do "pretty"/"good looking" get treated different?

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I's prooooobably not helping "the cause" any to call another woman "ugly" as though that's the worst possible thing they could be.

I think we could probably come up with another list of things to call an individual based on their behavior than "ugly."

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Although I get that it's a response to "I'M SO PRETTY LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME." So the natural adjective to use is the opposite of pretty. But perhaps not the most appropriate one (even if it's true?)


Also, I gotta tell you guys, it does wonders for your blood pressure and stress level to put people on ignore. I've missed like half the "REASONS TO GET HOT AND INSULT OTHER PEOPLE" in this thread. I'd have missed all of them if you people would quit quoting.
Meh, I'm bored and really have nothing better to be doing at the moment. If it stressed me out (or if it stresses anyone else out), I'd just avoid the entirety of the thread.
 

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Well, at least I wasn't alone!

And Beanie, you're totally right. Hence my delete :)
I think the Roald Dahl quote sums up how I feel about DD. She could be the most physically attractive person on the planet, but her personality and bad attitude can make her the ugliest person.
 

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I love this quote :D



Dogdragoness, you seem to think that everyone is unattractive except for you! Pregnant women are ugly and disgusting, women with makeup and nice clothes are "fake" and unattractive, etc, etc. You are really doing women an injustice.

When anyone calls you out on being rude and snotty, you pull the same BS excuse every time: "it's a public forum, it's my opinion, I can say what I want!!!" You use the excuse of freedom of expression to hide behind your screen in order to be an offensive b*tch. Why do you care SO much about how attractive other women are. Why does it disgust you so much to see women you don't feel have "nice" bodies?

I think you're living inside your head quite a bit:





But then you say that attitude makes you attractive... even though you clearly think that women have to look a certain way to be "attractive."



I'd recommend getting some help to work through these issues. You've offended more than a handful of women and girls on this forum. They're not the ones with issues though... it's you.
I don't think all women who wear makeup are disgusting, it's the WA some women wear their clothes or makeup that I don't agree with. As far as pregnant women, I haven't talked or posted in a pregnancy related topic for a long long time but people keep bringing it up?

About hiding, I am not hiding, it is a fact that this is a public forum and I have a right to my opinion, whether people agree with it or not. I have seen some people have some pretty **** up opinions about topics and on one jumps down their throats about it, the bottom line is everyone always chooses to gang up on me because that don't like me ... luckily I don't care.

I also don't post things to "get a rise " out of people, my opinions are genuine. Also I don't know what my photo bucket account has to do with anything??? I have nothing to hide, if I did I wouldn't put it on the internet :/
 

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I'd recommend getting some help to work through these issues. You've offended more than a handful of women and girls on this forum. They're not the ones with issues though... it's you.
This.

I have Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, Autism.

My depression makes me feel like complete sh't. I feel worthless,& feel like burden to others, like I'm just a waste of there time. I'm also really irritable,& get angry pretty easily. But, I try my best to not hurt, or offended others.

My ADHD,& Autism-well, make me feel dumb. I can't learn quickly, I need special accommodations, I get off task quickly. I wish I could be as intelligent as others,& at times,I'm jealous of others.

But that doesn't give me the right, or anyone else the right to be offended others.

Yes, you can say what you want-but that doesn't mean you should say it. Freedom of speech doesn't mean you can go out,& offended people.

That's all.
 

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If we were talking about this in person there wouldn't be anyone who was offended because it's a lot easier for me to articulate myself in person than in words. In fact a few aquaintence and I discussed this very topic, in which I said that I liked myself and my looks and I wouldn't give them up, even if it meant not having mental issues and no one got all up in arms about that statement.


It was a statement about ME, myself, I wasn't insulting anyone else.

sew I think it says something about us as a society because we always have to be so careful we don't offend someone, I am not offended by anything anyone says here ... even the stuff directed at me, it's their right to say it. I

I also can't understand why someone would get stressed out over what some faceless, nobody they don't even know (referencing myself) says, I certainly have WAAAAY too much going on to have the energy to be stressed out over what someone I don't even know says over the internet.
 

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I'd just like to point out that no only the word "ugly," but "crazy" and "bitch" are also words that hardly belong in a thread that professes that women should not turn on each other.

Honestly, I as someone who does deal with mental health issues (something that is stigmatized at least as much as "unattractivness") and has dealt with suicide in my family the label of "crazy" is far more offensive than the label of "ugly."

Just a thought.
 

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That may be true, but I am only responsible for my own feelings, I have no control over how someone else is going to feel about what I say. I can try not to offend people, but if I don't succeed, I don't think that's my fault.
Honestly you don't even seem to try..
 
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That may be true, but I am only responsible for my own feelings, I have no control over how someone else is going to feel about what I say. I can try not to offend people, but if I don't succeed, I don't think that's my fault.
You are absolutely entitled to have and voice your opinions however you like. And then everyone else is entitled to have and voice their opinions OF your opinions. It makes no sense to proclaim your right to your opinions but then argue with people for having theirs.
 

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Well in her defense she hasn't really told anyone to keep their opinion to themselves. She's basically been told to shut up and her opinions aren't welcome and she's just said "oh well". While that may not be the ideal attitude to have... She hasn't said that anyone's opinion is not welcome lol
 

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I'd just like to point out that no only the word "ugly," but "crazy" and "bitch" are also words that hardly belong in a thread that professes that women should not turn on each other.

Honestly, I as someone who does deal with mental health issues (something that is stigmatized at least as much as "unattractivness") and has dealt with suicide in my family the label of "crazy" is far more offensive than the label of "ugly."

Just a thought.
Fair enough - I submit there's a difference between a cliche generalizing about a group of people and using a word to directly attack one individual, especially when that word is being used to imply somebody's measure of attractiveness has to do with their value as a person; also, I just described myself last night as a crazy bitch, and given that I probably need to be medicated right now and lack the funds to go to the doctor to seek said medication it's not an entirely inaccurate description, but I definitely am not in the habit of needlessly abusing myself - unless it's telling myself "pick it up fatty" while I'm trying to inspire action on a long run, which is not the situation here.

However, I realize that's probably akin to the argument between when the n-word is used to describe oneself in a proud manner and when it's used to insult another individual, which is murky, and besides the point; other people obviously have their own values assigned to the word(s) and it's not really my place to tell them how they SHOULD feel about said word(s). If I and my friends comfortably refer to each other as crazy bitches, that doesn't mean the rest of the world views it that way. So I apologize if it came off as excessively offensive or brought up any negative emotions. That definitely wasn't the intent.
 
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Well in her defense she hasn't really told anyone to keep their opinion to themselves. She's basically been told to shut up and her opinions aren't welcome and she's just said "oh well". While that may not be the ideal attitude to have... She hasn't said that anyone's opinion is not welcome lol
Well I kind of took all the "people shouldn't get offended by/spend energy caring what strangers on the internet say" that way. lol.
 

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Well I kind of took all the "people shouldn't get offended by/spend energy caring what strangers on the internet say" that way. lol.
Ok. I guess if you read into it. Inwas thinking more the blatant "your opinion is ugly, stupid and not welcome. No one wants to hear it" i'm paraphrasing lol.

It does seem that the catty stereotype that we fight against was pretty well shown from many sides of it though.
 

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Soooo... Maybe we are more like what we are fighting against. Maybe society sees us as a generalization because of these kinda of things right here. We all have our ideas of what women shoild be and should stand up
For and when someone goes against that, they become the enemy and we become "mean girls" and turn on one another
 

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