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For any of you that are in a serious relationship and/or married, do you pay 50/50? How do you split the expenses?
For my situation, usually he pays all the food bills when we go out to eat together, once in a while I will offer to pay for a nice meal to be nice and as a thank you. I pay some of his grocery bill because I'm the one making him food most of the time. Also I'm in charge of buying cow quarters for us both (averages to $1500-2000 a year) But otherwise, he pays for his own groceries and I pay for mine (we don't live together).
However, I'm currently in school, and I'm currently out of a job for the summer so I'm not making any money at all. Plus I have to continue paying tuition. He makes 7 times as much money as me when I was working, and is not in school.
So the situation is, he said he wanted to go on vacation in the summer. I said I would like to as well, however, he didn't ask for my opinion on where I want to go or what I want to do. Even though he didn't ask, I told him anyways. At any rate, today he tells me he planned a vacation and the dates for when it's convenient for his job, and the main activity as well (which is something he's been telling me he really wanted to do) and he asked me if I wanted to go or not. It's not a country I wanted to go to or an activity I said I wanted to do. And then he tells me he wants me to pay my half of the trip which I thought was kind of unfair because first, I currently have no job and have lots of expenses; second, he didn't ask me for any input on what/where I would've wanted to go/do, he didn't even ask me which dates would work for me. I've been trying to find a job in the summer and I told him I'm not sure if those dates will work if I get a job but instead he just insists on me answering yes/no. And then tells me to tell any new interview/potential positions that I need to be gone for the dates he decided.
I don't know, I've never minded paying much and always offer to pay once in a while but I feel like it's really unfair to plan a trip without my input and then just tell me to pay (or not pay and don't go) especially when I'm having a bit of financial trouble this summer.
Am I just crazy? I am able to pay for it and go...but I just feel a bit weird about the situation and the way he's handling it. Any opinions?
For my situation, usually he pays all the food bills when we go out to eat together, once in a while I will offer to pay for a nice meal to be nice and as a thank you. I pay some of his grocery bill because I'm the one making him food most of the time. Also I'm in charge of buying cow quarters for us both (averages to $1500-2000 a year) But otherwise, he pays for his own groceries and I pay for mine (we don't live together).
However, I'm currently in school, and I'm currently out of a job for the summer so I'm not making any money at all. Plus I have to continue paying tuition. He makes 7 times as much money as me when I was working, and is not in school.
So the situation is, he said he wanted to go on vacation in the summer. I said I would like to as well, however, he didn't ask for my opinion on where I want to go or what I want to do. Even though he didn't ask, I told him anyways. At any rate, today he tells me he planned a vacation and the dates for when it's convenient for his job, and the main activity as well (which is something he's been telling me he really wanted to do) and he asked me if I wanted to go or not. It's not a country I wanted to go to or an activity I said I wanted to do. And then he tells me he wants me to pay my half of the trip which I thought was kind of unfair because first, I currently have no job and have lots of expenses; second, he didn't ask me for any input on what/where I would've wanted to go/do, he didn't even ask me which dates would work for me. I've been trying to find a job in the summer and I told him I'm not sure if those dates will work if I get a job but instead he just insists on me answering yes/no. And then tells me to tell any new interview/potential positions that I need to be gone for the dates he decided.
I don't know, I've never minded paying much and always offer to pay once in a while but I feel like it's really unfair to plan a trip without my input and then just tell me to pay (or not pay and don't go) especially when I'm having a bit of financial trouble this summer.
Am I just crazy? I am able to pay for it and go...but I just feel a bit weird about the situation and the way he's handling it. Any opinions?