Breastfeeding in public

I guess I feel that just because something bothers me in public doesn't mean that its not "ok." I would think that it was weird, but not necessarily wrong. I'm also bothered by loud talkers, people who smell funny, people with visible nose hair, people with lots of ugly tattoos, people who are way too tan, smokers, etc. However, these things are part of living among other people. So my choices are to bitch about it, never leave the house, or pull up my big girl pants and learn to reframe my way of thinking and teach myself to get over things. The latter seems the most effective to me.....

Yes, I understand all of this and it kind of makes my point for me. It bothers me that the description of a story by a person who disagrees with the majority opinion is minimized, ignored, dismissed, or outright called an exaggeration while the dozens personal or eyewitness accounts of discreetly breastfeeding women shared in this thread aren't questioned at all. Nobody's saying "well I don't know that I believe your kid's head blocks your nipple."

There are obnoxious, irritating breastfeeding mothers just like there are obnoxious, irritating people of every demographic. If you actually want people who aren't very accepting of breastfeeding in public to be more accepting of it, selective hearing and minimizing obnoxious behavior doesn't help build any bridges. *shrug*

i mean idk any kids who head cant hide a nipple and if your kids doesnt :yikes: :rofl1:

I question because Ive seen people go off on someone saying its gross when they are USING A COVER I couldnt even tell the mom was breastfeeding until this guy made a stink about it. Ive had people come up to me and complain when you cant see any more then you can see of THEIR butt or boobs with my husband and others that were around saying that you could see more of them then me.

I was just using it as an example.



And that makes a negative story untrue because... ??

no but with the attitude shes presented it makes me question. Just like if someone said ALL choke collars are mean and said someone was hanging their dog correcting them would you really believe they were hanging them without some sort of proof?

Just an example of how you can breastfeed in public without the world seeing *gasp* boob skin without a cover.

Well I'm going to go on record as saying that I think letting your toddler age child slap your boobs around to the point that they are spraying milk in a coffee shop isn't ok. I really don't want to live in a world where nothing is ok.

Now having said that, we are all on the internet in a thread discussing breastfeeding in public, so I'm... discussing breastfeeding in public. That doesn't mean that in real life I don't get over things, not sure how people keep getting from A to B there. I'm sure whether I'm put off by someone's behavior wouldn't have any effect whatsoever on their lives even if they knew that I WAS put off, and me discussing it in the Hypothetical Land of the internet certainly isn't going to.

First, can we please refrain from going off on tangents as to how much of "crap" formula is? I think we're all well aware that breast milk is best, but to refer to formula as the lowest of low forms of "crap" just further belittles and hurts mothers who truly had no other choice. I'm not trying to be mean, but the comments in this thread just go to show how "innocent" statements are slaps in the face to other parents. Why? Because if formula is such crap, and even puppies are fed better, what does that say about the mothers who feed it to their infants? Such an implication implies there was/is an alternative that was seemingly willfully ignored. Sure, I could've bought expressed breast milk from random strangers who bottle it and sell it, but I suppose we just couldn't afford the $3-6 per ounce that is charge for such (not to mention to real governing regulations/laws for the mothers nor complete testing of all donated milk). If women were forced to buy such, it would cost, on average, $9-18 per feeding for a single 3 oz. feeding, and $18-36 for a single 6 oz. feeding. I'm pretty sure not many people could afford such costly feedings, especially when an infant eats 6-8 times in a 24 hour period.

Breeze, am I wrong to say that I love that pic? Especially since Savannah is giving everyone the bird? :rofl1:

I didn't actually disbelieve this, LOL. As I said, I was just using it as an example of a statement that's been made.

But why is it a breastfeeding issue? Why is it not a parent not controlling an obnoxious child issue?

Yes, I do think that the story sounds exaggerated. Why? Well, the poster telling clearly thinks that women who breastfeed in public need to cover themselves or hide in a corner. People are obviously more sensitive to things that offend them, therefore its going to be harder for them to be objective about it. I don't question that a baby's head covers a nipple because I've seen it happen.

But why is it a breastfeeding issue? Why is it not a parent not controlling an obnoxious child issue?

Yes, I do think that the story sounds exaggerated. Why? Well, the poster telling clearly thinks that women who breastfeed in public need to cover themselves or hide in a corner. People are obviously more sensitive to things that offend them, therefore its going to be harder for them to be objective about it. I don't question that a baby's head covers a nipple because I've seen it happen.

Quoting myself here to add, I don't just feel this way because its breastfeeding. If a poster went on and on about how they disliked beagles and them told a story about an obnoxious beagles, I would take that story with a grain of salt as well.

above are all mentions of sitting in a corner out of everyones eye sight basically and feeding and use a cover.


These are all different women breastfeeding that can be construed as letting their boob hang out. SOme more then others.







how many of these are inappropriate?

Darkchild,

You are taking absolutely EVERYTHING I have said in this thread out of context. It's comical, really. It appears you have missed the point of every single one of my posts.

Also, you can't talk about "attitude" when during this entire thread you have been nasty and condescending towards those you are debating with.


I have said numerous times that I have no issue with a woman who is being discreet and modest about breastfeeding her child. Does that mean she has to sit in a corner? No, that is just the example I used. There are many ways to be discreet and modest while breastfeeding.

I do have issue with women who breastfeed like the woman I saw in Starbucks. And it's hilarious that just because my story validifies MY point that a woman can obnoxiously breastfeed, that I must be "exaggerating" or "lying". You have spoke numerous times of discreet breastfeeding and I have not doubted your claims. Don't doubt my valid point just because you don't want to admit that a breastfeeding mother can indeed cross a line and can indeed be obnoxious. It's also comical that just because I said something to her, then that must make me disrespectful. No, she earned what I said to her by being disrespectful to those around her. You preach and preach about people having the right to breastfeed in public, but what about my freedom of speech to say something about it when they do it obnoxiously?

Darkchild,

You are taking absolutely EVERYTHING I have said in this thread out of context. It's comical, really. It appears you have missed the point of every single one of my posts.

Also, you can't talk about "attitude" when during this entire thread you have been nasty and condescending towards those you are debating with.


I have said numerous times that I have no issue with a woman who is being discreet and modest about breastfeeding her child. Does that mean she has to sit in a corner? No, that is just the example I used. There are many ways to be discreet and modest while breastfeeding.

I do have issue with women who breastfeed like the woman I saw in Starbucks. And it's hilarious that just because my story validifies MY point that a woman can obnoxiously breastfeed, that I must be "exaggerating" or "lying". You have spoke numerous times of discreet breastfeeding and I have not doubted your claims. Don't doubt my valid point just because you don't want to admit that a breastfeeding mother can indeed cross a line and can indeed be obnoxious. It's also comical that just because I said something to her, then that must make me disrespectful. No, she earned what I said to her by being disrespectful to those around her. You preach and preach about people having the right to breastfeed in public, but what about my freedom of speech to say something about it when they do it obnoxiously?