How much time do you spend with your SO/DH?

Sometimes I think about how much time the average person spends with their SO or spouse.

Josh and I generally spend 2-3 hours together at night before he leaves for work. Occasionally we will have a little longer, but unfortunately this is average. I have one day off a week while he has between 2-4 days off every other week.

He's on a 4 day weekend. We spent ALL DAY together yesterday, including the night before and last night (and he's got tonight and tomorrow night off). IT WAS/IS AMAZING. And then I got sad because I realized most people probably don't cherish that time together because they get it all the time. And partly jealous because time together.

I'm rambling. So, how much time do you spend with your SO/DH on a normal week?

We work together, so on average 16-24 hours a day, depending on weather we are working at the same jobsite or in the office, or if we are working separately.

We spend a good 90-95% of our time together. It's a tad ridiculous, honestly, but it never gets trying, tiring, or boring. In past relationships, I would fight for alone time or even schedule it into the days and weeks. But not with BeAu, and we've been together over a year now. Honeymoon period is much over.

We live together, we commute together, we work together, we shower together, cook together, we go out together, socialize together with each other's friends....we are simply never apart. Unless I'm tired and he goes to the store for me or we order food and I don't want to go. Or I sleep in and he goes and gets me Starbucks. And in those instances, he always brings me back gifts and such. LOL.

So it's rather nice. We like all the time together and cherish it. We don't get tired of each other or anything, or regularly spend time apart because we can't stand each other. It's been that way in past relationships for both of us, but we're best friends and we're happy spending our time together.

As much time as
Possible. All day on weekends. Brian gets home around 5 ish 3 nigts a
Week so we spend dinner and all evening together. He works from home two days a
Week and if Hannah and I are also home then we have little random
Hello times during the day Nd then the evenings.

When we aren't together we like to text and message on FB and what not.

We just enjoy being together. We don't take it for granted. We enjoy each others company. We GET each other I can fart and slop
Soup on my shirt when i eat
Or spray down the carpet cleaner with my hair a rats nest and my bra straps falling down my arms in a tank top that is normally reserved as an under shirt and hubby will say something like "wow... You are really going all
Out trailer trash right now huh?" And we'll both laugh hysterically and hug (even though i am sweaty and gross and YES this occurred
Today lol). We just get each other. We are two halves that make a whole. We've been together ten years this july. Laughter is a key part of our relationship . We laugh... A LOT and that's the glue for us. That and our Faith.

Sorry, that ended up longer than I planned lol we served our time away from each other when we spent the first year married in two different countries. Now... We don't want to be apart i ised to have nightmares about being separated and I
Couldn't call him... I would try but could never dial the right number in my dream. Horrible dreams.

Awake together in the same room: 2-3 hours/weeknight, 4-5 hours most Saturdays, 8+ hours most Sundays. TOTAL: max of 15+5+10=30h/week

Actually doing things together: 1-2 hours/weeknight, 1 hour most Saturdays, 8+ hours most Sundays. TOTAL: max of 10+1+10=21h/week

If I am at a trial, it's much less on weekends. That's usually 1-2 weekends/mo.

We eat together, we bathe together, (we work together), we even share the same piece of mint-flavored dental floss.

And I have separation anxiety. So I can't go more than 2 minutes out of his presence or I'll start shaking and foaming at the mouth.

Currently, we spend 3-4 hours together in the evening when I work. If I'm off, it's more like 5-6 hours. I get up when his alarm goes off and make him lunch before he leaves in the morning, so that is maybe a total of 40 minutes of interaction (most of it being me in bed and talking to him lol). We obviously sleep together, too, but I don't know if that counts.

Weekends were typically always around one another, even when we're doing our own thing.

He'll be gone for 3-5 weeks in October. For 6 months in January. His current deployment schedule is home for 12 months, gone for 6, although that may be changing to home for 16 months, gone for 8.

I think we both feel the same way: when he's home, we need to make the most of it. I certainly do. When he's around, I hate doing good things without him.

Right now my husband is working a lot of hours. So on weekdays maybe 3 hours each night by the time we are both home from work. Sometimes less, on the days I work later.

On the weekends, we typically spend almost all our time together.

Monday, usually four or five hours.
Tuesday, nothing.
Wednesday, an hour or two.
Thursday, usually four or five hours.
Friday, an hour or two.
Saturday, nothing.
Sunday, nothing.

:[ It's not long enough.

We're together pretty much 24/7 and love it. I'm going to die of sadness once I'm working out of the house without him, and that feeling is mutual, lol. He's a bit more independent than I am, though.

:rofl1: But at least you're foaming at the mouth with minty fresh breath.

The SO is overseas currently, so zero time is spent together. When that changes, it's going to be 24/7 for the week I have off and then any time I'm conscious and not working. After a month of that I'll freak out and need my space and I'll spend my weekdays off on my own DEAR GOD IF YOU TEXT ME I WILL KILL YOU JUST LEAVE ME BE. Seriously, in August or September you guys can come back here and be like "oh, yeah, she did say she was going to freak out. Let's ignore the fact that she's used up the last two pages of the venting thread with her complaining."

