Chaz Moms and Moms-to-Be Chat (everyone welcome)

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  1. Locke

    Locke Active Member

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    Do not compare yourself to others. Do what feels best for you. You think it's unnecessary, so start buying stuff when you feel it's right.
     
  2. Barbara!

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    When is the time for a baby shower? Lol.
     
  3. Grab

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    I didn't have a baby shower, lol. I hate groups of people/social gatherings. and inviting people in a group to buy my kid things seemed inappropriate. My theory was if they wanted to buy him something, they could do so without having a gathering.
     
  4. milos_mommy

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    I don't really want a shower, either. I just want to have a big barbecue/pool party before the kid is born and people can write notes in a baby book or something.

    I think most people have the shower late, at like 8 months pregnant. I had a friend who's preemie came before her shower (which she still had) and most have their babies within a month or two after the shower.
     
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    Milos, at 20weeks I only have a few "fun" things. I bought a vibrating chair thing and a coworker gave me a bassinet. Other than that, I have a onesie with a Pitbull, a onesie with angel wings, an amber teething necklace and a ring sling. That's it.

    This is my in laws first grandchild so I know they'll want to buy a ton of stuff, plus I'm expecting a ton of hand me down stuff.

    I also was told not to stock up on disposal diapers since some babies will have a sensitivity to one type or another.

    After tomorrow we will start getting more serious about getting baby stuff but we are only halfway there so I'm not panicking.
     
  6. sparks19

    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    I had my baby shower around 8 months. My MIL threw the shower for me. At that point I didn't know many people here so I only knew about half the people at my shower LOL but I met a group of extended friends and family from my husbands childhood so that was nice :)

    As for buying things for the baby, I started whenever I spotted something that was a good deal or during summertime yardsale season lol. yardsales are a GOLD MINE for baby clothes :)
     
  7. jenv101

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    We started around 25 weeks I think. Slowly mostly with hand me down stuff. Once I hit 30 weeks reality started to set in and we have been more focused lol. So over the past few weeks I've gotten diapers and clothes, crib, carrier and sling, a doula!, and organizing rooms and general clean up is beginning this week. We have a bit more to prepare since we are planning a home birth. Rented a tub and all that good stuff. We got a lot of bigger stuff (carseats, strollers, playpen, change table) from a friend and some used so we didn't have to spend a ton.
     
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    Just a reminder to those using hand-me-down car seats: car seats have only 6 years until they "expire", so please check the manufacturers sticker for info on when the car seat was made. The last thing you need is to be in a wreck and have the inner parts of the seat fail, thus not protecting the baby as it should (I.e. not restraining the baby, instead allows movement). These incidents DO happen.
     
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    Jen I just have to say that I'm psyched that I now "know" someone doing a homebirth AND having a doula! LOL
     
  10. darkchild16

    darkchild16 We are Home.

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    My friend is having a home birth with her second on St. Pattys day unless it comes early LOL. I'm supposed to be the kid wrangler LOL. (She has a 2 year old but doesn't want family there) She will also have a doula/pro photog LOL) I'm so excited to be able to be there!

    Shes also not done a single ultrasound or anything. I tell her constantly shes nuts for that part because Ive found so many cute baby things and I can NOT buy them. GAH.

    She castor oil induced her last exactly on her due date and she was 9lbs +.
     
  11. Barbara!

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    Meh, I'm not a fan of the idea of home birth.
     
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    darkchild16 We are Home.

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    I would have loved to have one but never would be able to :(
     
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    I would not have wanted a home birth...I like to support the fine work of the people who invented epidurals. But, I think everyone should have (or attempt) whatever birth is comfortable to them :)
     
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    :lol-sign:
     
  15. Fran101

    Fran101 Resident fainting goat

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    Got my neighbor a spa gift card thingy and some movie passes and she was really thankful :)
    (I said I would be happy to watch the little guy while she went to the movies and she started crying!)

    YAY!
     
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    darkchild16 We are Home.

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    You by far have to be the best neighbor ever :hail: Mine only wake my baby up with their crappy trucks.
     
  17. milos_mommy

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    Fran, that's so sweet!

    I would love to do a home birth in the future but I'll be too high risk for it. I'd really like to have some kind of non-invasive birthing center birth where I could get in a tub and walk around and use an exercise ball, but whether or not I get an epidural I'm sure I'll be hooked up to a million stupid monitors and IVs and crap.
     
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    Yes, that. Women should have many options available to them for birth and the education and support to choose whichever option fits them best!
     
  19. Barbara!

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    Yeah, they can do whatever they want, but when my friend says she wants a home birth in a pool with only a few people... I can't help but be like "Lady, you crazy."
     
  20. jenv101

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    Lol! I hope I can be a good example for you :) I don't know a lot who have done it either, just two of my cousins who I hardly ever see, and a lady I work with her daughter is due this week and was planning a home birth with her first so I'm anxiously awaiting news from her!

    However it all works out I am just happy to have a plan and people around me who I'm comfortable with. I'm looking forward to the experience no matter how it plays out!
     

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