Feeling sad and it's just not fair

Discussion in 'Dogs - General Dog Chat' started by ~Jessie~, Jun 20, 2012.

  1. Renee750il

    Renee750il Felurian

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    I do not know that I can honestly make myself keep going without Kharma . . . if I even want to try. Losing Bimmer will be awful, terrible, devastating, but Kharma is going to be something entirely different. Buffy was very nearly the end of me, but knowing I had to keep Bimmer going kept me going.
     
  2. ~Jessie~

    ~Jessie~ Chihuahua Power!

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    I know for sure that I'm going to need a LOT of therapy when I lose one of my dogs. Coming close to losing Emma during her head injury really shook me up... It was right after I realized that Emma is my heart dog. She's only 2 right now and will hopefully have a long, healthy life... but she's just the most special, awesome dog... she's just perfect.

    Every day I look at them and try to hold onto the moment... because before I know it, they'll be gone :( I can't imagine having a whole different set of dogs!
     
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    Just losing Phoebe about 12 weeks ago, (after being part of the family for almost 12 years) it's difficult and terrible but I put one foot in front of the other daily until the pain eased up a bit. I am in a place now where I can laugh at silly things she did, talk about her, and smile when I look at her photos all without crying.

    She was my son's heart dog, they grew up together. He still isn't in a place to see photos or talk about her without needing to leave the room. Time is the only healer.

    As to worrying, yes, I'm worried about Orson. He's 6, his muzzle is starting to get white hairs, and his breed isn't known for longevity...........10 is a ripe old age for Dobes in general :(
     
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    Elsie isn't even two yet, and I'm already telling her to slow down, don't age so fast, you're fine where you are.

    Reading stories about people's dogs who've died young destroys me, and I've honestly never been as attached to a dog as I am to Elsie.

    I don't know what I'll do when she goes.
     
  5. animalluver#1

    animalluver#1 Miss Alana

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    Yesterday was June 20th 2012. It was super hot yesterday. All i'm worried about is my do Max dying or getting sick from heat exhaustion and on top of that he is old and a long haired breed. This might sound silly, but Max is seriously my best friend. We've been through alot together. If I can find a hankerchief I usually wet it down with cool water and rap it around his neck not to tight not to loose. But my message to you is enjoy them while you can but when they do pass, remember you gave them a wonderful life that you and them enjoyed through out the years.
     
  6. Kaydee

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    One of the saddest night of my life was coming home and seeing my Kashi laid out in the street. Head injury so I pray he didn't even see it coming...but sooo hard. Hubby was even upset. That was a really special cat...Joe Pesci in a fur suit. Whatta lover, every night he would wash us, wash the dog, then curl up in the middle of our bed...Ruler of All He Surveyed...took me awhile to look at any orange cat.

    Then when it was time we got Levon, not quite as cuddly, but still very people friendly with an attitude as big as a cougar. First night he was here, he was five pounds of orange fluff. He stepped up in front of 6 other bigger, older cats and a dog. Chased them all from the food bowl and sat down to eat while they watched. Great cat
     
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    RD Are you dead yet?

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    I really think that having another dog to come home to after losing your special dog makes a big difference... I don't think I would've made it through Shiner's death if not for Ripley, and (oddly enough) my cat, RJ, who is an incredibly intuitive creature and knew exactly what I needed to keep going.
     
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    I think knowing Bimmer will have Buffy awaiting him helps as I see the years add up for him. It's going to be terrible, and it will hurt me to my very core, but that thought is comforting.

    Kharma . . . while she loves Bimmer, it has always been, first, last and always, the two of us.

    Tallulah . . . is still a baby! But she could love someone else, I think. She never forgets -- she still is curious when she hears a Harley, although she doesn't get excited anymore and she carries on like crazy when I leave -- it seriously sounds like someone is killing her by inches :rolleyes:
     
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    I always get more worried around this time of the year... heat and tumors don't mix too well... the heat is why I lost Rogue when I did :(
     
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    Yup, every time one comes into your life, you know they're going to break your heart in pieces someday. It's worth it, though. I've learned to just really treat every day with them like gold and enjoy what time we do have.
     
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    I think about it all the time too although I try not to. Especially having already lost dogs young... and one particularly special dog was just suddenly, with no warning whatsoever, gone. At least when we lost Echo (Rottweiler) she'd shown signs of illness and we did everything we could to try and help her and figure out what it was. That didn't make it easy by any means. But playing with a perfectly healthy, happy dog one night and waking up the next morning to that dog in severe pain and unable to walk or move... that eats at my mind constantly. I wouldn't wish that upon anybody. Both dogs were young; Echo was 5 and Tango was 4 1/2, and while both were devastating, the sudden loss was even more so. If that's possible.

    Now I have three very special dogs that are 5, 4 and 3 years old. Two of them do not have good health going for them if you look at their family and there are days when I look at Ripley and think "I might only have between 2 and 4 years left with you" and can't even imagine life without him. Keira too. I hope with all my heart that's not the case. That's why I went with a breeder with good longevity. But what happens, happens I suppose and nobody could have guessed that dogs would suddenly start dropping dead. Especially when more than a few had just been holtered not long prior and all appeared fine. And then there's Dance, who realistically based on her breed should make it at least to 10, but I could've said the same for Tango. You just never know. But I try not to dwell on it and just appreciate and enjoy them while I have them. Losing them is going to be so hard, though. Especially Dance.
     
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    Our gorgeous Grace Stafford girl is 11 this year, starting to grey around the muzzle and sleep a bit more during the day.

    She is still as playful as a puppy and as sweet-natured as she always was. She plays with Abby the same way that she played when she was five and she tolerates a lot of crap from her but she is absolutely enjoying herself. We go for lovely long walks to all her favourite places and she gets a bit more tired a bit more easily but she still keeps going. (Truly, she is the only dog I know who seems to say, 'Goodness, I'm tired' and responses by completely up the pace again. :p)

    She is one of those dogs that never gets irritated. Abby gets irritated with us, with Gracie, with the cat. And that's ok. But strangely, I have never seen Grace even give a hint of irritation. How can one dog be so bloody happy? She really lifts my spirits every day and when somethings goes wrong or I'm just having a general crappy day, all I have to do is sit with Grace. She'll sit on me with her tail going non-stop and her head kneading into my chest while I hug her (yes, this dog truly likes hugs). She makes soft grunting noises of contentment and my heart just fills with... joy. Sorry to be so sappy, but it's true.

    Because she has been so fit and healthy, it's easy to forget they are aging. This winter has been a sombre reminder that she is getting older. She has some arthritis in her back legs as a result of some cruciate ligament surgery she had when she was much younger. It hardly ever bothered her except for a couple of flare ups as a result of too much tight turning and rough play in the backyard. This year it's a bit different. The cold effects her more, and what didn't have an effect last year, is leaving her sore this year. She does have painkillers if necessary. We've been much more diligent about keeping her warm if she is out and about. We have comparatively mild winters here, but she needs to be kept very warm now if we head out in the car at night.

    She is still very good and going well, but I guess it did hit home that she is aging...

    What am I going to do when my happy, sweet girl leaves us?

    As Abby's only real friend, I fret for Abby as well...

    But those big, grunty, wiggly stafford hugs are something that I truly cherish every single day.
     

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