I need my own space, I crave it. I'll have one weekday and he'll have one weekday apart. Sundays will be spent together and most evenings and mornings before work. I have had friends that turn into that "we HAVE to do everything as a couple" couple and I don't want to be that person. It's ridiculous if friends that I used to hang out with one on one can't because of their SO. He will go do his own thing, as will I, and we will also do things together. Does that cover the time and space thing?

We try to spend most of our free time together, as he works quite a bit (but it's more time now as he changed jobs a few months ago). Some days (I'd say typically 2-3/wk) he's out of work at 3 (or goes in late) so we get like 5 hours together. He's usually off two days but not always consecutively...those days we're together all day except sometimes 2-3 hours if I have therapy, he works out, etc.

But sometimes I work on his off days (if they fall on the weekend) so I'm gone 4-8 hours...and other days we only get an hour or two together.

It's definitely a balance. I always treasure our time together and get stressed if it's lessened, but when he was between jobs after a week I needed a vacation lol.

I think I need alone time much more than him, but I think that's because I'm always with Lillian and he sees other adults much more than me, even if it's at work.

We spend about 2-3 hours together in the evenings, and then all day together on weekends if I'm not working. We would like to spend more time together but our jobs kind of limit that right now. At least we live together, so I guess sleeping together each night counts as time together too.

This is exactly how I am.. I'm reading some of these responses and thinking "OMG how do they spend that much time with them?!" LOL.

FWIW, Eric (husband) and I have been together for almost 10yrs. Married for a little over 2yrs. His job requires him to travel fairly often (he's gone now actually), so we sometimes go 2 or so months without "seeing" each other (we do get to video chat, so I technically see him haha). I will say that the longer trips do suck and I do miss him after awhile. Mainly because he's a really good cook and I get sick of eating Ramen.. I kid

But for example, this trip is only for 10 days and it's actually been really nice. I'm extremely independent and like doing my own thing, and I also don't need a bunch of people around me to feel happy/secure/whatever. I feel like relationships do better and are stronger when you get little breaks from each other. I can't stand girls who turn into non-functioning humans if their SO's aren't around to make a decision, hang out with them, etc.

Anyway. When he's home, he works quite a bit so on weekdays I'd say we spend.. 4ish hrs. together after he gets home. Weekends, eh, it depends. Some weekends we are here all day and do spend it together. Other times he'll go to a car show, and I'll go to a dog show, so most of the day is spent apart. I like that he has his hobbies, and I have mine. We do trade off sometimes and I'll go to a car show with him, he comes to a dog show with me. So, it works, I think!

We're really close, but also pretty balanced IMO. He works away from home and I work at home, so we're apart for workdays. When he gets home he wants to veg out at home, and I need an evening or two out of the house each week to stay sane. So we have our times outside of work where we do our own thing each week, and we both like it that way. Even if we're both home, we have evenings where we do our own thing and don't chat much. Otherwise, we do housework as a team, watch the same TV shows/movies and play a lot of the same games, so tons of social time together.

We do generally spend weekends together, and we spend a lot of time with his family (my family is not local). So yeah, lots of time spent together, but we need our "me" time too.

Sorry. Weird Al song lyrics.

We do spend a lot of time together--we work together, share same friends (well we've merged friends and love and visit them all). We have three day weekends every other week together with a "me" day on each side (I'm home on Thursday, we have fri, sat, sun off and he's home alone on Monday when I go back to work). I love that we have those "me" days. Then he has two weekends a year where it's just the guys -- Kentucky derby and a tubing trip in July. So I try to do something with the girls during those times, specifically.

But we watch the same shows, have similar hobbies, enjoy time off together and work really well together on a daily basis. In our work, the work doesn't end at five. You take a lot of baggage, stress and responsibility home each night--have dinners interrupted, sleep disturbed and holidays on call. It totally helps to have a partner in all of it and have a super great person to cuddle with on the couch after a long day or travel with on time off!

We spend most of the weekend together. Sometimes I go off and do dog things that doing interest him, but that is fairly rare.

During the week, it's normally around 3 hours per day awake & then sleeping.

The last weekend of June he is going to be at his folks visiting and I'll be home alone. If I'm not stuck working the entire time, it will be nice, just me and the dog and cat.

Probably about 2-3 hours a night and every other weekend a full day together.


Used to be very clingy but honestly love alone time now. Couldn't imagine working with him!!

He was gone this weekend on a four wheeling trip and honestly it was a very nice relaxing weekend for me.

I am a people person in general and just don't enjoy being alone. An hour here and there is nice but I don't crave being alone. I crave human interaction. I lived on my own for a brief period of time and it just wasn't for me! I have been that way for as long as i can remember. Brian works all day and sometimes downstairs in the evening and during the day is when Hannah and I do a lot of our social things with friends and groups. At night after being apart all day I am perfectly content sitting on the couch together watchig tv

4-5ish hours on a weekday - direct interaction is maybe 1-2 hours of that
Most of the day on most weekends.

Our current arrangement (put into place post-baby) is that we each get one night a week to do whatever we want. I use mine for agility and Matt uses his for gaming. Those nights are pretty much sacred and any other activity that requires one of use to single parent is discussed beforehand. I can't think of a time when one of us shot down an outing though - it just has to be brought up in advance so we can prepare.

I'll be honest - after a four day weekend entirely in the company of Matt I'm usually plotting a murder. I love him dearly but I am not made to be around the same person 24/7 for extended periods of time.