Feeling sad and it's just not fair

Discussion in 'Dogs - General Dog Chat' started by ~Jessie~, Jun 20, 2012.

  1. ~Jessie~

    ~Jessie~ Chihuahua Power!

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    There are have been so many losses on this forum, especially lately. It really makes me realize my own dogs are not immortal and that I will have to go through this in the future as well. I'm having a hard time with this lately- I can't shake the idea of death from my mind :( I don't know how I'll cope when they pass away.

    Rylie is turning 7 in September, and it's hard to remember a time when she wasn't in my life- I brought her home when I was a Junior in college. She's been through every big step of my life. I just can't imagine that she won't be here.

    I'm terrified that Chloe's mole will turn out to be skin cancer. I'm not ready to lose her- she's 6 years old. The possibility of this being something serious just makes me sick to my stomach :(

    I was browsing my old chihuahua forum and saw that a member lost all three of her rescue puppies to Parvo... one right after the other. It was the saddest series of threads. These puppies were 2 or 3 months old and seemed like they were going to pull through, but they all died. It's just not fair.

    Thanks for letting me vent/ramble on. I just feel so sad.
     
  2. Cali Mae

    Cali Mae Little dog, big voice

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    First off, I really hope that Chloe will be dubbed perfectly healthy when she goes to the vet.

    Secondly, I can sympathesize. After hearing about all these deaths, and since Moses is 11 years old and isn't doing too great.. I think about losing him on a daily basis. My parents got him as a surprise when I was 5 years old, and needless to say, I was absolutely thrilled. I've pretty much grown up with him, and I know that I'll miss him so much when he's gone.. even his delusionalness when he thinks someone is at the door and continues to bark until you get up, "check" the door and tell him nobody is there. It really brings you back to reality when you remember that they won't live forever, no matter how much you love them.. but at least they've spent their lives knowing what love is, which unfortunately isn't the case for many dogs.
     
  3. yoko

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    I've had trouble with this too. Yoshi turned seven in march and I was worried then and these threads all make me sad for the people and the dogs but also knowing I'm going to have to come on here and do these posts eventually too.
     
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    First off, I am sure Chloe's mole is going to be just fine!

    Second, I do understand. I've had a few people lose dogs lately - my stepsister lost her 15 year old BC/shepherd mix a few weeks ago, my little sisters daycare provider who we call Grammy, lost her 14 year old Maltese and was devastated, and there was a few more. Luckily it makes me feel better that they were all older. But it still puts it in the back of your mind that one day he won't be here. Honestly the day that it happens, I'm afraid for myself. I will be an absolute wreck. I can't even think about it. I can only hope and pray that he lives to an old (and healthy) age and he will be around for a long time. He'll only be 4 this year but even saying that he'll be 4 sounds SOOO weird. WHERE does the time go?! It just goes way too quickly.
     
  5. Kaydee

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    Yes Jessie, calm down Darlin', chances are that you and your babies will spend many happy years together. Imagine life like a series of books, some books you reread and enjoy. Some you never want to pick up again. But the pages are ongoing...forever really

    ...absolutely the saddest thing about companion animals is that they get to that rainbow bridge so far ahead of us. My Kashi and Delilah both went within months of each other...and my daughter's rat. I held her and took her to the vet when they put her to sleep. Cried my whiskers off, we had her so long and it was incredibly hard to say goodbye.

    Bye the bye kids, have compassion for people with the diversity of pets. Some people would tsktsk mourning companion animals at all, some think dogs and cats are the ones to really get upset about...but who are they to judge? A goldfish, a hissing roach, any creature that makes someone happy to care for it...is still a companion animal...all meaningful living things

    I'm looking into volunteering for hospice, reflex is that I'm too sensitive. But I've gotten through major loss...and found reasonable peace...I can make a difference helping other people through...volunteering is a wonderful way to find meaning in life, go for it!
     
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    (((HUGS))) I know how you feel. :( I can't imagine life without Gipsy. We grew up together, and she's been there for everything. I just can't imagine her gone.


    So true - from Marley & me:
    “. . . owning a dog always ended with this sadness because dogs just don't live as long as people do.â€
     
  7. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    Rosey's 16 in October, and having what I think are focal seizures. I get it ((((hugs))))

    I'm sure Chloe's mole will be nothing, she's not allowed to be sick! You have my number if you need someone <3
     
  8. yoko

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    This sums it up :(
     
  9. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    I used to like you, you know. Why you go telling me things like this??
     
