Happily married/committed people of chaz.. how did you know you found "the one"?

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  1. Fran101

    Fran101 Resident fainting goat

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    Just curious, how did you know that person was "the one" for you?

    :) I love these lovey threads lol so sue me.
     
  2. Muttkip

    Muttkip LABRADERP!

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    Werewolves :cool:
     
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    He told me that he knows we are meant to be together and there's nothing we can do to change it. And he's sorry the universe chose HIM for me. (That's basically how his proposal went..."I'm sorry that you're stuck with me, but we're supposed to be together, I just know it. Let's get married ASAP")

    I'm gullible & believe(d) him.

    ;D

    I was with my ex for about 5 years and was convinced that we'd get married, have a family and be content our whole lives...because that's what you're supposed to do, especially when you're with a person for a considerable amount of time. And it was super comfortable, I loved his family, mine adored him...but there wasn't that 'spark'. We were great friends/companions, but awful partners in life.

    K showed me how great it is to actually spend your life with a person you adore and can't get enough of. And to be a part of a team. Maybe our whole lives were leading up to this point, or maybe it's just a huge coincidence but I am stupid happy and know that he's the one I want to be with forever!
     
  4. Dizzy

    Dizzy Sit! Good dog.

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    Think you just know. Don't think there is any major epiphany with angels singing and lights beaming :D
     
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    skittledoo Crazy naked dog lady

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    Kinda just knew. There was nothing super lovey dovey that just shouted OMG He is THE one, but the thought of being married to him just fit and I just knew.

    Mind you, we have had some seriously rough times where I've questioned our marriage, but lately its been more good than bad so I'd say for the most part I'm happy with my marriage at this point in time.
     
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    -bogart- Member of WHODAT Nation.

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    I knew when He was getting out of my car and told me he loved me for the first time. then caught himself and blushed. I just knew then to give it up and quit fighting i was for him and he was mine.
     
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    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    Like Dizzy said. I just knew. There wasn't this one grand moment.

    I just knew, we both did even before we'd met in person. We were just like two peas in a pod lol. It was so easy to talk to each other and we were (are) always laughing because we have very similar humor styles. Between times when we would talk I was always looking forward to thw next time we could talk... (Almost 8 years of marriage later and it is still that way).

    Plus he was a hockey goalie and I always knew I would marry a goalie lol. I had dated people before and been in a couple long term relationships but none of them were goalies and none of them worked out lol. I know that sounds stupid lol but goalies are... Different haha and it takes a special person to really "get" them IMO lol

    In past relationships there were always the times that they would make me cry (not happy tears either). They would just be insensitive or confrontational or just a jackass lol. Brian NEVER left me in tears. He never said things to hurt me and he was never insensitive.
     
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    Just knew, our first actual date I knew.
     
  9. *blackrose

    *blackrose "I'm kupo for kupo nuts!"

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    It was just...a feeling, I guess.

    I hadn't dated anyone before him - I went out on dates, and there was one guy that had hoped we would become serious as we had been "hanging out" off and on for about a year (I turned him down when he wanted to solidify things). As much as I wanted to be a part of a relationship...none of the guys I had went out with seemed like they would be The One. I couldn't see the future version of myself with any of them. And since I didn't care to be in a relationship without striving for Happily-Ever-After, I didn't want to pursue anything.

    With Mike...it was just different. First day I met him, I really enjoyed his company. Which is unusual for me to hit it off with someone that well. First date was just really comfortable, not only with how we talked with one another, but how we interacted with each other. Three dates later when we became "official", I brought him out to meet my parents and I knew I was in it for the long haul.

    I really can't picture me with anyone else. He's just...Mine. There has never been any doubt in my mind.
     
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    I wanted to murder him when I first met him. Like seriously. I didn't know right away. But then we got to be friends, and one night, he "kidnapped" me for my birthday because I was going to spend the whole four day weekend in the barracks (sleeping was my plan) and took me up to meet his family. We were watching a movie at his grandma's house and we looked at each other and I thought to myself "Seriously? He's been here the whole time." He was always the one I asked for advice about the idiot I was seeing, the one who I could ALWAYS rely on to go to McDonald's with me at 2AM when all I wanted was a freaking ice cream cone, and he was the most reliable battle buddy I had. It was easy once I got him out of my "friend zone".
     
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    drmom777 Bloody but Unbowed

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    I knew because he told me so. I was eighteen years old and had known him for three weeks so what did I know?

    We have been married almost 31 years- and still not bored.
     
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    I don't even know how to answer this. I think just because of how different he was than the ones before him. Probably a little luck, too.
     
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    I dont know, I think because we were able to work together, and live together and not kill each other and still find stuff to talk about lol.
     
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    Sounds like us. The first moment we laid eyes on each other I felt 'different'. As we dated and got to know each other better, I started acknowledging how 'different' he was from all the others and how 'different' he made me feel. I'd never been in crazy love before and it was something else.

    As soon as I let myself fall in love with him, it was like a whole new chapter of my life began.
     
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    stafinois Professional Nerd

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    Jules Magic, motherf@%$*#!

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    I don't even know. We spent some time apart, in a sort of long distance relationship (it was a little one way since he was in boot camp and could only write a letter once a week maybe). I knew I missed him so much and didn't want to be without him.

    We're very different and have plenty of differences, but I know that he adores me and that it's worth it working anything out.
     
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    Julee UNSTOPPABLE

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    I knew because despite not being "together" and having lost contact for a few months, I could not keep him off my mind for the life of me. Upon meeting him in person for the first time, there was a brief moment of panic, then complete and utter relief. Troubles were forgotten, anxieties shrugged off, and things felt right instead of on the brink of falling apart.

    That's not to say our lives are trouble free, but things are a hell of a lot easier with this wonderful guy by my side.
     
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    We just mesh so well together. There was no drama, no complications, no second thoughts. There was no epiphany moment.
     
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    Honestly, I have no idea. It just feels right. It felt right from day one - I fell hard, but it felt like we'd been together for a really long time. We just... fit.
     
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    When you know, you just KNOW. It really does sound stupid, but it's true!

    I thought I was in love before Kevin, obviously I wasn't....at least not the true and lasting type. Even the few guys I thought I was in love with before Kevin, I NEVER wanted to marry or 'settle down' with.

    Honestly, I never wanted to BE married before Kevin. I was never the little girl who dreamed of her wedding and such....but I knew I wanted to spend forever with him right away. I told my mom Kevin was 'the one' about 1 month after I started dating him....I knew before that, but I was kind of afraid to jinx it by saying it out loud (I'm silly!)

    Over 14 years later and I STILL know he's the one and I want to be with him forever :)
     

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