Advice: communication

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  1. Beanie

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    I feel like instead of "I love you" you need to start saying "We have a car."
    "Hey I'm leaving. We have a car. Bye."
     
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    Haha :lol-sign:

    I don't think this is a valid argument though.... You can see, hear, touch and smell a car. You can't do that with a feeling, unless the person displaying the feeling makes a display - touch, verbal, action of some kind!

    You could have a magical invisible unicorn, but unless it did something to let you know it was there, it might as well not be!!
     
  3. Taqroy

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    :rofl1: Matt is an engineer (he's in IT now but...still an engineer) and I feel your pain. He does the same thing with saying he loves me, it drives me crazy.
     
  4. *blackrose

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    Michael is also an engineer. Yes. I'm apparently a glutton for punishment. LOL I swear, engineers work on a completely different mental plane sometimes.
     
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    I really think that most of them do. My sister and Matt went to school together so I knew a lot of engineers. They're very logical and analytical and (sadly) a good portion of the ones I knew were giant jerks. And the ones that aren't jerks have a hard time seeing past "BUT IT'S ONLY RATIONAL AND I AM RIGHT" and saying "Hey, you have a good point and I'm going to compromise".

    I know this because I have a lot of the same tendencies. :lol-sign:
     
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    noludoru Bored Now.

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    Am I the only one who LOVES engineers? They're so much fun at work. Find out what makes them tick, dig out all the important facts, have a sense of humor about it, and it's so easy to sell them a car. I swear they go car shopping with a checklist and a bunch of numbers just waiting for someone to bring out a pen and start checking boxes and giving the right info.

    However, unlike you ladies, I doubt I would take one home. :p Although I think "we have a car!" is a completely appropriate way to say "I love you" so maybe I should.
     
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    Haha, my husband is a chemist and he is somewhat like this, too, although he's softened over the years. Years ago we had a conversation where I basically expressed how I needed to feel loved and he looked at me like I had grown another head and said in all sincerity "But you KNOW I love you!"

    I had to explain that some people even if they "KNOW" someone loves them, need to hear it regularly... It was like an epiphany for both of us, lol.
     
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    My BF is an electrical engineer, and so very much this. He does say he loves me a fair bit, but this kind of logic comes up every time I'm upset. I DON'T WANT YOUR LOGIC JUST HOLD ME. :rofl1:
     
  9. jess2416

    jess2416 Who woulda thought

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    THIS^^
     
  10. HayleyMarie

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    We should start a "living with an engineer support group" ha ha
     
  11. Laurelin

    Laurelin I'm All Ears

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    Hey isn't Shai an engineer? :p
     
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    It's ok, we can invite her husband.
     
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    HayleyMarie Like a bat outa' hell

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    ^^THIS!! Ha ha
     

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