  10. Laurelin

    Laurelin I'm All Ears

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    I worry sometimes ad tell Summer she's not allowed to get old. She's 8 now and starting to grey. Beau is so incredibly grey these days too (7).

    But then I think that none of us ever really know what is coming. I remember when Harry died and my mom was talking to my sister and explaining to her how sad it was when pets died and how sad she would be when Beau died, but that it was something that she would have to go through because dogs just don't live as long as people. Then my mom died less than 2 years later.

    I don't know that that came across right or just morbid, but I think about that every single time I worry about my dogs and realize we just don't know and I have to be grateful for every day with them. There is no for sure in anything.

    The day I lose Mia, I will be a complete mess. That one's going to be especially hard. But I try not to dwell on it.
     
  11. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    I've been thinking a lot about it especially with Ren lately. As much as he irritates and frustrates me and is just so naughty, he's my boy, and it breaks my heart that he won't be with me much longer. Especially in the last year we've gotten such a strong bond, and now it may all be stolen from me.

    I've gotten so much worse about it since I lost Rascal, I used to be good about just enjoying the time we have and not thinking about it.
     
  12. Southpaw

    Southpaw orange iguanas.

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    I get like that too. For some reason I always feel like Lucy is immortal, even though she comes from crap breeding. It just seems impossible that she wouldn't be here, even though I was 14 when I got her it seems like I've had her forever.

    I think about it more with Juno. Mostly because she is 3 and it seems really uncommon for boxers to have not had any issues by that age. I read all the time about MCTs, heart problems, cancers on my boxer board... and can't help but wonder when (not if) she will be plagued with the same issues. So far so good, but I keep an eye on her and I know my heart is going to just sink the first time anything crops up.
     
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    Just remember people come online and are way more vocal when something is going wrong. You see all the people asking for help and support when something is wrong but you miss out on everyone where everything is going great :)
     
  14. JessLough

    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    Yep. You're doing very well if ferrets don't have cancer by the time they're 5... Renegade is 5, Harley is 4 1/2... Both have been deemed healthy, but I guess we'll see Monday, I'd be surprised if there isn't a tumor hiding in ren.
     
  15. PWCorgi

    PWCorgi Priscilla Winifred Corgi

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    I get so worried about my Fatty Daisy, she is already two, which is senior in rats. I check her over every day just waiting to find a lump :(
    I feel like it's not fair that I've only had her for 3 months and she's already OLD!
     
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    Rodents have always been super hard for me. They go from happy young rats to seniors in just months :(
     
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    When we lost my Bedlington, I remember getting weepy at the barn about it. My friend said that the last time she had lost a pet, she had of course been a wreck, and her not-animal-person husband has said "Why do you put yourself through this over and over again?" And she said to me "Non animal people just won't ever understand that it is worth every bit of pain."

    I'll be a mess when any of my animals die. I'm going to need a padded room when Meg does. Has the time I've had with her been worth it? 1000 times over.
     
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    I try not to think about it. Death is sad and it's a part of life, I'd rather try and focus on them while they walk this earth. It is horrible when I see so many dogs passing away though.

    I worry about my Lab x. He's 5, 6 in October and I can't shake this feeling that there is something wrong with him or something bad will be wrong with him soon.

    Serenity is under two and I have plenty of time left with her but I'm more attached to her then I am Sunny. She's a pain in the ass at times but she's grabbed my heart and I try not to think about her cute self not being by my side.. That day will be the hardest.
     
  19. RD

    RD Are you dead yet?

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    It's not fair to us, that they leave so soon. Eve is turning 6 this year, and this is the first year I haven't been overjoyed for her birthday and a "yay, she's MATURING!" milestone. Now I don't want her to age, I don't want her to change. I was excited for her to quit being a puppy but I wish I could freeze her like this, my perfect dog, forever.

    I was talking to the boyfriend (whose first childhood dog died this year) today about how impossibly hard it's going to be when Eve dies. A huge piece of me is going to die with her, and it's going to be a void that no other animal will ever, ever be able to fill. I don't even like to think about it.
     
  20. Bigpoodleperson

    Bigpoodleperson Megan and Draco

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    I think I will be sad until the day I die missing Riley. He was only 9. :( I still dont know how I came out mostly on the other side alive after loosing him. My heart hurts every day.
     

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