How do they attract these people?

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  1. ACooper

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    Let me explain:

    First, lets name the subject 'Unisex' because I know males and females alike who fit the bill, sex has no bearing.

    Unisex isn't attractive...may even be considered on the ugly side, doesn't have a nice personality....AT ALL, they tend to treat people in a less than desirable way, definitely isn't wealthy, most times they don't have a job/own money!

    So? How do they attract these nice looking, sweet, hard working people to date? People who actually pick them up, pay for everything, and seem so devoted until Unisex stomps all over them in favor of the next one in line?

    HOW DO THEY DO IT? Do they have super human pheromones?

    Disclaimer: I am not advocating the morality or correctness in dating someone for looks or wealth. Wrong or not, those are at least reasons we could point to and undertand the motivation.
     
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    same way any other jerk gets someone hot , the hot one has issues and needs therapy.
    maybe the hot one has a mommy/daddy complex , or thinks badly of themselves , or even want to fix the uni.

    all the same issues just diffrent genders is all.
     
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    So you are saying 'Unisex' has some kind of radar or gps for finding/detecting self esteem issues / other issues? Hmmmmmm, yes, that makes sense. It's amazing, sad yes, but amazing this '6th sense' of picking them out of the herd......
     
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    Or that people with those issues are attracted to Unisex.
     
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    Whoever dates these people have issues. point blank. Daddy issues, mommy issues, self esteem issues etc..etc..etc.. lol that's my theory.

    and somehow, said unisex person in all their shitty personality has a trait that strokes that insecurity/issue so, attracts these people.

    My beautiful, kind, smart funny friend X. Had a father that was never around and is hopelessly insecure. Double whammy. This unisex that X is dating is crass, mean, distant.. but like X's father, among the distant dismissive behavior shows tiny rare signs of "love". A compliment once a month, a romantic dinner for no reason at all... X feels like X has to be GOOD ENOUGH to earn this attention. And that feeds her issues.
    It's not unisex's problem that unisex treats X that way. It's X's.
     
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    Sweet72947 Squishy face

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    Sometimes, they feel that they deserve poor treatment.

    Just like how someone will push away a person who is actually good for them, they don't feel they deserve it. :(
     
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    I come from a very messed up family. Six years ago I left them, more or less, they now don't know where we live, have our number or see us or the kids. I prefer it that way, as my siblings are all pretty messed up still. But most are married, I think to partners that also grew up with the same sort of crap and take it as 'normal'. They assume I'm the strange one for not wanting to continue the cycle, having concerns and making 'rules' for my parents which led to us finally breaking ties. To them the things that scared me enough to never want them in our lives is 'normal and loving' as they see it.

    I'm sure it's the same with people who get involved with ugly, mean people in other situations, my siblings are all married..... despite some being real jerks (sneaking the kids out of the house Christmas day to go to grandma's for dinner, leaving the wife at home alone for the day, giving a used toilet as a birthday gift....).
     
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    ihartgonzo and Fozzie B!

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    Honestly, I feel like some people just LOVE to be doormats. They LOVE to have some one boss them around and treat them like dirt. They LOVE to feel needed, like they have to take care of some one, even if that some one treats them horribly. I would say it's because they have issues. But honestly, we all have issues, and we all have "types". Some people just enjoy being walked all over; I mean, plenty of people are into being treated like a slave in bed, too. :/ It's weird but we all have our weird attractions.

    I've noticed that a lot of guys love bitches.... if they meet a nice girl, they get bored, but bitches who harass them & obsess over them & depend on them for everything keep them coming back (even if they do hate them at times and cheat on them). I have mostly guy friends and some of them keep going back to their bitch girlfriend. It drives me crazy. A few guys who I have dated have clearly been confused by me, expecting me to be bitchy, and say I'm "too nice". I gladly tell them to go find themselves a mean girlfriend because I'm not interested in unnecessary fighting, drama & games. Of course, ladies have the same issue with loving asshole guys, but I don't have any lady friends who tolerate that.
     
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    I think some people just like the drama that goes along with being treated badly. They will bitch and moan about their SO so people will sympathize with them and tell them how they deserve better and when people get sick enough about hearing about it and start to tell them it is their own fault for letting it happen and putting up with it, they stop a lot of the complaining for awhile until they need the attention again. I see it on facebook alot.
     
  10. Cthulhu7

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    The unisex's that I've known have managed to pass off douchebaggery as a deep, rebellious personality. Still not sure how, but I've had a few women stolen away from me because of it.
     
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    Uhm... I think people just take a long time figuring out what they want. You have to kiss a lot of frogs...
     
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    I have been asking myself this for ages. I just don't get it. I don't think I ever will.
     

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