The musing thread

Louis CK on hitting your kids
“I really think it’s crazy that we hit our kids. Here’s the crazy part about it; kids are the only people in the world that you’re allowed to hit. Do you realize that? They’re the most vulnerable and the most desroyed by being hit but it’s totally OK to hit them. And they’re the only ones! if you hit a dog they will put you in jail for that s**t. You can’t hit a person unless you can prove that they were trying to kill you. But a little tiny person with a head this big who trusts you implicitly:
‘F**K ‘EM, WHO GIVES A SH**! LET’S ALL HIT THEM!’
People want you to hit your kid. If your kid is making noise:
‘HIT HIM!!!! HIT ‘EM!!!! GRRRRRR’
That’s what people say -
“You dam right I hit my kids!â€.
Why do you hit them?
“-cause they were doing a thing I didn’t like at the moment and so I hit them and guess what? They didn’t do it after thatâ€.
Never again? That solved the whole problem?
Well....
Well that wouldn’t be taking the f**king easy way out would it? How about talking to them for a second you f**king retard? What are you an idiot? What are you a f**king ape?
“Well I know but it’s a pain in the ass-“
Well you f**ked a woman and a baby came out of her vagina, so you be patient!
-Louis C.K.

I think this is pretty relevant.
My muse of the day is that I totally used to be one of those "UGH JUST DISCIPLINE YOUR KID LIKE DUH MY PARENTS WOULDVE BEAT ME FOR THAT!"
which is true.

But I feel that as I get older and hang out with more kids I'm like.. seriously.. are we frikin animals like we can teach a dog to do the tango with a clicker but it's still totally OK to beat our kids to teach them to not touch skittles at the supermarket.

I don't have kids.. and I understand that there is a difference between spanking (pulling a child away from something that could hurt them or something and tapping them on the hands or bum) and actual HITTING out of frustration "STOP TOUCHING THAT RIGHT NOW LETS GO!!"

but recently I've kind of been like.. why not just talk to them? Like perhaps kids wouldn't "be cruel" or bully if they didn't learn that the way to deal with issues was with hitting and screaming.

Fran and Meagan, I love you! DH and I had this convo again recently because he was amazed that I had never been hit by my parents. Never. He'd been hit so much that he has a hierarchy - apparently it's better to be hit with a spoon than a belt.

When I first met him, he was very pro-spanking. Now he's of the mindset that maybe it's something you use rarely when all else has failed or with "certain kinds of kids". I mentioned that I view it like training dogs a bit (i.e. why use punitive methods with kids if I don't with a DOG who I can't even talk to and why use punitive methods if a positive motivational method will accomplish the same thing) and you could see the wheels start moving in his head. Very cool.

Fran and Meagan, I love you! DH and I had this convo again recently because he was amazed that I had never been hit by my parents. Never. He'd been hit so much that he has a hierarchy - apparently it's better to be hit with a spoon than a belt.

This. I don't think that a lot of parents realize that it will drastically change your childs life, especially if it is continued through teenage years.

Also, I really want to clicker train a baby. REALLY BAD. And a toddler. Or rent a baby long enough to wait for it to be a toddler and clicker train it the whole way.

Is that weird?

Pretty sure I snagged a job as a waitress at a local bar/restaurant. They came up and offered me the job. Interview/something tomorrow at 5:30. So did a bank, actually, but their online system sucks, and the application I've been trying to fill out won't go through, so we are at a standstill.

So $10 an hour with constant hours, holidays off, and paid vacation at a job that makes me, my life, and relationship less stressed but is definitely new to me....or bust my butt as a waitress all night dealing with drunk people, grabby guys, being paid $2.30 an hour, but making a fortune and a half in tips in a job I already know?

For now, I'll probably end up still taking the waitress job, but keep looking to get a job at the bank. But...meh.

When I click the 'new posts' button it gives me an error

And the 'today's posts' button.

Hey, I know boston well enough-so instead of getting on the subway only to transfer a stop later, I'll just walk the 5 minutes to the next station....famous last words HAHAHA *cries*. 30 minutes later, finally gave in and got on at that darn stop. Later confirmed I had walked in the exact wrong direction. How was I so wrong? HOW?

Clearly Merlin needs to become my service dog to guide me about boston, kthx. :rofl1: