Where should she sleep?

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Ok, my puppy is 6 months old. She was doing really good sleeping in her crate until last weekend we went away and my in-laws kept her. When we got home she was sick and my DH babied her and let her sleep in our bed all week. Obviously, now that I put her back in her Crate, she doesnt want to sleep there and cries/barks ALL NIGHT LONG. DH wants her to come sleep in our room (easy solution). But I do not want her invading our space, in our bed or on our floor. I think she should sleep in her crate. I am assuming she will adjust back within a week if we resume her old routine.

What's your opinion??
 

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But I do not want her invading our space, in our bed or on our floor.
Your puppy doesn't have to sleep in your bed. But dogs are social animals and are meant to be with their humans as a family. When they're shut out away from their family, most dogs are unhappy and insecure. I recommend putting her crate in your room and having her sleep in there. Stick to your guns because she' going to cry for a while, maybe as much as a week. She found out that crying works to get her the ultimate sleeping spot, with you in the bed. Dogs do what works. Anyhow, being in your room but in her crate is seperating her a little bit by having her own bed, but she still can feel part of the family and the security that the very social and domestic dog needs.
 

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Yes, she will re-adjust if you're consistent. Best to do what works for your household. It's grandmas job to spoil the grandbabies, so be firm about this, next time they babysit! Lol!
 
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But I do not want her invading our space, in our bed or on our floor. I think she should sleep in her crate.
Lots of dogs sleep in crates, for a variety of reasons, but this statement seems harsh.

Alot of dogs want to sleep in bed...if you wont let her do this, why cant she at least sleep on the floor in your room, or in her crate in your room?

If you dont want her near you, why have her at all?

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Lots of dogs sleep in crates, for a variety of reasons, but this statement seems harsh.

Alot of dogs want to sleep in bed...if you wont let her do this, why cant she at least sleep on the floor in your room, or in her crate in your room?

If you dont want her near you, why have her at all?

Elissa

Please dont get me wrong, I absolutely love my dog and I spend every minute I am home with her. However, I dont think there is anything wrong with having a space that is just mine and my husband's, where she is not allowed to sleep. We let her watch TV in there with us and such, I just dont think she should be sleeping in there. When I have children I do not plan on letting them sleep in my room, however, that does not mean I dont want to be near them or love them. It simply is the territory of my husband and me, Just as I dont think my dog would accept a child or anything going into her crate because that is HER SPACE.
 
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Please dont get me wrong, I absolutely love my dog and I spend every minute I am home with her. However, I dont think there is anything wrong with having a space that is just mine and my husband's, where she is not allowed to sleep. We let her watch TV in there with us and such, I just dont think she should be sleeping in there. When I have children I do not plan on letting them sleep in my room, however, that does not mean I dont want to be near them or love them. It simply is the territory of my husband and me, Just as I dont think my dog would accept a child or anything going into her crate because that is HER SPACE.
Comparing dogs sleeping in your room to kids is not exactly comparing apples and apples.

However, to each his/her own I suppose.

Sorry, I cant be of any help on this topic... I have never had any kind of pet that did not sleep in or near someones bed.

Elissa
 

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Where should she sleep?
I just dont think she should be sleeping in there
What's your opinion??
You asked.

We told.

I think you knew the answer to your question before you asked. LOL!

She'll sleep anywhere you want her to. She has to sleep. Everybody needs to sleep. If you don't want her to be confused and have whiney behavior, don't reinforce her whining and crying by changing her routine and giving her a payoff for that behavior. She'll get use to it eventually. But it won't happen right away because her behavior worked so she'll keep trying for a while until she finds that it won't work.

I'm sure you love your dog (that's obvious) and there's no crime in having her sleep in another room. She's a highy social animal. So, the suggestion to have the pup in your room is a more natural and less stressful place to sleep. But she certainly can sleep wherever you want her to. It sounds like you already know what to do.
 

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I have no problems with a "no dogs on the bed " rule. We don't allow the dogs on our bed while we sleep- they go to their beds. One dog is in a crate with the door open, the other dog is on a bed on the floor. The dog should be allowed to have her crate in your room IMO. Puppies are not cut out for social isolation and are generally MUCH happier if they can see you and are near you. The same is often true for adult dogs.
If she cries in her crate, leave her be- say nothing, do nothing.
 

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The dog should be allowed to have her crate in your room IMO. Puppies are not cut out for social isolation and are generally MUCH happier if they can see you and are near you.
I didn't always have my puppies in my room at night but when I started doing it that way, I noticed it dramatically cut down on the crying and whining. With my Dobe pup, I think he cried for about 5 or 10 minutes the first night and that was it. He settled right down and went to sleep when he knew someone was near by. It was comforting at that quiet, dark, lonely time....night time. I could hear him give just a little whine after having been asleep and pretty much knew he needed to go potty, although he began sleeping through the night very early on....within a couple of weeks if I remember correctly.
 

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my puppy was 4 months old and STILL not sleeping through the night....so my boyfriend and i decided to just let him start sleeping with us. To allow us to still have a little alone time without the pup in the bed, he goes in his crate for 30 minutes to an hour before we get him to bring him into bed. This works for us because it gives us time to relax and it allows Peyton to calm down too. When we bring him in the room, he likes to run right under the covers and sleep by our feet. :) it's nice to have that little bit of heat right by your feet on the cold fall nights! And, I guess that he did just want to be near us while sleeping.
 

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PS my boyfriend was totally against letting peyton sleep in bed with us at first too....but after a couple months of little or no sleep, it's much better to have a cuddly pup in the bed!
 

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I have to say I agree with the statement about pupps/dogs not wanting to sleep alone. I understand what you mean about not wanting them on the bed, but I do think the dog should be allowed to at least sleep on the floor. Dogs are pack animals, you are their pack, and they are very lonely without that companionship, even at night.

Consider the crate/bed on your floor. It kinda makes me sad to think the doggie has to sleep alone in the big house.

Our dogs started off in crates, then worked their way into our bed. They do take upa lot of space even though they are small. But we also have a bed for them on the floor and they sometimes use that. But they generally always want to be with us, we head up to bed and they follow. They are heartbroken without us...

For us, once our dogs got a taste of the bed, there was no turning back. Well I suppose there coudl have been but my heart would break hearing them cry knowing all they wanted was their mommy and daddy (us). Dogs just want to be part of the family.
 

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