SO MUCH THIS. Or my MIL would help by putting all the clean silverware on the dirty counter so I had to wash it all over again. It was so awful. My 30th birthday was the worst day ever, people came over to see the babies, I don't even remember getting a cake or even less presents, and we had to entertain them and make them dinner, when the kids were not even 2 months old and I was so sleep deprived and stressed out already. I just wanted to yell at everyone to get the **** out.