Why do you lurk?

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To those who have posted in my threads and who I haven't directly quoted/answered.. this is REALLY more of a me issue than a you issue lol
sometimes, I will quote someone or start thinking of an answer, get distracted and think I posted it and forget! Lol this happens A LOT!

I am also making more of an effort to post comments in threads I look at. Chances are, I am always commenting SOMETHING in my head and regardless of if I think it's helpful or really adds to the convo, I know getting comments, especially on picture threads, is fun :) and it's a little disheartening to see 10000 views and 1 comment lol

Oh and don't be afraid to share your opinion even if it isn't the popular. I have butted into threads countless times and said something I thought would be controversial, only for people to come out of the woodwork like "Oh me 2!" "I Agree!" lol this is a big forum..don't worry about being the only one or people picking on you, we love different opinions..they make things interesting.

Fun fact: there is no cool kids table. There is just a table full of people who post a lot about a lot so kind of are more familiar to each other just because of time and recognition. It's very easy to sit down at the table lol just post! Even if it seems silly, already said, weird...it helps make a mental log of things others know about you and "your voice" on the forum. There are already quite a few active very new members I find myself logging into my brain of internet peoplez lol the more you participate, the more I look at the username and feel I KNOW YOU enough to converse, bicker, respond etc..
 

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I just feel the need to chime in that in 9 pages, I think we've only brought 2 real lurkers out into the open! Hello Beachbum and lastkid!

I went through some of the posters and most people calling themselves lurkers still have 1+ (some even 2+ or 3+) posts per day! :yikes: I guess that would make me an ultra lurker, but I really don't think I am. :p

Just find it funny - in the "are you a lurker" thread, I was expecting to see a ton of new usernames - but nope, pretty much the same crowd! :lol-sign:
 

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I just feel the need to chime in that in 9 pages, I think we've only brought 2 real lurkers out into the open! Hello Beachbum and lastkid!

I went through some of the posters and most people calling themselves lurkers still have 1+ (some even 2+ or 3+) posts per day! :yikes: I guess that would make me an ultra lurker, but I really don't think I am. :p

Just find it funny - in the "are you a lurker" thread, I was expecting to see a ton of new usernames - but nope, pretty much the same crowd! :lol-sign:
Haha yeah...I was gonna say with the exception of 2-3 people, I "know" everyone who's posted on this thread...wanna see some new faces! Go look for that login password, people! Or if you guest-lurk, register and out yourselves! Jump in...it may be October but the water's fine :)
 

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I have periods of being very talkative and periods where I just Lurk... I've been on Chaz for almost 6 years now (whoa) and only have 5,000 something posts. I'm pretty quiet in real life and like to listen and observe more than talk - esp. if alot of people are talking at the same time.
 
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Not gonna lie, I'm kinda giggling over the people with more than 1000 posts talking about lurking.

But come on real lurkers! Come say hi! I really was hoping to get more than just one real lurker (HI! By the way! Looking forward to your intro thread!) and BeachBum (I recognized your username so you post enough for that!). We're fun and this is a perfect thread to kick into gear and start posting.

Also, it kinda freaks me out how many people read and know me and my dogs that I've never spoken to. So unfreak me out please.

As far as the clique thing that gets brought up I just don't think that's true. I agree with Fran, the more you post the more we know you and get a a feel for you. And you gotta remember, a lot of us are FB friends which helps a lot because we know eachother off of chaz too and read about daily life little things. And then you have the people that have met in real life or chat all the time off chaz so we do know eachother better.

But you only get there if you put yourself out there and post more, chat and joke around more.

Also, as silly as it is get yourself a sig and a userpicture because I know I at least have a seriously hard time remembering people if I have no picture/dog to pair with them.
 

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Not gonna lie, I'm kinda giggling over the people with more than 1000 posts talking about lurking.

But come on real lurkers! Come say hi! I really was hoping to get more than just one real lurker (HI! By the way! Looking forward to your intro thread!) and BeachBum (I recognized your username so you post enough for that!). We're fun and this is a perfect thread to kick into gear and start posting.

Also, it kinda freaks me out how many people read and know me and my dogs that I've never spoken to. So unfreak me out please.

As far as the clique thing that gets brought up I just don't think that's true. I agree with Fran, the more you post the more we know you and get a a feel for you. And you gotta remember, a lot of us are FB friends which helps a lot because we know eachother off of chaz too and read about daily life little things. And then you have the people that have met in real life or chat all the time off chaz so we do know eachother better.

But you only get there if you put yourself out there and post more, chat and joke around more.

Also, as silly as it is get yourself a sig and a userpicture because I know I at least have a seriously hard time remembering people if I have no picture/dog to pair with them.
Comparative lurking? ^^ I've been here longer than Fran - but she has almost double as many posts, for example. I used to post more though. I mostly post in the fire hydrant and lurk in the dog forum.
 

