect for the body whatsoever.

    Rest peaceful dear Pebbles

    As for dealing with the pain, you have to let it come as it will. We are all different, but rest assured, time will make the pain less and you can enjoy the good memories easier in the future.

    (((HUGS)))
     
  4. Baxter'smybaby

    Baxter'smybaby swimming upstream

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    so so sorry. :(
     
  5. smkie

    smkie pointer/labrador/terrier Staff Member

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    Going to the rainbow bridge and writing a tribute to Pebbles will help. Rip Pebbles. I am so terribly sorry. (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))
     
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    Grieve and remember the good times . I don't understand why a Chi was out when no one was home . But bless the one who took time to retriever her and place her in a box.
     
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    theresa92841 Gigi Monster & Evil Puppy

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    Everybody grieves in their own way. There is no right or wrong way. Do what feels right for you and it is right for you.

    I like to be by myself and do what I feel like doing with no demands on my time or energy or emotion beyond what is absolutely necessary. I take care of myself so that I can feel stronger in dealing with it and not get run down. And I keep the memories forever in my heart.
     

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