I hate bimbos

Yes Lyzelle, Exactly.

and Ya, pretty much this. I did NOT say I am against people being happy or having a optimistic outlook on life. One person in recent memory that I know personally fits my definition of "bimbo" more than anything else; She's very sunny, perky, and 'happy'. Her default mode is happy - it's very childlike almost. Even her best friend admits that she is "more than abit of a idiot". She is superficial, has about as much depth as a wading pool, and her giddiness is....unnerving.

I choose calm optimism for myself rather than all-out cheer and expectation...I've tried it - it only results in whatever I was looking forward to or happy about breaking into a thousand pieces. The more hope I hold - the harder I will fall. It's alot more comfortable (for me) to just be cautiously optimistic with a dash of pessimism and emotional reserve - calmness, indifference, and lucidity are things I always strive for. If it's a good day - I'm inclined to enjoy it and appreciate the fact that it is indeed a good day for me; But if it's the day from hell - personally, I find that picking out the little things that did go ok on said day make me more depressed and uncomfortable ('At least I have my health') for some reason. *shrugs* I feel alot less anxious and on edge if I'm this way versus having a sunny attitude.

Again, I do NOT condemn or dump on people that choose to be happy or have a chipper attitude in life.

You want to be happy? Great
You ARE happy? Wonderful!
You like being optimistic, sunny, and cheerful? Mazel Tov!
You appreciate others whom are like that? Sure
You disagree strongly with me? Of course, please go right ahead!

This.

Me too! Especially at work, I get a lot of compliments about having such a good attitude. I am not going to let other people being bothered by me being happy make me stop being happy.

I come off as an airhead quite a lot of the time. It's my brand of humor. I like being cheerful and goofy and funny and weird. Not to toot my own horn, but I was also a straight A student and have a degree in a pretty challenging field (mathematics). I don't think I am an airhead.

I have known some people that initially come off very very shallow and one sided. I have also written them off on more than one occasion at first. It was my fault for judging them right away when all I had was an image and notion of who they were. Some of the happiest, most perfect looking people (outwardly) that I know have also had some of the biggest struggles.

One good friend of mine is an ex collegiate cheerleader that has the attitude to match. She's always smiling, bubbly, happy, perky. She's the type of person to do a cartwheel for no reason and she has many times. She's also got a masters in physics. Heck, I know two cheerleaders with masters in physics actually.

We were actually talking at work today about a girl that used to work at the food court for our building. They moved her to the coffee shop. Everyone was sad she was moved because she is so nice, friendly, and happy every day. A good attitude rubs off on people imo.

For the record, I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and was on antidepressants. It did take me years to get out of it. And I will be honest it was mostly an attitude change that got me out of it. Focusing on the good and being more proactive about my life.

I'm NOT trying to preach. But I hate when people decide just because of ____ then I have never struggled in my life or never been unhappy. I still struggle with some things, even daily. Changing my attitude was the best thing I could have ever done. It still catches me more often than I'd like. But there is a lot of progress and I feel more coming.

Even when I was suffering from severe depression, I never showed it to people outside. I was always smiley, friendly, bubbly, and happy LOOKING. But I really wasn't. It's a very big assumption to think they have never experienced true unhappiness.

I don't know if it's just me reading into things or if you do it on purpose or maybe by accident but in so many of your posts Stephy you come off sounding demeaning, insulting and self righteous more times than not.

You seem to back pedal after the first couple posts but I've noticed a trend of you coming off very sanctimonious initially and putting a lot of people on the defensive.

If you do it on purpose ok, continue on doing so but on the off chance you don't mean things the way you word them I wanted to try and bring it to your attention why the things you say get taken like they do. Maybe I'm stepping out of line here, it's quite possible and if so I apologize but so many of your posts rub me the wrong way even if it's something I don't necessarily disagree with.

I don't think you're off. I'm not a fan of these kind of OPs.

Haha maybe that explains it!

I get a lot of chuckles around here since my default greeting is still a big old 'Howdy!' with a smile.

I deal with what I consider bimbos all day. But I didn't think it was happy people.

My conversation with what I consider a bimbo:
Me: Ok mam can I get your name?
Customer: Uh yeah sure...
Minute later
Me: Mam?
Customer: Yeah I'm calling for... do you need my account name?
Me: No mam I just need your name your account came up.
Customer: Uhhh. hahah My name is.... Uhhhh... What did you need?

Daily occurrence -.-

I'm not super happy or bubbly but most things don't bug me. It takes a LOT to get me upset to the point that it's obvious. It's not because I'm not able to understand what's going on or I want to avoid everything. But it's because a few years ago I realized I was wasting a ton of time worrying and stressing over things that couldn't be fixed with either of those behaviors.

If I can fix it I'll work on it. If I can't then loosing sleep, stressing, or being outwardly anxiety ridden won't help any way.

Oh no not at all. I know I have esoteric views on things and am aware that I would take heat for voicing them publicly and in a very unreserved fashion. My intention is not to demean, insult, or preach - but if it's taken that way...there's not much I can do about it.

It's not your views no matter how out there you think they are, it's the way you present them. At least to me.

Oooh Shai, the amount of ways I love you for that Princess Bride gif are so numerous.

I mentioned that I knew I would take heat for expressing them in the fashion which I do. I'll try to keep your points in mind but again - there's not much I can do if people find offense in me or my views/presentation style. On here, anywhere else, or in person.

Shai,

People have different definitions of things. Eccentric perhaps then?

Well your views are your views, but someone can always do something about their presentation style. Especially online where you have all the time in the world to edit your posts.

Anyone else a bit put off by "redefining" words?

No, no when I say Cheetah I mean ---->

exactly....there are some terms I understand can have different sub meanings and I do agree that not everyone mean bimbo in the sexual way (though it really is implied with the word) but esoteric?

es·o·ter·ic/ˌesəˈterik/
Adjective:
Intended for or likely to be understood by only a small number of people with a specialized knowledge or interest.
Synonyms:
occult - private - mystic

Maybe we are just not enlightened?

Anyway, back to the original topic. I'm not talking about people who are friendly or have a positive outlook, or who maintain a good attitude in the face of adversity, or stuff like that. But there is a sort of... affected cheerfulness or zaniness that I can only take so much of. Has nothing to do with intelligence and it's not like I hate the person, I just find the behavior exhausting to be around.

But I am not the most effusive person in the world, positively or negatively.

It's because you're too cheery, it causes brain devouring stupidity. :yikes:

It's a very individual thing to define what is/is not strange, sad, esoteric, eccentric, odd and so forth.

What is one's fantasy could be another's nightmare. One's tragedy could be a cause for celebration to the person next to you. What's a incredibly bizarre way of life for one is just another day for another.

I don't exactly redefine these sorts of terms. As I don't think they have a very solid general application to begin with - to the individual yes. As a general label....again, I believe it's very individual.