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Lol I am CERTAINLY not a lurker. I bust in to just about every thread I can

Oh and totally agree with Linds.. especially about the siggy pictures/icon. Those are mighty helpful lol
 

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Pretty much. There is a core group that is really close and sometimes it feels like you're interrupting when you post on a thread where they are having a conversation.
I guess if they want to have a real conversation where no one "interrupts," then they go use the telephone. LOL. Seriously, it's a forum and you're allowed to interrupt. ;)

I have posted a few threads and received a lackluster response.
I know Jenne. I'm sure everyone experiences the same thing from time to time, sometimes more often than imaginable. But, I suppose it's just really impossible to comment on a huge number of posts because there simply isn't time. It might work for everyone to keep an eye out for posts that don't get any response and then try to say a little something so no one feels left out.(?) I know it's more natural to comment on the ones that strike something in you or that you're more interested in....maybe that person has something in common with you so naturally, you reply to that one. It's a conundrum when there's so many members on here. :dunno:

On some forums there are reputation points or you can like a post. Something like that can make people feel better about posting if they are receiving that kind of feedback instead of people responding to their post. It can be abused though.
I think that's a really good idea!
 

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I really wish there was a LIKE button.
I way to say like "I agree with this" without needing to quote it and add something lol which is what stops me,even when I see a post I totally agree with!
 
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See, and I still worry that a "like" button would make the people who aren't inclined to post a lot post even less. So many people here will quote someone and say "I agree" but then go on to elaborate or bring new points to the table. If they have the option to just like something I think you'll see a mark decrease in posts.

There are a lot of times I wish I could just like someone's post but instead I go and post in it instead.
 

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See, and I still worry that a "like" button would make the people who aren't inclined to post a lot post even less. So many people here will quote someone and say "I agree" but then go on to elaborate or bring new points to the table. If they have the option to just like something I think you'll see a mark decrease in posts.

There are a lot of times I wish I could just like someone's post but instead I go and post in it instead.
that's true..
I just started to think about how much the "like" on facebook has stopped my actual interaction with people :rofl1:
 

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I don't see this either. I think the so called "in crowd" are just the people who post a lot and maybe are inclined to share more personal information. I enjoy those conversations, but it's something I find hard to do because I'm a really private person.
I tend to agree with you Beach bum about those who are probably more familiar with each other and it’s just natural for those people to volley back and forth more. And as far as your being a private person…nothing wrong with that. I can be quite open on some things but there are certain parts of my life I definitely keep private. I'm pretty confident though, that there are plenty of interesting threads that you could enjoy sharing your thoughts on with other people that won't disturb that private part of you.



I saw that picture and thought it was "darling", but of course, I didn't say anything
Heh, heh….Thanks Beach bum.:)
 

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Originally Posted by Linds
See, and I still worry that a "like" button would make the people who aren't inclined to post a lot post even less. So many people here will quote someone and say "I agree" but then go on to elaborate or bring new points to the table. If they have the option to just like something I think you'll see a mark decrease in posts.
There are a lot of times I wish I could just like someone's post but instead I go and post in it instead.
that's true..
I just started to think about how much the "like" on facebook has stopped my actual interaction with people
Oh now that's a thought. Hmmm....why didn't I think of that? I think it DID actually skim the surface of a few brain cells but it didn't materialize. That really might tend to make people feel like they've already done their thing. And it's just one word...."like." Ummmm, yep...and what else? Could you elaborate??? LOL. Okay, no like button. lol.
 

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I just feel the need to chime in that in 9 pages, I think we've only brought 2 real lurkers out into the open! Hello Beachbum and lastkid!

I went through some of the posters and most people calling themselves lurkers still have 1+ (some even 2+ or 3+) posts per day! :yikes: I guess that would make me an ultra lurker, but I really don't think I am. :p

Just find it funny - in the "are you a lurker" thread, I was expecting to see a ton of new usernames - but nope, pretty much the same crowd! :lol-sign:
I think there are two breeds of lurkers. One: the lurkers who haven't joined yet or have but the vast percentage of their time on Chaz is lurking, not posting. They may have posted a handful of times or they haven't posted at all yet.

And the second type is people who post a bunch but intermittently lurk for various stretches of time...from a few minutes or hours intermittently to days, weeks or even months. But then they pop back in and post.

Lurking is hanging around and looking at something. But it doesn't really define the length of time spent lurking or whether or not it's a constant. So, that's how I come to my conclusion. :D
 

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Now you've made me sensitive about my post count.

I DO HAVE A LIFE!!
I SWEAR!! LOL
 

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I'm kinda laughing at how many people are posting today - this is the liveliest I've seen Chaz in a really long time. I like it.
 

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DOBER NO SPIDER PICTURES. Lol.



I really hate the word clique - to me it implies that people are being exclusive and horrible on purpose. And, at least on Chaz, I think (hope) that's very rarely the case. It's more that a lot of people know each other very well (more than most people on the internet) and threads are more like a conversation than a...thread. I guess.



I think everyone has this at some point. I've seen longstanding member threads (including mine) go completely unanswered. Unfortunately part of being on the internet is not letting it get to you - I do better some days than others. I think a like button would help out a lot.
Yes, it is a must to not let it get you down too much. And it doesn't get me down usually, but sometimes it does a little. I think that varies a bit though, depending on what else went wrong that day. :rofl1: Or if one little thing is of particular importance to you at the time. I'm pretty sure anyone on a forum like this has to have a little resilience or they couldn't last too long. On the other hand, for those who do like to converse...who don't get any acknowledgement....well then, there's no pay off for being on the forum. That probably doesn't hold true for people who genuinely just like to read, but not say much.


Do you have a cute, annimated welcome gif that doesn't have a spider in it? LOL. Does it really creep you out? If it does that to anyone with a spider phobia, I won't use it anymore. I just thought it was cute, like Charlotte in Charlotte's web.
 

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